To think that real life sex isn’t like TV?

[Namechanged1800]

After re-watching Bridgerton, am I wrong I thinking people aren’t having this kind of earth-shattering sexy time (I’m looking at you Duke of Hastings…) in real life?! Or have I just been missing out…

Nope, that's just you I'm afraid. Pick better men. Or if you're gay, pick women. But don't spread utter bullshit about women's sexuality that simply isn't true.

It's a really misogynistic standpoint to suggest that straight women can't enjoy sex with men.

Well said.
I love fucking men 🖤

That's very sad, do you ever enjoy sex? If not then what's the point?

Have you maybe not realized you're gay?

Not true for all people!

If this is your experience, then you're being abused.

I read somewhere once that the pleasure obtained from sex can range from life changing/life memorable, to that you get from drinking a cup of tea. I think I would agree with this and I have had sex at both ends of this spectrum.

Lesbian here. Sex can go on for hours sometimes when there's the time and inclination and include passionate fucking. It's not, as depicted often on TV, a breathy sighing thing with no real contact.

I find sex on the telly really uncomfortable, especially since we got a flat screen TV.

@Namechanged1800

I know I've already commented on this, but I hadn't watched what you were talking about and was commenting on TV sex generally. Were you just talking about the bath scene in the finale of s4?

I mean, I doubt it would look as good as bridgerton if anyone filmed me and DH but I (thankfully) reach my pinnicle.

Yes,,there are some good films but TV can lean too often to either over-the-top sex scenes or the opposite extreme you described.

What do you mean by no real contact?

Perhaps pp meant that TV often shows lesbians as focused on romance rather than sex, and doesn't really focus on the physical side much?

The only time I've had this is when I feel really sexy and appreciated by the other person. To feel really REALLY wanted in bed is the biggest turn on. It has be reciprocated as well. Chemistry is so important and yet, in my experience, rare.

I wouldn't know, I always fast forward past those mucky bits on telly shows and films.

It’s good to have something to aspire to, but preferably not in the kitchen. So uncomfortable 😀.

In the early years with DH sex was pretty tv-like. Although tbh sometimes the best sex is the silly sex that doesn't quite work that you laugh about together. Like the time I was working for a company that was marketing the female condom and brought some home to try out and it mainly featured squeaking. We still laugh about it 20 years later.

But I watched the Pierce Brosnan version of The Thomas Crown affair last week and thought the sex looked more painful than erotic.

I could not agree more. You get labelled a man on Mumsnet if you dare to go against the grain and explain how you love sex, allll different kinds of sex and you don't find it a chore that you can only pencil in for 5 minutes when the planets align.

Get labelled a man? Really? There is negativity certainly

I agree with this. In threads about a woman going off sex and not wanting it (due to menopause or other reasons) everyone is super supportive and tells them its fine and normal.

But, in threads when a woman says she wants more sex or dares to have sex more than twice a month there is a kind of weird defensive vibe that implies she's some kind of weird sex maniac, and you get lots of replies like "I couldn't imagine anything worse than sex every day" or "life is about more than sex you know" - the replies often have a judgy undertone.

Great, tonight’s TV sorted 😂

This!

They all have staff OP
No rows about childcare, bills, household frivolities.

I have been called a man multiple times on Mumsnet and seen other women called the same countless times. All you have to do is show understanding to a man on a topic an OP has made about sex, or, admit that you might be into something that’s not missionary and you are bombarded with claims of ‘man’!