to want to kill my gf

[theBOD]

she was meant to be home after work so we could go out for dinner but apparently got rail roaded into dinner (yeah right) with her boss and couldn't say no.
i really feel like putting my fist through her face as soon as she walks through the door pissed out of her mind to make sure she never does it again.

IMO, having looked at the other 2 threads, whether or not we KNOW the intent of the posters, the FEEL of this one is completely different than the feel of the other 2. I was shocked at the violence of expression and TBH, "fist thru her face" is not really the sort of thing one might say jokingly, whereas "I could strangle/ slap him" is much more likely as an expression of frustration.

Make your point in more relevant language if you want to make it well.

you are a silly little man

"In just my experience a male posters is more likely to put something like "i want to punch her lights out" than "i want to throttle her with a towel" but it doesn't mean its any less "expressive" than the womans, its just put in a more masculine way. "

Is this the point you want to make? That men need to use more aggressive vocabulary to make their point?

I think the more reasoned male posters on here would disagree with you.

There are many male posters on MN.

The vast majority of them are eloquent enough to get their point across without using vocabulary such as "I really feel like putting my fist through her face."

Masculine does not = aggressive.

DV is unacceptable in any form, irrespective of whether the perpetrator is male or female.

The OP was attempting to make that point, but the way he went about it was attention-seeking and facile.

ok so the bod went aout it the wrong way

f'kinell

get over it

wasn't too impressed with the dismisive tone of female on male abuse onthe other threads either.

dittany you've missed the point, he isn't at any point, he was making a point and he wasn't aggresive onthe other thread at all, he swore at a women, who was being totally out of order

Why do you hate men so much??? That is an honest question. We have all met bad men and had bad things happen, we don't all hate all men

And hedgewitch ... absolutley!

Bloody hell, I don't know you and know I wouldnt want to come home. Bloody hell, if your male or female....bloody hell, I would need some dutch courage to go home. I wish her well....scary!

vixma have you read the rest of the thread, per chance?

I think it was a good point, badly made TBH - but the essence is still there

Well done theBOD - I agree with you

Well by gom no, these crazy threads! reminds me of when I was old, fist through the face is extreme, male or female offering of violence. Dv happens to both sex, but do you think it is different dependant on sex. I do feel it is more acceptable if a female abuses a partner....male or female, however it should not be condoned either way. Many males are violently attacked however it still is viewed as weak in some cases for a male to report this. Just oppinions, if I have got the drirt of conversation yet, if not tell me off and I am sorry if I have been to serious.

I have no problem with what anyone says of me, I know what is true

I haven't defended any aggressive violent men, only voiced my disgust at aggressive violent speaking women

i certainly do not hate men
and i condemn violence in any direction
but i do have trouble believing/accepting statistics that say dv is 40% female on male. nothing in all my life experience backs up an assertion of that kind.

so 40% of men will experience some form of violence of some kind at some point in their lives, in their home. or a home. someones home. hmmmm, even qualified like that, i have trouble accepting it.

whats that saying about statistics? 90% of them are just made up? obv thats flippant, but im far too cynical to accept all statistics i hear without question. what the hell is the criminal bureau? never heard of it.

i dont know how i feel about the op. well, actually i do feel it was in poor taste. i DO agree that if we (humanity) is to find equality and universal respect then our casual language needs to be looked at, but it is a point worth making that the tone of a woman stating she wants to strangle her husband with a towel ( a deliberately silly proposition as a towel would be too bulky for the job) is different from a man saying he wants to put his fist through her face. the latter is a pretty wince-makingly graphic expression, dont you think?

and i say again that i condemn violence of any kind from anyone.