Child’s party on Mother’s Day

[Keeley14]

I finally called the soft play to book a birthday party and agreed to Sunday the 15th, so relieved they still had an opening close to the actually birthday.

And now I realise it’s Mother’s Day! Bit of a panic now … I should try to reschedule right?

I just scheduled it yesterday, no invites have gone out yet.

YABU - no you’re fine, leave it
YANBU - you should try to reschedule

What have I just read?

I'm out.

@Keeley14 PLEASE reschedule the party. You will get loads of No-Shows!

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One of DS's best friends had a party on Mothers Day last year. Parents not born in UK and they celebrate Mother's Day on another day, so they didn't make the connection. I would say they did have lower attendance, especially among the families with British-born parents (it's a multicultural area). We went because DS loves this kid and I like his parents, and I'm not super bothered about Mothers' Day. I think the families who couldn't go was because they have plans with grandparents, rather than mums not wanting to do it.

I would reschedule if you can.

It’s an ideal opportunity for the dads to take the kids and give mums a few hours off!

Wouldn't even crossed my mind TBH. My kids all do sports nothing stops for mother's day training/ matches all go ahead

Now I have older kids I realise that nothing else stops for Mother’s Day - sports fixtures etc are then so I just crack on. It’s a normal day!

Cancel it. I had this the other year with mini blondes. This year her party clashes with Easter

plus if 2-4 it’s a bad time generally as they don’t eat a lot of food if do tea 330 and also mean parents have to still do tea at home as kid hungry 530/6

doeent matter if do a party a week after birthday. I always do for dd as she says she can’t be 8 for a 9th etc so we do once she had her birthday

If that's the case, (that all your kids sports training - and sports matchs - stops everything, and 'nothing stops for Mothers Day,') then your kids still won't be able to go to the OP's child's party anyway! Because they'll be too busy 'training.' (Or playing at one of their matchs...)

Honestly, I'm so glad neither of my 2 DC were ever interested in sport. I see quite a few people I know - mums and dads - who have no weekends to themselves, and very few evenings, because of the sports their DC play! Multiple, multiple hours EVERY WEEK of the year, spent standing outside in freezing temperatures, and cold driving rain, and bitter winds. I don't envy them one single bit! 😬

And now I AM out.

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Being on Mother’s Day wouldn’t bother me but the time would. I’d have sent dh to the party with dd if it was at like 10am but we always go for lunch/ dinner.

Another one who wouldn’t think twice about Mother’s Day and just plans a normal day - kids clubs and parties included.

I don’t know what percentage of people “celebrate” Mother’s Day i.e. cancel other activities, go out for lunch or host a lunch at home but there will be some.. so it depends what kind of turnout you’re hoping for. If your DC would be gutted if too many people can’t make it then you’re going to have to reschedule.

Good idea. Odds are a good chunk will be unavailable.

Well my child has a choice if a match clashes with a party they'd pick the party. If we as a family decided to go out for mother's day we would and they'd could miss a match. My point was that lots of things happen on Mother's day wouldn't even enter my head to be unusual if a kids party did.

Multiple, multiple hours EVERY WEEK of the year, spent standing outside in freezing temperatures, and cold driving rain, and bitter winds. I don't envy them one single bit!
Yeah wouldn't be into that so I volunteered to help coach and love it and love seeing my kids play. Each to their own

I think you're right to reschedule op. I would've done the same. Not because mothers days is "sacrosanct" but just to be considerate. I think some people wouldn't give a shit, some would send dp and enjoy the peace on their own, some won't show but then a few probably would be a little miffed at having to decide which to do (lunch out or seeing their own mum or whatever and the kids party)

It isn't a manufactured day though to whoever said that. The tradition started ages ago when young people often worked in service away from home. I quite like the tradition despite losing my own mum quite young

I’m sure many people could get away from lunch in time to get to a party for 4PM, depending on what time it was booked for. However, as the OPs party starts at 2PM, I’m not sure how relevant that is?

And to reiterate, everyone’s lunch plans will already be booked in by now, so adapting the time to suit the party won’t be possible at this late stage.

Depends on lots of things, but for people with their own Mums to include in plans you can have 3 sets of plans to fit in (child's mum, mum & mil) possibly an older generation as well, also other children in the family, depending on where they all live it can be extremely busy anyway!

not everyone only has the one invited child to consider, & themselves.

@Keeley14 I'd rearrange, even if it can't be close to DC birthday. You can do family things in their birthday & have a friends party later.

Hmmm.

You seem very judgemental in your views and unable to appreciate that other people view things / celebrate things differently.

I cant think of anyone who celebrates Mother’s Day etc who “pressures” their family into it.

You might want to re-evaluate your self assessment of your “success as a mother” when you are so closed in your thinking.

That's why you send them with Dad, whilst Mum has a break.

I would have still attended, and have in the past taken my child to a party on mother's day. We don't particularly do anything that day (I expect a card from my kids in the morning but other than that we don't usually make specific plans).

I think it depends how many people you were inviting. If you were inviting a lot of children then I imagine you would have some decline but others would come, you would need to consider whether this would be a reasonable number though.
Also it's not far off now so may be a bit short notice for some. Having tried to sort something for my daughter this month where she is only inviting a few friends I have had to change the date several times as everyone is busy!

Really surprised at the reactions here but clearly this is putting people off so I'd reschedule.

We got an invite to a soft play party last mothers day, it was a late start at 3/4pm. At first I was abit put out, but actually it was really nice. We had our usual mothers days breakfast together as a family and I had my time. Then by the afternoon my DS was bored and it was great he had something to look forward to. The added bonus was the soft play gave every mum a free hot drink, which I thought was a nice touch!

I think it’s fine but a lot of people might have plans already, get the invites out asap.

I would make a WhatsApp for the party, and say "hey we are planning Xs party and wondering if you would be able to make 2pm on March 15 for a soft play party? It's mother's day so we wanted to check if you'd be able to make it it or if we need to look at a different date. Can you let me know asap? Thanks!"

Then you'll know. I've done similar in the past where I offered a couple of possible dates and went with the one most children could make.

Do you have multiple DC?

I appreciate I am probably way older than the majority of Mums on here, but I just wanted to say that my Mum never celebrated Mother's Day, saying it was a made up commercial date. We all sent cards etc despite that. Maybe you could reschedule the party so that more invitees could attend, but would you get another date booked as easily. I don't do anything on the day, my husband always wants to take me out for a meal but I always say it's too expensive. I hope you get your dilemma sorted, it's a tricky one.