Should we be paying for both brides?

[ohbaby70]

Friend getting married next year. Both women. They want a joint hen do abroad. They have asked us not to cover their costs because there are two of them. Maid of Honour wants us to pay anyway. Everyone else agrees. AIBU to think it’s a bit much? It’s an extra £100.

If it matters, there are 20 of us going and it’s for three nights in Greece.

If everyone else has agreed then I’m afraid you’ll look an absolute arse being the only one refusing to. And you have to spend a weekend with these people.

If you genuinely can’t afford it then have a quiet word with the organiser and offer to pay what you can.

if someone has a spare 20k to treat themselves, what would be "reasonable" in your opinion?

If you have to sell a child or a kidney, then of course it's ridiculous.

Nobody is going to think someone is homophobic because they’re happy to pay £1000 for a hen do, but think another £100 each is pushing it 😂

If I had to pay £1000 to go on a hen do I wouldn't be going anyway.

Just say no thanks. Everyone else is probably feeling the same.

Expecting your friends to pay 1000 to celebrate with you is more than enough. It's the principle. The MoH is just looking for a pat on the back from the happy couple.

Do not make a contribution to LGBTQ. You haven't done anything wrong.

It's like the gays are new to you.

OP is their friend. OP might even be going with her own wife/gf. Imagine that!

Well quite.

Why people agree in the first place is beyond me.

Does it cover flight, accommodation & all food at least?

Will the group naturally split into smaller groups or will a lot of time be wasted trying to get 20 people t agree on activities?

This except then the cost of the brides is on top so it's £22,000.

I went to Greece with friends last year for 4 nights. Was less than £500 each for flights and accommodation in the centre of Athens.

That is exactly what I thought. I don't really go along with the idea of hen dos and have never been to one or had one, but surely the idea is that you are having one last bash as an unmarried person, without your other half? If the couple go away together with their friends that's just a group holiday. Or an extended part of the wedding.

'ow much? 😲

I absolutely hate this idea of hen parties abroad. The idea that the hen/s expect all their guests to pay a grand to go on their hen party in the first place is ridiculous, but then the idea they they don’t have to pay anything themselves? Absolutely crazy. Can’t believe the MOH is suggesting it.

Yanbu. Moh can cover it herself if she’s that bothered.

Absolutely agree. I had a lovely meal out at a local restaurant with my close friends. Lovely!

How on earth does 3 nights in Greece cost that much?
Are you staying in a hotel made of gold?

Is going on the hen holiday and paying £1000 to do so not supportive enough?

Who is the MOH "letching" over?

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Er, two brides who happen to be friends, and are each marrying a bloke?

I've never been asked to pay for the bride on a hen do!

I thing they might mean leechy as in leech.

I came for the thread, but now I'm staying for the "support the gays at this time" lady.

I think the fact OP is friends with them and wants to celebrate their hen and wedding with them, suggests OP is not homophobic, and that the brides will think so too.

Do you always tie yourself in mad knots?

Dialling in from the B delegation. We don't need the cash, thanks. We're doing just Jim Dandy at this time.

😂

I would just pay £50 as that is what you would pay if there was only one bride.