To think that real life sex isn’t like TV?

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After re-watching Bridgerton, am I wrong I thinking people aren’t having this kind of earth-shattering sexy time (I’m looking at you Duke of Hastings…) in real life?! Or have I just been missing out…

Where after unprotected sex you cup your vagina with your hand and waddle to the toilet to try and stop any semen from gushing out on the way there.

You did ask!

Thank you for sharing. I didn’t know it had an official title.😆😆😆

Exactly 👌

Only in the first month or so

I mean I’ve never continually rearranged the bedding so nothing but my shoulders are visible.

Why do none of the men in Bridgerton have syphillis? Surely Benedict is responsible for super gonorrheoa however you spell it.

I mean I’ve also never picked a table/worktop etc that has loads of things on it that I’ve had to sweep off with my arm before sitting on it.

No one seems to get cramp during sex, calf cramps are a bastard and then you’re screaming for a different reason.

The most realistic sex scenes I have ever seen are in heated rivarly, particularly one in the last episode to the point that you feel you’re intruding by watching.

I mean it doesn’t have to be earth shattering, but you should be having a great time.

After 3 hours in the bath pleasuring "him", then overnight into day when sore down there, nipples cracked, sleep deprived, mouth dry, limbs aching - no it's not mind blowing after enduring 20 years of it at least weekly. The odd time maybe initially but after that you must be joking, it's torture.

DH and I are 40, two kids and work full time. Yes, we regularly have Bridgerton sex! I can understand sex not being that important to others though. Everyone’s different.

That’s not something that would be depicted as fun on television. And there’s big difference between consensual sex and what you’re describing, which sounds more like coercion and rape.

This isn’t something I’ve ever felt the need to do.

I don’t go sprinting off to the bathroom straight after sex and if I did, I really wouldn’t be bothered by a bit of spunk running down my leg.

I think personally that its not the sex itself but the lead up to it that's not like tv.
I find the lead up to sex often quite awkward. I dont mean foreplay but before that.. like actually initially coming onto someone and starting things off.
Even in long term relationships I always found that unsexy and awkward.
In fact theres only been a couple of instances in my life where the initiation of sex felt completely smooth and romantic.

But once the sex has started then yeah most of the time its hot like it is on tv. If im with someone I actually like and that's returned and they are a decent lover obviously.
Like any woman I've had terrible experiences with selfish pump and dump men. But luckily that's been a minority for me.

For me its first kisses that are the worst.
Even if im extremely attracted to someone.
Its definitely not like in films for me at all. I have always found it incredibly awkward.
Films and tv usually make it all look so fluid and natural.
In reality it can be awkward and jarring to go from chatting to someone to putting your hands on them for the first time can't it? Even when its something you really want to happen

I haven’t watched this series yet OP. But I have to say until the age of 40, I’d had only normal, good often sex, which did not look like in the movies, it wasn’t a caricature of terrible, but it was a pleasant 20 mins, with reasonable satiation and some high points.

at the age of 40 I met a man with whom I discovered a ‘ten floors higher’ level of sexual excitement, and rumbustious table-breaking, Vase-smashing ecstasy., and it was a revelation. It is good this man treated me well in other ways, because I would have been incapable of breaking up with him and going back to what I think of now as ‘normal human’ sex. Honestly, he could have charged £5000 a night and I would have paid it (until going bankrupt!) I remember thinking at the time if most people knew sex like that existed, there would be riots in the streets for it . he’s my husband now. Eight years later, we’ve calmed down a bit but God, I still have eyes-roll-back-in-head , tap-out-from-ecstasy experiences at least a few times a month, with a lot of damn good sex in between.

I’d love to see this 🤣

Mine started at 40 too, amazing isn’t it? Society led me to believe teens and 20s were the best sexual times.

People actually have this kind of sex very often. It is a performance that women enact in order to make men feel good about their prowess. It's just pretend.

Nope, women enjoy sex as much as men do.

HTH.

That is absolutely not the case her. If anything I enjoy sex more than DH does.

It’s genuinely sad that you think real life sex involves female performances of enthusiasm.

There it is... exactly what I was talking about earlier in the thread.

Mumsnet seems to be filled with people who want to fall over each other to explain how much sex is a patriarchal construction, and that any sensible woman has long forbidden their DH from coming anywhere near them ("and he loves it and totally agrees with me")

Yabu, this is realistic for my relationship. Not all the time obviously but most of the time.

Nope. You sound like someone who doesn’t like sex.

That is really sad. I think, over the years, I've may have held back on occasion to avoid looking like a sex maniac who enjoys it too much. I've never "performed"

Of course they do, given the chance. But probably not with men.

DH and I were watching Bridgerton the other day and I said how nice it was to see real sex instead of the kind you usually see in films 😂

So yes OP, some people really are having this kind of slow and passionate sex. The poll results are a bit sad really.

I think this about Benedict too, I know Bridgerton is all a fantasy so they've probably decided STDs don't exist, but I do think the poor girl what will he give her!!

Well, each to their own.
Pesonally I have loved sex with men, not a lot, but quality over quantity suits me very well.