If someone called your engagement ring "cute"

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Would you think it was a bit bitchy? When showing a friend (who is known for giving backhanded compliments) she said "aww cute".

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

Would you be offended at this comment?

Eh? Where did I say that. I specifically asked opinions on the word cute...

She’s implying it’s small. Yes she’s being bitchy and yes it’s likely she’s jealous. If you love it then who cares. If it had been me I would have called her out on it, but you’ve let it go and are clearly nicer than me, lol. I’d have said something like ‘cute? Ouch missus, that’s a bit cheeky. You jealous?’ But that’s me, lol.

Do you like it?

If yes, then fine.

Probably wouldn’t ask them to be bridesmaid though.

Quite a leap there?! I have said no such thing.

My husband's boss called mine "discreet" when we first met 😂

My dd calls things she really likes cute.

It's the phrasing now for something they like, not that its small and pretty.

😁reread your op and follow up posts!

It does sound like jealousy. How is she generally?

Well you know her better than any of us @Engagementringquestion but I would have taken it to mean that she thinks it's lovely. Depends how she normally uses language really. You might be misconstruing.

Wow now that is a stupid thing to say!

Americans call loads of things cute, which Brits wouldn’t necessarily.
Did she mean it like that, maybe?

This is a “pattern of her behaviour”

she is “known for giving back handed compliments”

she thinks “she is superior to others”

”she was trying to be patronising”

and you think it’s a “leap” to think you clearly can’t stand her!!

I would think 'hurrah, I am engaged and love my ring' . That's what matters.

I’m astonished that someone who would worry about this could be old enough to get married in the first place.

Stop hanging out with people you don’t actually like.

It’s not a leap, because you’ve repeatedly mentioned that she behaves in ways you consider bitchy, superior and backhanded.

The jealousy aspect was for me getting married, she has said her partner is dragging his heels with regards to getting engaged.

She can be the sweetest person and very funny, but has been known to be a little catty towards women. Ie she mentioned a friend had gotten fat, I didn't like that at all and did call her out on that. She also knows I'm not the slimmest person so it felt a bit of an insult to me at the same time.

I lived in America for over 15 years. ‘Cute’ is a diminutive form of beautiful or pretty, except possibly when applied to, or used by, young girls.

I agree it was a weak or backhanded compliment.

A lot of people use the word cute now, it’s slipped into my vernacular a few times disappointingly! Or, she just may not have liked it, and thought it was cute for you but bot for her. Rings are so personal, I’ve not seen another engagement ring I’ve coveted. I’m not sure why people assume if a woman doesn’t like something another woman does it’s because she’s jealous - it’s such a sexist trope.

It doesn’t sound as though you like her very much, are you both friends of convenience (as in she’s part of a friendship group)? Maybe it’s time to step back?

I'd probably hear it as 'small', which wouldn't bother me as long as I love the ring.

But having said that, the word 'cute' seems to be very much back in circulation, especially when it comes to couple related things.

Seriously though, if you're happy I don't know why you're even thinking about it.

Then stop being friends with her.

You've taken your big life moment and made it about her.

In reality, she probably isn't as into your engagement as you and just expressed polite enthusiasm. "Ahh, super cute!" And you're like "ew, cute, what a bitch" because in your mind there was a "right" level of fawning to be done.

You're engaged, that's great, just bask in the polite interest because as you move through life you'll realise that most people really aren't as interested in this stuff as the person it's happening to.

It’s compliment unless said with a ‘tone’

why does it matter to you people like your shiny status symbol?

Actually I think @BatchCookBabe may have a point.

Perhaps you did actually want her to be jealous but her reply very much sounds as though she's not.

Did she not say congratulations? I'm not sure what else needs saying, I didn't even realise people still had "engagement rings".
If someone showed me a ring I would have zero idea of it's value, should I be more gushing if it was expensive?

Don’t forget “catty” in the latest post!

Essentially, this