Is my morning routine too rigid?

[Tuliptana]

Feeling upset and questioning myself.
Im an early riser, 6am everyday.

My routine is as folliws
Let cat in and feed him
Open all curtains/blinds snd windows to air the house
Make a coffee and whilst waiting for kettle il bleach the toilets, kitchen surfaces. Empty dishwasher.
Put a load of washing.on
Make bed
Put rubbish out

This takes max 20 mins and i feel relaxed when all done.

My mate is staying and snapped at me to just sit down and chill. However she was just sat, glued to her phone. She always moans she doesnt have time to keep on top of her housework.

I snapped and said if you didn't spend so much time on your phone you could do your jobs easily.
Was i in the wrong and does my routine sound odd and rigid?

You do you.
You aren't commiting any crime.

I’ve not got a cat but we did growing up and she used to be out at night. I thought that was common. I throw bleach down my loo overnight

Sounds fine and none of your friends business! Cheeky mare, questioning it!

I don't understand the obsession with bleach. Yes it kills/disinfects things but it doesn't actually clean. It's useless on limescale in a toilet, just bleaches it white.

On what planet is it lazy to not have your bathroom, kitchen, laundry all done by 7.00am?

I’ll be honest and say I would do most of that the night before to avoid having to do it in the morning. Granted, the washing should be done in the morning but the rest like emptying the dishwasher and bin I would aim to do the night before. I like to chill in the morning with my coffee like your friend.

What exactly is lazy about getting up at 6am and quietly scrolling on your phone while you're a guest at someone else's house? 😂

Your routine is great.
I'm impressed you can do all that in 20 minutes well done 👏

Do you have children, work?.I have a morning routine..I did have 4dks worked ft. Now it's grandkids, and when they stay, one most weeks,they need to be taken to school, leaving at 8am. I go to the toilet first, bedroom blinds, curtains window opened,if it hasn't been opened all night. Quick shower, basin, toilet worktops in bathroom cleaned, before I leave the bathroom. I don't use bleach.Dress.Bed made,it's had chance to air.. tablets at 7am,dogs fed. I don't do washing until there's a full load, and don't do washing if I have anyone staying.. this is why so many mneters say they live in a permanent mess. Spend a couple of minutes a day, I couldn't let stuff mount up with the workload I had..add into the mix when youngest DD was 9 looking after terminally I'll DF, round trip of 70 plus miles. Only child and sandwich generation.

You must have gross toilet habits to need to clean them every day. And stop with all the bleach it’s so bad for the environment.

And agree with everyone else about locking out cat. It’s cruel to him and to native wildlife. Cats are not nocturnal and shouldn’t be made to be. If you’re letting him in at 6 every day god knows how long the poor thing has been sitting out waiting to come back in.

He has a cat flap so is not locked out!
He chooses to wait for the door to be opened for his majesty.
HTH

Maybe it’s her partner or other person in the house who has gross toilet habits? The man spraying the loo bowl with shite and walking away from it is fairly common unfortunately, because they’re entitled cunts

Cats dont need to stay in all night . Dont be ridiculous. Mine sometimes go out sometimes stay in. They pick . And they are all very healthy happy cats . Keeping them locked up all the time is cruel.

My MIL is like this, and imo it knocks a few points off her hosting skills. It sounds like a really efficient routine for most days, but I do think you should have relaxed it while your friend was staying, or at least not done it in her presence. Personally if I'm staying somewhere and the host is cleaning round me I feel compelled to help - I would always offer anyway, but if the offer was turned down and my host continued bustling round me I'd have felt uncomfortable (and, possibly, that they thought cleaning was more important than spending time with me). You want to be creating a relaxing atmosphere for guests, and that involves being reasonably relaxed yourself, imo anyway.

Another thing - some people can't cope with bleach fumes. I'm one of them, I always seem to find if someone's been bleaching I will either have an asthma attack or a coughing fit, and besides that I find the smell downright unpleasant. Could your friend be having difficulty with it, do you think?

I am similar OP - I get up at 6am and do the cat and a few jobs first thing. But the beauty of having a routine is that you can relax or skip it occasionally and then easily get back into it. If I had guests, I would just feed the cat and leave the rest.

Nothing wrong with your morning routine at all, can’t understand some comments saying otherwise. Bleaching toilets every day is fine too. I wouldn’t let your ‘friend’ stay again tbh

If you do this exact routine at the same time everyday then yes, it's unusually rigid.

Does the toilet need bleached every morning?

I do think it is probably verging on rude to do it so early when a visitor is staying. I'd love to have time to do that in the morning (without the bleach as I hate the stuff), but by the time I've got washed and dressed and everything else for the day and we've sorted dd we have to get going. I'm usually at work by 7:15!

Good grief! Are you one of these people who cuts friends out of their lives for the smallest 'misdemeanour', because it certainly sounds like it.

It's your routine and it works for you therefore it's fine.
I'd maybe chill a bit with the bleach - sounds like a lot of needless chemicals.
And I'd get a catflap installed.
But your house, your rules.

I didn't say that, doesn't matter when it gets done, I was referring to the fact that her guest can never get on top of her housework, so maybe spending less time on her phone and more on her house would improve her quality of life!!!

I agree. How can someone living on their own need to put a wash on every day?

YANBU, it’s good that you have a strong routine and I admire how productive you are in 20 minutes!

It’s none of your friend’s business and she shouldn’t be interfering when she’s a guest.

Telling you to “chill” is just judging and interrupting your normal routine and is the opposite of relaxing.

She feels inferior and lazy so she’s attacking you defensively.

It's not very welcoming when you're trying to enjoy a coffee and someone is fussing around spraying bleach everywhere.
It doesn't sound like you like your friend very much.