If someone called your engagement ring "cute"

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Would you think it was a bit bitchy? When showing a friend (who is known for giving backhanded compliments) she said "aww cute".

For reference my ring is a platinum 1.5 carat diamond solitaire and everyone else has said how stunning it is. So certainly not a cheap, small ring.

Would you be offended at this comment?

This. I have a Canadian friend and literally everything is "cute". It's not a descriptor I would use for a grown woman, but I hear it alot.

yes she was wanting to irritate you, it was definitely bitchy. But don’t let it work. She’s clearly jealous and trying to undermine your enjoyment, probably because she has no enjoyment in her own life. Ignore her.

It's not complicated. You need to be a real friend and have real friends. You and this woman know each other, but you are not friends. You have made it clear that you don't think much of her, and perhaps the feeling is mutual. So instead of hanging around with someone that you don't really like and then complaining that she is not acting like a true friend, concentrate on building/nurturing true friendships where something like this wouldn't even register. You're engaged and happy, that's the only thing that should matter.

Don’t give it the headspace. If you’re happy with it , that’s all that matters.

Jealousy is often irrational. One of the most unpleasant women I know has literally everything, on paper. Millions, huge house, family, nice (if drippy) husband. But, she is a prize cunt, unable to be happy for anyone else, about anything. And the “cute” comment is absolutely something she would come out with. It’s sad really, because she is clearly a very unhappy woman.

I think she means what she says, it's cute, which equals charming, pretty, attractive.

Ohh my friend described my new car as ‘Cute’ not especially small or cute- Quasqui (sp) is this the same thing

Definitely backhanded.
Would step away.
Life is too short to spend time around anyone that doesn't have your back.

If she'd said
"Wow , is that real ? "
"What did you have to do to earn that "?
"You do know mined diamonds are a faux pas and everyone wants Lab Grown now"
"Did he rob a bank/jewellers"

That would be bitchy .
"Cute" is a bit nauseating but take it as a compliment .

2026 and you're looking for genuine comments on your engagement ring. Really?

You want a ring, you like the ring, who cares what anyone else thinks. In all honestly if someone asked me I would muster up something polite but really I wouldn't care what your ring was like.

Drop her
She isn't a friend
This will be the start of nasty wee bitch passive aggressive comments whilst you arrange your wedding.
Expect jabs about your venue choice, food choices etc
I wouldn't be having that

Firstly, why do you care what someone else thinks? Is your engagement ring about your love for each other or is it a status symbol?

Secondly, people use words differently. She might have meant it perfectly nicely.

Thirdly, a normal friendship would just have you laughing and saying, “Oi, it’s not cute, it’s bloody stunning!” And she would laugh and correct herself and it’d all be fine. Why are you walking away without addressing it and slowly stewing in rage at the tiniest slight?

If you’re old enough to be getting married you should probably start being a bit more mature about the way you handle misunderstandings and disagreements in your relationships.

so why do you call her a friend?

nah, they are envious

I agree with others who think you're just trying to gloat about your ring, OP.

Sounds to me like you doesn't like your 'friend' and you wanted to Post here to whinge and possibly get people to ask what your ring looks like and so you could show off. I can just imagine you shoving your ring finger in people's faces in the most obtrusive way possible.

Mine is only 1 carat but is a 'F' Colour and 'IF' Clarity (as such a ring expert, I'm sure you know what that means). My sister described it as 'adorable' when she saw it. I didn't take offence as it is adorable and I'm not a child.

I think you’re over thinking it. But if you don’t know her well enough to know whether cute was authentic, or a bitchy dig, then maybe the friendship has run its course.

I'd say that and not mean anything offensive by it. I certainly wouldn't be trying to imply it was small or unimpressive!

If you’ve already made your mind up on her intent then why ask us?

Agree.

This. ^ The OP clearly doesn't like this woman, and they're not friends. I never, I repeat NEVER talk about my friends like this, or even acquaintances who I quite like! In fact I don't even say this about people I am not keen on! It seems like a very strange way to talk about a 'friend.'

well the responses are very divided which i think tells you that you have no way of knowing for certain. You can make a best guess based on what you know of her character, or you can give her the benefit of the doubt. Whichever approach suits you best.

She is quite clearly jealous.
Unequivocally so, from your update.
Cute is fine for a kitten, patronising for an engagement ring.

I'd be totally uninterested if someone showed me an engagement ring. What do you say? That's nice/lovely, amazing (insert any gushing hun type word). I'd just offer congratulations. I'm not wowed by other people's jewellery same as I'm not over the top with people.

I would be offended too OP it is a backhanded compliment

You are unreasonable to give a shit.