To think that real life sex isn’t like TV?

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After re-watching Bridgerton, am I wrong I thinking people aren’t having this kind of earth-shattering sexy time (I’m looking at you Duke of Hastings…) in real life?! Or have I just been missing out…

What I really like about bridgerton is how realistic the sex is? I feel like womens pleasure is so often overlooked, I appreciate how often they show women being actively pleasured rather than just orgasming during penetration. I liked the awkwardness for francesca showing her struggling to orgasm.

DP and I absolutely had sex like the Duke and dafne before kids.

I’m going to be hinest and say yes…I do have that sort of intense, passionate sex with my partner, and also the gentle loving close kind. Obviously a bit more noisy and with the odd escaping of gas, so not as ‘perfect’ but pretty close. It’s the first time its been like that, and the first time I’ve been with someone who doesn’t come too quickly or last too long. We’re well matched in what we like, libido wise and totally comfortable with each other. After quite a few years we also still fancy the pants off one another. I do feel very, very lucky.

Edited to add…I had a long marriage before this where the sex was often so bad it regularly made me depressed. So I do feel like maybe I’m just due the luck.

That scene in the Crown with the Queen offering Philip a blow job was really inaccurate

How the hell do you know?

Well, I don’t suppose they were ever going to have the woman lying there and looking at the ceiling with a thought ‘bubble’ saying, ‘FGS just get on with it - I left the washing in the machine and I need to get it out.’

Obviously no one knows 100% 🤣, but I'm the historical context it's really unlikely. Blowjobs were not something respectable upper-class women were typically supposed to do in the 1950s. Not long before, it was rumoured that one of the scandalous forbidden things Wallis Simpson would do sexually was oral sex. The 60s & 70s brought a sea change but the period before was very different.

But depicted in stonework carvings in Ancient Greece and Ancient Rome. It was also sex that guaranteed non pregnancy.

Oral sex for him and her is not a new invention.

I know it's not a new invention, and I've got nothing against oral sex. It's just that in the context of the upper classes (and not only them) in the 1950s, oral sex would not have been something respectable women were supposed to do. The Queen may of course have been into taboo-breaking behind closed doors, who knows, but it doesn't really fit what her character seems to have been then.

That scene would have made much more sense between Margaret & Tony.

Maybe the 50s were somewhat toned down from what happened before. But just because things were discussed less did not mean they didn’t happen. It was a case of passion, discretion and privacy.

You only have to look at the French Court in the 1600s, where there was a proliferation of breasts. All sorts of sex was very much on the menu.

Nope - I’m older than most on here, and I still love sex. 👍. Always have.

On HRT, and have been for decades, for medical reasons, . No dryness, no loss of anything.

My distance partner and I have just spent 3 days together, and it’s been full on 😉

No faking from me.

Well said.

See your post is very negative despite your last line. No-one here is pressuring anyone else to do anything, just asking not to be judged or made to feel weird. Live and let live.