to want to kill my gf

[theBOD]

she was meant to be home after work so we could go out for dinner but apparently got rail roaded into dinner (yeah right) with her boss and couldn't say no.
i really feel like putting my fist through her face as soon as she walks through the door pissed out of her mind to make sure she never does it again.

Oh I don't know salamander - i thought he used very good bait - how quickly was that bitten - and I do think he does have a point -

Oh btw I don't feel it's socially acceptable to laugh and joke about DV against anyone, male or female.

But a woman saying she wants to strangle a man with a towel, is not DV. It's an expression of anger. A man saying he wants to put his fist through a woman's face, might be DV. It's certainly not a recognised form of humour in our culture.

why does 'good bait' constitute a good point? His 'point' was weak in as much as the examples he showed (the two links) had nothing to do with his OP.

Perhaps he is tired of hearing I want to kill my dh and strangle him, hit him with a towel, ridicule him, make him perfect, put him down, have exceedingly high expectations he will never meet...... etc.....

He used good bait flashman? On a forum aimed at women saying he wanted to kill his girlfriend in the subject line? Not that hard to do is it. Not very big and certainly not very clever.

Good point possibly but appallingly badly made.

it was a fishing trip - there was no grand point behind it - he was bating you all and it worked.

scour MN archives. There are literally hundreds of posts of women being cruelly abused. And children by their fathers. There have been several in the last few weeks even.

The incidence rate of women abusing men is much much much lower. And that is not just because men "dont report it" - it is because it is much less common, no ifs ands or buts.

The way the OP was written was a slap in the face to every woman and man who has actually suffered abuse. And the OP clearly had a petty little vendetta he wanted to play out against the opposite sex.

i understand your point and no form of dv is right no matter who it is by or against.

but maybe the reason that people are so upset by what you posted is that woman are phsyically weaker than men. if the op from the other thread really did try to to strangle her dh with a towel then im fairly sure that he would be able to fight her off. however if you put your fist through your gf's face then its likely that there is very little that she could so to defend herself against you!

plus the other ops sounded more like woman venting than actually considering violence. if dp comes into the kitchen interfering while im cooking i usually remind him that i have v sharp objects close to hand but obv i would never act on this.

your op however sounded truley viscous and meaningful!

flashman you are contradicting yourself. you said he had a point not just that it was good bait.

I could start any number of shocking threads. But that wouldnt make them clever and I am not vindictive.

Well Flashman I think both you and the OP have shown yourselves up to be pretty pathetic species of manhood if you think this is acceptable. Shame on the pair of you frankly.

I wonder if this is in response to some-one posting about wanting to slap her DH or his mates as he got drunk?
Sounds a bit troll like to me.

But I have not read all the posts yet. That might have been said already!

Flashman, you must be easily impressed.

APPLES AND ORANGES

He has an excellent point, the man coming home pissed one shocked me as much as this shocked others.

Men are treated like imbeciles most of the time and sometimes like they are hated on here, it's shocking

Good post, Spicemonster.
I agree with you.

err no I said it was good bait orginally - thought about it a bit more and realised it is a windup - he was just hitting for reactions.

Well I do not treat men like idiots and my husband would back me up on that. I do however have a healthy fear of the aggresive male as me and many others I know have been at the recieving end of it. Most men do not live in fear of being beaten up by women. Not saying it doesnt happen, I know it does but it is not in the same league.

WFT - I am not surporting him - there are much better ways to troll than that!

The way the OP was written was a slap in the face to every woman and man who has actually suffered abuse

I don't agree with that statement in the slightest and find it incredibly reactionary.

sorry I think the OP and flashmans amusement/defence of him does men no favours. Decent men like my husband despise men who treat women in this way - and would not joke about it. Read up on your history. Throughout centuries women and children have been raped and beaten and murdered by men. Things will only ever improve drastically when men fight to make other men responsible. Starting a frivolous OP like this is not responsible.

Eeny - I am sure there are much more posts on MN archives about women being abused by men, as the huge majority of the posters here are women. So that argument is pointless.

Its completely unfair to say that ' a woman saying she wants to strangle a man with a towel is an expression of anger and a man saying he wants to put his fist through a woman's face is domestic violence. Where is the equality in that?

I don't care how this thread began, I am not joining that argument. But theBOD has got a very good point. It should not be acceptable for anyone to joke about violence on anyone else.

well ff sorry you dont agree. But that is my opinion. To sit there and smugly get a rise out of other people over a matter that ruins lives is SHIT.

If you do a quick search of "kill dh" in the archives there are a number of threads with similar sentiments to the OP. Responses such as "Slap him, YANBU" then follow.

I think the OP has a point, not agreeing it was the right way to make it but I certainly think it's a discussion worth having.