Hens still havent paid me back?

[MyPurpleHeart]

I'm going away on a hen trip for my cousins wedding. When we booked it I paid for the brides share up front with the agreement the hens would pay me their share back. This was 6 months ago. We are a month out and despite me asking a few times, none of the hens have paid me yet. AIBU to ask for this to be paid within the next week? I have expenses for the trip which I was planning to cover with this that I cant yet. For context its around £400

Too late now but all shoukd be sent upfront people are shit I paid for everything its my wedding my should anyone be out of pocket

This is perfect. Send this.

Tight twats £20 each and they’re hanging on good luck on the hen weekend is all I can say

Well that would be bonkers considered they've already paid their £400 to attend, and the OP is only asking them to pay £20 each to cover the bride's £400....

OP - hopefully you've had some more payments by now. I second other people's suggestion that you actively start naming people who have paid/not paid. And be very clear that you are seriously out of pocket because nobody has paid you back.

At the end of the week then start direct messaging them to put more pressure on. In a group of 20 you’re easier to ignore.

something like….

”Hi X. Hope you’re well. You may not have seen I requested the payment by the end of this week. I appreciate it isn’t a massive amount individually but collectively I’m out of pocket £400. Could you please transfer me your share today as most others have paid? Thanks so much.”

YANBU but I’m disappointed this isn’t about chickens being absolute piss taking free loaders.

Good luck

🤣

They know this information and have ignored it.

God that’s awful! It’s £20, it’s just awful not to pay it!

agree that you need to send a group message and individually too. Something along the lines of

hey ladies, this is getting a bit awkward now but I really need that payment from each of you. Please send me the money by x date to x account as we all agreed 👍

Apologies, I only read your initial post and none of the updates. Totally agree with you if it was mutually agreed with the others. Give a time limit and if not, name and shame!

They're taking the piss. If the condition of coming to the event was that they would split the bride's share between everybody (rightly or wrongly), then they had the option of refusing to do this upfront six months ago. Instead, they're taking the sneaky route and seeing if they can get away with not paying it.

You shouldn’t have to keep asking. Twice is more than enough (and this is quite a lot of messages to be sending around to multiple people).

If you have the option, tell everybody that unless they get the money into your account by a certain deadline, that they're not coming. Don't expect them to happy about it, but don't make any exceptions, or you'll never see that money.

This. For me it signifies a high chance of trouble & drama at the event.

This. Repeated, until you get paid.

I hope you get your money OP.

In your next reminder, you need to say something like...

As agreed 6 months ago, you each owe me £20 as we were able to split x's cost between 20 of us. So far only 3 people have paid their £20, so I'm still £340 out of pocket. Thank you to a, b and c who have kindly paid their share. I look forward to receiving the rest by the end of the week.

Same!

Some good suggestions here for firm direct message asking for the money.
It doesn’t matter if they didn’t think they should have to pay for the bride! If that was the case they should have spoken up at the time like the grown women they are and not left you to shoulder the full share of the brides cost.

Is it just the hens payment you are missing or have they not paid for their own place? Seems a bit odd if they are just not paying the £20 as surely that would have been tagged onto the overall price and paid before booking. Based on you saying you are owed £400 I would imagine then they were asked to pay £420 to cover them and contribute towards the hen. If they have paid their share, were they asked later for the hen contribution?

First post nails it. They are CFs!

OP has already explained:

"We all booked separately, in groups of 2 or 3. All they have paid so far is for themselves. I booked the bride and myself to share a room. We all paid the same rate per person as we all booked at the same time. It was agreed before hand that the brides share would be split evenly,"

Then this was the mistake. Surely they should have made a group booking...unless this breaches the terms and conditions of the hotel.

I genuinely, honestly thought this was going to be about eggs

I’d be fuming too OP. Everyone agreed they were happy to pay an extra £20 for the bride, so they need to pay. Have any more than the three paid up today since your last post?

Of those who have paid, could you privately message them and ask them to post a “I’ve paid” type message in the group chat…it will just add on the pressure for the others. I’ve deployed that tactic a few times and it’s amazing how quickly others start paying up too