Hens still havent paid me back?

[MyPurpleHeart]

I'm going away on a hen trip for my cousins wedding. When we booked it I paid for the brides share up front with the agreement the hens would pay me their share back. This was 6 months ago. We are a month out and despite me asking a few times, none of the hens have paid me yet. AIBU to ask for this to be paid within the next week? I have expenses for the trip which I was planning to cover with this that I cant yet. For context its around £400

send another reminder in the group… and then list who has paid and ask them to add their names to this

hi all, see below for my sort code / acc number. to help me track when I can xyz please add your name to the list below when you have paid

1. me - paid
2. Non CF 1 - paid
3. non CF 2 - paid

nothing works like a little public naming and shaming. Sorry but if you want your money back then…

If you have a group chat to need to be formal and explicit.

Hi all,
There are still some outstanding balances to be paid as below. Please could you pay owed balance to sort code xxx and account number xxx by 18/03.

Laura £50
Katie £50
Myself PAID
and so on

And then a private friendly individual message with similar.

Hi Laura,

Just a reminder that we all agreed to pay £50 each towards the cost of xx.

I would really appreciate it if you could send me your contribution as it has now been 6 months.
My account details are:
xxxx

Honestly, the longer time goes on the less accountable people seem to feel. So be direct!

What if you told them if they don't pay up, their tickets are cancelled?

It sounds like they all paid for themselves which is why I think the OP is now struggling to get the money for her shared room with the hen.

You must send an email/text with a final DEADLINE, and you bank details. Don’t be pussy footing around. Be business like. Final reminders or say I am assuming you won’t be coming if not paid by this date. Initial deposits are non refundable and are used against any costs already incurred. Some shit like that. Crack on!

They've all paid for themselves so that is not an option. It is just the bride's share, which OP covered, that hasn't been reimbursed by the other hens.

Message on the chat - and add the bride of she is not on it

‘Hey all
The brides share -£400- you all agreed to pay has still not been paid by nearly all of you -it’s £20 each for x 20 of you (list all the names )
So, sorry bride, but if the 400 outstanding is not paid by everyone then you will all have to decide between yourselves and whether I cancel to the trip or you (Bride) pay for yourself

Have a think and let me know if Im cancelling or you guys/bride are sending the 400 over.
Do by this date. If I hear nothing will assume all off and cancel

cheers all

You need to tag them all now or create a poll where they can tick against their name when they've paid. I'd also say that the bride will have to cover any shortfall and strongly imply that you will let her know who hasn't paid

Surely you've been direct and sorted this now?

Yes OP have you addressed this yet??

I honestly thought this was about non-laying poultry. Couldn’t have been more wrong! 😂

Could you get the hens to pay you in eggs?

A messsge on the group app saying if I’m not paid in the next few days I will be telling the Bride she needs to pay for it herself

I know you all agreed to pay but why do people share the brides cost - I never have

we all share and pay - Bride included

why should she get a free weekend away

I would do a follow up message that unless you receive the outstanding payments by the end of today, x event will be cancelled as there is insufficient money to cover it.

They have paid for themselves so the event can't be cancelled on that basis.
They've not paid an extra £20 each, which they had agreed to, to cover the brides' share.
So if they don't pay, either the bride does or OP does. L

I think you need to warn the bride that she may be paying for herself

Update ?

So I have an update!

I sent out the message, saying it was time to pay the piper and I need this settled. I got a few payments pretty quickly which was great.

There were a few that tried to long it out until payday but I did push back and they all paid up.

Ive literally got two left to pay, both have which have given me a date in the next two days. So fingers crossed we will be settled up by the time the hen comes around.

Thankyou all for the help and the push in the right direction. Lesson learned, I wont be doing that again!

Glad you have most of money

I was pleased to read your update info, I am glad that most of your group have paid up. It has taken some of them a long time to sort it for you.

Congratulations! I'm still owed money for my friend's hen do in 2001, I saw the three culprits at her second wedding last year and glared ferociously at them in remembrance if their debt.

‘Time to pay the piper’

I like it. Glad you’ve got almost all the money. People can be very cheeky when it comes to 💰

Blimey they're so cheeky. Bet they spend that on just eat!

Hi folks, third time of asking, but due to radio silence regarding my first two requests I need to be absolutely clear ... please pay x into my bank account (bank details) by Friday, date, at the latest. If you dont send me your contribution, as agreed, I will need to ask bride to pay your share.

Glad you got the money back OP! I was out of pocket £100 for best friends 40th birthday meal as I stupidly said I would sort the bill and people didn’t all pay what they owed! But to save her any stress on the night covered it and never told her as the cheapskates were all her ‘newer’ friends who I don’t know very well.