If someone called your engagement ring "cute"

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Would you think it was a bit bitchy? When showing a friend (who is known for giving backhanded compliments) she said "aww cute".

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

Would you be offended at this comment?

Definitely a passive aggressive little dig on her part. Roll your eyes and forget it. Her problem.

Both the examples you have used aren't really Americanisms. They're used in various regions of the UK. Mom is common and always has been in some areas. It isnt something that has only happened recently. Gotten has always been used in most of Scotland, Northern Ireland and parts of the north of England. Just because thats not how it is said in the south of England dosent mean that its an Americanism. So many clueless people on here trying to tell others they are saying something wrong just because they aren't aware of regional differences in language.

Well if she doesn't mean small, then surely she does actually think it's cute?

In which case, how is that the 'green eyed monster'?

Jesus, some people are complicated.

I.5 carats is big! (Mine 0.59 and not insubstantial) this woman obviously wanted to be rude

If I said that it would mean "I'm not particularly interested in rings and don't really get bling, but it seems important to you so I'll make positive noises because you're my friend and I want you to be happy". But I don't have the kind of friendships where the women involved seem to basically hate each other and constantly be in competition with each other.

I’d be pissed off. “Cute” is not a flattering reaction to an engagement ring.

She’s probably used to seeing enormous lab grown diamonds which are way cheaper than real mined diamonds. They seem very common place now. It was a bank handed compliment.

Without this context, “Cute” could be taken as a comment on your relationship with your partner - she is saying he’s cute for choosing that one.

But if she has form, which it sounds as though she has, she’s being a bitch.

Only reason you take offence is because you know her. I would say its cute but my friends and people who know me in general know I'm not bitchy so would not take offence. But if I had a friend like that I wouldn't take offence as it just way she is, why would I expect anything different?

Okay, but how would you use the word 'cute'?

It isn't her ring, and so I wouldn't give a toss about what she or anyone else thinks. I'm also not into diamonds or the size of the rock, etc. I just don't care.

We all have people like this in our lives. I had cousins like this so I stopped talking to them once we all became adults and had free will.

Yes she does sound bitchy but why on earth do people keep people like this in their lives? It's so peculiar to me.

It's modest compared to an 'absolute rock'? Maybe it just looks, well, cute, then? Same way you might look well rather than like shit on a stick?

As an isolated thing I'd think she was being condescending and probably a bit jealous, but also not worth thinking much more of. But it would depend on history - if she was regularly making bitchy snidey comments I'd probably avoid her.

I think if she’s an American, it’s seems to be a turn of phrase more commonly used. Then maybe it was just a passing comment. Otherwise, she was being passive aggressive, I would assume.

Could be worse, my MIL just outright said "Oh. I thought it would be bigger". Didn't bother with any compliments, backhanded or not.

It’s disingenuous to act like we don’t all know what she meant, despite the dreaded Americanisms. Referring to an engagement ring as cute is bitchy, no matter where you’re from.

Yes, she’s being a bitch, and she knows it. I’ve met a couple of women like that in my life. I avoid them, life is too short for such nonsense.

I think we need a picture of the ring in question!

Is she engaged/married - What's her jewellery like?

I wouldn’t look for validation from a friend for an engagement ring. It’s my ring - no one else’s. Who cares. Don’t know why you’ve let it get to you

It's a statement of fact. No good comes of pretending you can't see things you'd rather weren't happening. I write as someone who is overweight.

I was thinking the same, it's very easy to make assumptions on how others are feeling and over analyse their behaviour.

Don't overthink it OP. Even if she had said 'I don't like it', does it matter? It doesn't sound she is someone whose opinion means a great deal to you, so why are you giving it any headspace? You should be on cloud nine, excited about your upcoming wedding, not focusing on a single word said by someone you don't seem to even like very much. We cannot control others actions, only our reactions.

She deliberately used the word cute. It was designed to let you know she wasn't impressed. It's a nasty thing to do brought about by jealousy.
The only acceptable thing to say about someone's ring is that it is beautiful. A few oohs and ahhs should be thrown in too.

If you get married for the rings and the dress and the day you will be one of the 43% who get divorced, why would your friend be jealous shes in a relationship, do you want to be with your man or wear a ring? I know no one agrees with me but the thought of wearing a ring to say oh look a man wants me! Want and love yourself,