Is my morning routine too rigid?

[Tuliptana]

Feeling upset and questioning myself.
Im an early riser, 6am everyday.

My routine is as folliws
Let cat in and feed him
Open all curtains/blinds snd windows to air the house
Make a coffee and whilst waiting for kettle il bleach the toilets, kitchen surfaces. Empty dishwasher.
Put a load of washing.on
Make bed
Put rubbish out

This takes max 20 mins and i feel relaxed when all done.

My mate is staying and snapped at me to just sit down and chill. However she was just sat, glued to her phone. She always moans she doesnt have time to keep on top of her housework.

I snapped and said if you didn't spend so much time on your phone you could do your jobs easily.
Was i in the wrong and does my routine sound odd and rigid?

Lots of cats get incredibly stressed when they're shut inside, it's not always as simple as "do better" - you have to work with the animal you have, at the end of the day.

How big & scary are your cats that you struggle to lock them in at night??

Excuse me, but don't tar everyone with the same brush!

I don’t think it’s normal to confine one’s guests to their room until a specific time. If the OP gets up at 6am to fuck about with bleach and laundry, why is it any worse for the guest to get up to have a coffee?

Why are you feeling upset? With what?

Just being nosey. So feel free to ignore 🤣🤣

but what are you waiting for before you can 'live this way!!

Your routine sounds fine to me. It’s up to you what you do and when you do it in your home. I think your friend was rude. I get that she may not want to take her mornings more slowly and that’s fine but no need to comment on yours in your house.

And again.

she's using spray bleach. So whilst I think it's unnecessary to bleach the kitchen surfaces (at all, never mind daily) the quantity of beach she's actually using is negligible

Apologies, that might have been an assumption on my part, but I got the impression she did. OP, do you live alone?

Or maybe her quality of life is improved by, y’know, just relaxing a bit. Not everyone lives to bleach toilets and do laundry. Fine if you enjoy all that, but housework isn’t the be all and an end all of every woman’s existence. I’d much rather have unbleached worktops and use the time to chill out with a cup of tea. Or read. Or play on my phone. Or do a crossword. Or have a shag. Pretty much anything, really, because housework, to me, is boring and meaningless.

"Make a coffee and whilst waiting for kettle il bleach the toilets, kitchen surfaces. Empty dishwasher."

Kindly, you need a new kettle 😂

Not if you wipe spills up immeduately, why do you just slop stuff around & leave it (or why haven't you taught your children better?)

I answered this- it’s my husband. I’m not taking the day off work to follow him round with a soapy cloth, no.

Why can't the lazy gut wipe up after himself? I'd be 'having words' until he wasn't such a slob.

Well he’s 16 days post being released from section but I’ll let him know your thoughts. Bit risky but as long as he’s told eh?

Not in my home, ever. I live alone now, but lived with men most of my life, never with one who did this. Nor would I tolerate it if I lived with a new man.

Well you do if you are the kind of person that lets the cat jump on the kitchen work tops otherwise I’d say no .
just smart and clean at end of day after making dinner and cleaning up .

Don't be ridiculous yourself. Keeping cats in overnight is not 'locked up all the time'

if helps to protect wildlife & keeps the cats safer too.

Again, I will have a shout at him and let him know your thoughts.

Ok il answer some questions.
I dont live alone, there is a human male alongside the male cat.
Ive got into this routine as i work long days, i often leave the house by 8am and return about 10pm.
I dont have the energy when i get in at night to clean the kitchen, hence i do a mad 20mins in the morning.

I do a wash daily as i wear a uniform.
My cat does not jump on the work surfaces.

You sound very efficient and routines are good. But your friend is just different - neither of you should be judging each other. You are criticising her phone use and she is wondering why the hell the toilets need to be bleached at 6am..

I don’t think it’s good for you to be using bleach every day. And the only thing I can think is that it might have been nice to relax the routine whilst she was there. It’s not very relaxing having someone rushing around cleaning with bleach at 6am.

I would have sat and chilled with a cuppa even if she didn’t fancy talking. Maybe she’s not a morning person.

There are some natural sprays out there which are better (we inhale them when cleaning).

Well, you didn't mention he'd just been released from being sectioned (I'm
sorry, must be awful for you both) but surely wiping up after himself & having some pride in
keeping his/your environment plesant is something that should be encouraged for his own MH?

Not once did I mention shouting. Sectioned or not he can understand leaving a shit smeared toilet for you to clean up after him
is not acceptable ..

I don’t think there is any problem with your routine, but you can’t have the same routine in ANY circumstances. You have to be flexible, by the way not only with your morning routine but with everything. I wouldn’t like sitting with my morning coffee while you are bleaching kitchen surfaces next to me. It’s really unfriendly and disgusting (even with a spray).
Your friend was right to snap tbh
the normal expectations would be that you would sit and have a coffee and chat. Obviously apart from letting cat in and feeding him, it’s always a priority.

Looking at your updates I wonder if you behaved this way throughout her visit and that’s why she was on the phone because you were not engaging with her, you were following your usual routines.
I get that sometimes you can’t find space for guests unfortunately but then you should make it clear before their visit and you should explain why e.g you promised your friend to take day off when she is visiting but due to emergency at work you were called back.