If someone called your engagement ring "cute"

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Would you think it was a bit bitchy? When showing a friend (who is known for giving backhanded compliments) she said "aww cute".

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

Would you be offended at this comment?

Gosh you're shocked easily. 🙄

They're not close friends. The OP clearly doesn't like the woman. Read all of her posts.

And no, if I thought a ring was not nice, I would NOT be all like ooohhh, and aaaaah, because I'm not a hypocrite and a liar. I would say 'oh well it's not for me, but if you like it, I'm really happy for you! Congratulations!'

Why are some people so desperate for other people to like their engagement ring? So odd.

And if they don't like it, they JELLUS! 😂

Come on. Grown women are not jealous of other womens engagement rings!

I’ve definitely used the word cute for an engagement ring and many other things.

Tbh it’s a word I use quite regularly and there’s no bitchiness/passive aggressiveness with it at all.

But you know your friend and the way that it was intended.

I'd assume they didn't have a very wide vocabulary - people these days use the word "cute" for people, food, houses, cars, all kinds of things. It's silly and quite childish.

It really doesn’t matter.

I don't know anyone who used the word 'cute' for food, cars, houses, and people.

Who calls a house 'cute?' Or a person? Unless that person is 5.

And who calls FOOD cute?!

And very few cars are 'cute!'

Baffling.

I love looking at engagement rings, if a friend got engaged you'd feel excited for them surely??

You'd actually say that? To a friend?

Like you say, each to their own!

It sounds like maybe you want to show off and she's jealous.

Fair enough but if you’d showed it to a friend when you were first engaged and they said ‘oh wow that’s…. pretty nondescript actually’ I’d still think that friend was quite rude!!

If anyone had said it was stunning I’d have known they were lying!

Cute can definitely be used in a patronising way. If this is how it lands, and it's part of a wider pattern of behaviour that leaves you feeling like she is trying to be "better" than you, I would listen to that.

I had a friend who was forever telling me I was cute. "Such a cute dress babe!" "Hun, you're SO cute!" And so on. I found it patronising. Most adult women don't go on about how cute things or people are. Ime.

Why would that be exciting?

I’m old and I’ve been shown many, many engagement rings in my life. Some have been “wow” really fantastic, most have been frankly non descript and a few have been “are you blind or does he hate you”? Without fault, to all of them, I’ve responded “beautiful. Congratulations”. Because I’m not an arsehole and I know that people like different things to me.

Yes, it's more mild pleasure, surely. Unless you think their fiancé/ée is awful.

Because a couple have decided to get married and most people are excited for their friends when they announce this. I know I was.

I once had a rather rich work colleague who I knew hated me but she always made out to be nicey-nicey so I couldn't really address it.

One day we were in the works lift together and she showed me a real knuckle duster of a ring and she asked me if she liked the ring she had got for £10 int he M&S style. I just said "Nice"! She was not impressed.

Turns out she had just come back from a Ladies trip to somewhere like Dubai and had bought a ring for £10,000...I think that is the ring she showed me!

So I think only you will know from your relationship if she was being derogatory or not and you will need to suck it up.

I've always been completely indifferent to it. Other people's relationships don't affect me in any way. Neither positively nor negatively. So it isn't something I feel anything about. Probably a man thing.

@BatchCookBabe well obviously, it’s not “for you”. It was bought by a man you probably don’t know, for a woman he wants to marry. Why on earth would you feel the need to say “it’s not for me”? Everyone knows that?

Your contribution on a thread about what someone might mean when commenting on an engagement ring doesn't mean much then.
Do you not take into account whether your friends are in a partnership when going on a night out?

Seriously? 😂

Lab diamonds are chemically, physically and optically identical to natural diamonds.

Not quite - the refraction is different.

That depends on the cut.

It was a dig.
The weight comment was a dig too.
Nastiness is often linked to jealousy.

Congratulations, it’s a beautiful ring.

So why are lab diamonds a fraction of the cost of a natural diamond?

Do high end jewellers sell lab diamonds? If not, why not?

@BringBackCatsEyes Do you not take into account whether your friends are in a partnership when going on a night out?

Why is it relevant that people are in a relationship when going on a night out? That doesn't change anything.

The only difference would be if they had a baby at home and they had to leave early, but people tend to verbalise that themselves.