to want to kill my gf

[theBOD]

she was meant to be home after work so we could go out for dinner but apparently got rail roaded into dinner (yeah right) with her boss and couldn't say no.
i really feel like putting my fist through her face as soon as she walks through the door pissed out of her mind to make sure she never does it again.

Who shall I slap first - him or them?

That's what's annoying me, I think. Tomorrow morning, he'll be all "but I didn't want to drink it, they made me" and I'll want to slap him even more. Grrrrrrrrrr.

oh and if he's wearing a favourite shirt or anything, surrepticiously rip it

Bucket, ice,water, poor.......

I could write a rude word in his chest hair in Veet

fake tan a rude word on his forehead

These are all from one thread! How are they any different to what the OP said?? And we all know if all those comments above were from a man about his wife, there would be screams of leave him and offers of a bed for the night. That thread is abhorrant and this is in direct response to it

Sorry. This is doing my head in. I am trying to make the point that DV should not be used to get a rise out of people. And the OP was not the same as the posts he referenced. (and he has mysteriously disappeared)

ALL DV is wrong. Blanket statement that is true. OP was crap. IMO.

Now I am really shit at being pedantic and wording everything in such a way that it makes my post inassailable. So I am leaving this argument as at the moment it isnt doing it for me and I dont seem to be able to get my point across effectively.

TheBOD isn't a troll, he's the same guy who everyone backed to the hilt after he responded in a similarly lesson-teaching manner to a woman who asked him what he was doing when he was waiting in his car (parked next to swingpark) to play football. this is his MO, i think.

fucking grim OP, regardless of the point he was supposedly making.

MR they are differnt because on the whole, women don't do this stuff, they fantasise about it. Women who do do this stuff, are loonies and generally come to the attention of the authorities.

Men who do the stuff are normal and don't.

I'm sick of this pretence that violence is equally distributed. It isn't. Look at the prison figures.

I knew I recognised TheBod from another post! oh well. eeny out.

Does it matter if it is equally distributed or not???????

That's like comparing one disease with another and saying the statistics for one are lower so it's not a relevant fear.

Domestic Violence is common for men, and emotional abuse, we are just diffrent creatures and men react differently. I.E. if they said anything about it they would be told to get a grip and not go on.

Agree with minoritys last post.

Why is it different? Because it may be less common?

So, there are more cases of racism against black people than against white people. Does that mean we can laugh and joke about racism against white people? Is it somehow less abhorrent?

So in that case, it is also fine for a man to think it?? Like in the the first post, it didn't say I put my fist through her face when she came in, it said I really feel like doing it, why the hell is that different??? Because some men are violent?? So are some women, that doesn't make sense

I also take offence at "Women who do do this stuff, are loonies and generally come to the attention of the authorities.

Men who do the stuff are normal and don't."

That is a huge insult the the high majority of men out there. Violent men or women aren't normal, not all men are violent

at OP.

I think it's a particularly aggressive way of making the point.

The OP and it's intentions are idiotic. What a surprise...

"Men who do the stuff are normal"

Normal men don't commit domestic abuse in my opinion. There may well be a depressingly significant minority that do, but to make a blanket statement that men act on aggressive impulses as a matter of course weakens the valid point that DV is primarily male on female.

Oh yes Hedgewitch that's exactly what I think I believe I said so somewhere in teh thread.

FGS.

Ah I see that I proved the OP's point

Or did I?

The fact is those two threads were humorous. We knew that those OPs had no real intention of strangling their husbands with a towel or slapping their husbands friends.

The OP in this thread is violent. Not funny at all. And the fact remains that many many women are the subject of domestic violence whilst very few men are.

OK I'll qualify normal.

I mean normal in the sense of not uncommon. It's possibly the wrong word to use, because it means the majority and I wouldn't argue that violence is the majority, just that it's not an outlandish, terrible "other" thing to be. Lots of respectable, outwardly decent men are very violent in their private life. I mean normal in that sense but I acknowledge that's probably the wrong word. I'm not going to look for another though, it's too late at night.

We don't know anything about the genuine intent of any posters on here. If MNers want to take a hard line on DV - which everyone does - then it needs to be consistent.

Slapping/strangling shouldn't be funny whether it is directed at men or women. Just because there was no humour injected to the faux OP doesn't mean it was a serious threat and vice versa.

How do we know that the other thread was humorous?? We don't

You are basing that on men are bad, women good which is bollocks

The language was completely different.

It was an unnecessarily aggressive OP.

It didn't say "hang on, why is OK to say this, and not that?"

I wonder at the motives behind it.

Fair enough LittleBella, I'm not looking to score points, it just rankled. I do think, once violence is known it is considered outlandish and terrible. The vast, vast majority of decent men would consider a man who uses violence against a woman a coward and bully. The problem is making it known, which I guess (I'm no expert) leads back to relative strength and fear.

Oh yes any reminder that men and women are different and that more men are in prison than women for violent crime, just means the person pointing that out is a man-hater.

OK just keep on pretending that women are doing as much physical damage to men as men are doing to women. Whatever floats your boat.

Sorry Dadada cross posted