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Funeral directors share our private road - AIBU about what I saw yesterday?

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Habbyhadno · 11/03/2026 22:09

This is such a random post but…

I live at the top of a private road just off a main road in a small town. At the main road end we have a funeral directors that faces the street, the building is tiny and it’s a branch of another directors in a neighbouring town where the directors is very much a shop front.

I thought this one would be the same, but they do seem to store bodies in there. We’ve had a fair few hearses park on our road as we turn into it (at the side of the shop), I literally have to squeeze my car up the road as obviously hearses take up a lot of space and the road isn’t wide at all, it’s a bit of an inconvenience but whatever.

However, last night me and my three kids 6,8 and 12 were heading out and we were all walking down the road and I spy a private ambulance with the back door open and clearly two bodies were in black bags in the back of the van.

There were two people out there about to start manoeuvring the bodies into the building, but I’m a bit icked out by it all, I don’t really think the kids need to see that and I felt a bit weird about seeing it (there’s not any other way we could have gone as the road is small and there was no getting away from it).

Do you think I should pop in and speak to them about being aware of who is around when they are unloading bodies or AIBU? I just feel like they could make the operation a bit more concealed rather than hoiking them out literally in the street, it seems a bit disrespectful and it’s been playing on my mind. What do I do?

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Sevenwondersofthewoo · 16/03/2026 22:07

Topsy19 · 14/03/2026 18:34

I had the same experience where I used to live - and it was inappropriate imo especially as local school children were passing by. Consider contacting your local councillor to complain. Take no notice of the people saying it wouldn't bother them because it definitely WOULD especially if it was in front of their children.

Nope didn’t bother them at all they asked questions I answered age related and they bowed their heads whilst they moved the person in their body bag.

plus contacting your who councillor for what exactly.

Alwaysalert · 18/03/2026 14:18

nomas · 12/03/2026 11:45

Death is upsetting but as someone who has had to manage the more upsetting parts of caring for my parents, it's not always nice to be the one left to manage everything whilst siblings go and hide.

There was nothing to manage at that time, as the Undertakers were upstairs in the process of bringing my Mother downstairs to put in the van. I did not wish to see or hear this as I personally find the idea of your loved one in a bag distressing and unplatable. My feelings. All admin was managed by me before and after the funeral.

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