Funeral directors share our private road - AIBU about what I saw yesterday?

[Habbyhadno]

This is such a random post but…

I live at the top of a private road just off a main road in a small town. At the main road end we have a funeral directors that faces the street, the building is tiny and it’s a branch of another directors in a neighbouring town where the directors is very much a shop front.

I thought this one would be the same, but they do seem to store bodies in there. We’ve had a fair few hearses park on our road as we turn into it (at the side of the shop), I literally have to squeeze my car up the road as obviously hearses take up a lot of space and the road isn’t wide at all, it’s a bit of an inconvenience but whatever.

However, last night me and my three kids 6,8 and 12 were heading out and we were all walking down the road and I spy a private ambulance with the back door open and clearly two bodies were in black bags in the back of the van.

There were two people out there about to start manoeuvring the bodies into the building, but I’m a bit icked out by it all, I don’t really think the kids need to see that and I felt a bit weird about seeing it (there’s not any other way we could have gone as the road is small and there was no getting away from it).

Do you think I should pop in and speak to them about being aware of who is around when they are unloading bodies or AIBU? I just feel like they could make the operation a bit more concealed rather than hoiking them out literally in the street, it seems a bit disrespectful and it’s been playing on my mind. What do I do?

Except you didn’t find one, you failed to fact check and instead put the wrong one up - a transparent one.

Did you REALLY think people’s bodies were put into transparent bags? Did you not notice that this bag you posted fell under “mortuary equipment” and “cold rooms”

This post has been done before. Why can’t people be more imaginative…

If ever the laughing emoji was needed….

Imagine taking that call!!

Some even have open coffin funerals

I have read this exact post a couple of years ago. Weird.

I highly doubt OP could see the head and feet - more likely because she knows the shape of a human body she could see which end was which.

Open coffin funerals? We sit and eat sandwiches and drink tea next to the open coffin in the living room 😂
Plus the obligatory kiss on the cheek!

Some people are so far removed from basic human functions.

How would you expect them to be transported? Invisibility cloaks?

Death isn’t unnatural or offensive, it’s life’s only guarantee and it’s ridiculous to be so sensitive around death

I agree, it's not that death is not part of life, it's the lack of dignity for the deceased. It would certainly put me off using that funeral director.

Where’s the lack of dignity?

@Estersouthwester
”And as for it being a “rhetorical question” (as opposed to a non-rhetorical one) do you even know what that is? And how do posters deduce which is which?”

I fear we all knew except you it seems.

What a great post. When I was six, we were staying at an aunt's place, which was a nursing home. One morning, I was walking around the corridors and there was a door open, with an old lady lying very still on a bed, with the bedclothes pulled up to her neck. She looked very peaceful, so I went back to our room and asked my mum if she was dead. She then had a talk to me about it. I wasn't at all freaked out about it, as others have said, death is the end part of life.

No, I’m in the South East. Seems like a common occurrence though.

I wouldn't mind it at all. A funeral parlour would be a damn sight quieter than most of my neighbours.

My Italian catholic friend sat overnight all night when her mum died, with her sisters in the same room, just sat there with her mum dead in the bed until morning.

Im Jewish and we do funerals within 48 hours of death, there’s no time to worry how people are transported and if the local residents are alarmed by a dead body within spitting distance

Please do explain how it lacks dignity, could OP identify either of the two deceased?

What would be a more dignified way of putting a body into/out of a funeral parlour?

Yep it probably is!

So, accept it and move on?

Yes! When my little one died we had them at home, in an open casket. I slept in that room for a few days with them. The neighbours would have seen the casket arriving, maybe leaving. Death comes to all of us and sometimes you encounter it. If you live in the same road as a funeral home, maybe more often.

I grew up in a funeral home and all this was very normal to me, if we wanted ‘mummy’ when we little, we’d find her tending to a deceased person so perhaps my opinion on it is skewed somewhat! Were the bodies in BB’s? If so, I’m not sure what the problem is and I think you’re being a bit precious?

You say you’re ‘icked’ out by it? Please don’t present that to your children, death is the only thing we’re all guaranteed to be affected by, make it a positive normal thing. Which it is.

Good point. I never minded the idea of living next to a cemetery (as long as it wasn't one where less than desirable people hung out at night). You couldn't have better neighbours. :-)

To me, it's the transfer of a deceased person via a body bag, across a public street. Body bags may disguise the remains but do unfortunately resemble bin-bags which is what I mean by lack of dignity.
If the remains were moved in the metal coffins that would be more dignified.

Death

Please, the 'D word'

Metal coffins? Really?

I think you need to realise that doesn’t happen and get used to the reality!

Ah quoted wrong post.