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DS’s 14yo gf has just came over in tears

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JoiningInn · 28/02/2026 22:40

My ds is 14, he has a 14yo gf. The way they met is quite bizzare according to ds they met at the park but the story he told was a bit odd and I have a feeling he's lying but then why would he lie? I planned on asking gf for her side but haven't got round to it yet

They've been together for a few months and it's quite intense and I don't know if it's more than first love at this point. DS has social anxiety (also another reason I don't believe he just met someone at the park, if anything he would avoid her) and not many friends. Also tourettes which is made worse by anxiety and unfamiliar places/people

Her mum doesn't like ds, he went over one day for dinner and came back upset as she had belittled him for his tics and called him rude and an attention seeker. She did know about the tics beforehand and that's the only time she has met him

His gf also doesn't have a good relationship with her mum, she always tells ds she favours her sibling and hates her

I've not left a lot out as I don't want an essay that no one reads but she's just come over to ds in tears about half an hour ago, she told ds her mum had hit her (apparently she used to hit her when she was a child too) and told her to leave

I don't know what to do. I have no contact info for her mum. I don't know her last name, social services likely won't do anything this time of night. Police? But what would I say? I don't know what to do. Arghhh teens

OP posts:
scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 11:50

pocketpairs · 02/03/2026 10:56

Are people brain dead or something?! You send her home, calling relevant authorities, not give her place to stay overnight!!

Send her home to be assaulted again? OK then

pocketpairs · 02/03/2026 12:43

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 11:50

Send her home to be assaulted again? OK then

You can't just keep someone else's child because they said something, which may or may not be true, especially as you're not family / relative. Just call in authorities. Why is this so hard to understand?!

Lavender14 · 02/03/2026 12:46

pocketpairs · 02/03/2026 12:43

You can't just keep someone else's child because they said something, which may or may not be true, especially as you're not family / relative. Just call in authorities. Why is this so hard to understand?!

Actually from a safeguarding stand point it's not appropriate to return a child to someone they've disclosed as being abusive towards them without first seeking approval from social services to do so. This should be done as quickly as possible after the initial disclosure. It's not about just keeping someone else's child, it's about ensuring a potentially vulnerable child is kept safe from further harm and that systems are put in place to do that.

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 13:11

pocketpairs · 02/03/2026 12:43

You can't just keep someone else's child because they said something, which may or may not be true, especially as you're not family / relative. Just call in authorities. Why is this so hard to understand?!

Do you think social services are going to respond late on a Saturday night?

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