Hens still havent paid me back?

[MyPurpleHeart]

I'm going away on a hen trip for my cousins wedding. When we booked it I paid for the brides share up front with the agreement the hens would pay me their share back. This was 6 months ago. We are a month out and despite me asking a few times, none of the hens have paid me yet. AIBU to ask for this to be paid within the next week? I have expenses for the trip which I was planning to cover with this that I cant yet. For context its around £400

I know this is silly but from the title I thought you were expecting eggs.

I would reply saying thanks to these people, and name them. then list all those who are still outstanding. Learn a lesson here op. Never ever pay for other people ever.

Well that is great you could manage to pay for yourself but your comment is not helpful. The Group in question decided to pay for the bride and the OP put the money up front. She should not be out of pocket. Why can you not give a helpful response rather than a negative one. Alternatively, do not bother to respond at all if you cannot be bothered to read answers.

And here's me thinking this post was going to be about the economics of keeping chickens....🤭

I thought this post would turn out to be about someone with unproductive chickens.

Tell them as they haven't paid then you're forced to cancel and someone else can organise something.

They aren't going to pay you OP.

never pay upfront

tho a little to late for that now

be blunt and say all owe me x amount and give bank details

why has been 6mths

You need to remind them or you will just end up with a resentment which will spoil the experience ;and your relationships were they aware at the outset what was expected in terms of their contribution ? Does it feel like they are taking advantage of you?
maybe this is a valuable lesson in the perils of paying for things you are not responsible for it’s always good to look at the parts we play in the evolution of the situation do you have a history of enabling/being a door-mat?

Let it be an important lesson to never book without getting money upfront.

If you don’t get payment in the next week from everyone I would cancel everything. Get as much money back as you can.

Never ever ever pay for a group activity up front and out of your own money. Get the money off people before booking.

I hope the rest cough up. Have you told the bride @MyPurpleHeart ?

You keep saying this but clearly they dont actually want to pay if you're having to nag and whine at them constantly!

Whenever someone else has paid my share for something I have always paid them back within 24 hours because I'd feel awful otherwise. The fact theyve left it 6 months is rather indicative that it was mostly all talk and they dont really want to go.

You need to go hard now, tell them they pay up or the whole thing is off.

If they don’t want to pay then the bride needs to reimburse you.

£400 is loads, but £20 is only a little. They've probably not done the maths and gone 20X£20 is £400. They probably just think they can give you £20 on the day because it's not a lot. I think you need to be blunt with something like "hi everyone, I have spent £400 on this and have only had X amount paid to me. I can't afford to be Y amount down, so if everyone else doesn't pay by (date), the last date I can get a refund, I will need to cancel the trip to get the money refunded".

I would go with the maths option.

"Hey all, I still need the payments from XYZ etc. To you its "just twenty quid" but to me, having paid for everyone it adds up to £400 so I need it within the week"

They all agreed in advance.

Tell them the willy straw budget is gone! And the blow-up man won’t be happening…

And not 1 of those 20 people have paid the extra £20 to cover the brides share of the trip?. Yet you say that some of these people had their share paid for when it was their own hen trip?. I would try and embarrass them and remind them that they got their hen trip paid for by the rest of you.

This is why I've stopped organising stuff.

People just take the piss.

Sorry you’re going through this OP! After being burnt in the past I now organise group events by working out what to do, doing a rough cost pp and then asking for that in instalments with the agreement that anything left over gets put behind the bar or into a kitty. You just can’t rely on people to pay up otherwise!

Are you saying there are 20 people and not a single person has paid you?

I would do this too on the email - list of names with paid:not paid and update -

personally though I do think the bride should pay but I guess you have a precedence with others

Try sending individual requests as opposed to a group message requesting. Sometimes if people think it is just them that hasn't paid they may be more likely to pay if makes sense. Or send a group one saying thank you so much to those who have paid their share. Bride will really appreciate this and it's not possible for one person to take the hit. Saying thank you to those who have already paid even when no one has may help get the others to get a wriggle on. Or maybe even a step further and say eg Sarah the bride is very grateful and wants to thank you all individually once the weekend is over. Let them think Sarah the bride will know exactly who has and hasn't paid!

So did I 😂 I thought hens had been purchased and not laid a single egg

@MyPurpleHeart is it a WhatsApp chat? If so name and shame!