Child’s party on Mother’s Day

[Keeley14]

I finally called the soft play to book a birthday party and agreed to Sunday the 15th, so relieved they still had an opening close to the actually birthday.

And now I realise it’s Mother’s Day! Bit of a panic now … I should try to reschedule right?

I just scheduled it yesterday, no invites have gone out yet.

YABU - no you’re fine, leave it
YANBU - you should try to reschedule

It’s not people being inflexible, it’s the fact that OP has been very last minute organising this party, and the people that do make plans on Mother’s Day will have definitely already made them. If OP had got the invites out weeks ago then some people might have been able to work around it.

At our school 2 weeks notice for a party would result in a high number of declines even on an average weekend.

Exactly this. Some people do book things - meals out, afternoon tea, trips out and the like. But even those who don't do planned events or meals, will have family coming to see them. People who aren't mothers will be going to see their mothers. Or grandmothers. And some will be going to see their mother-in-laws.

The majority of people will be partaking in some kind of celebration or get-together. Our 2 young adult DC (who no longer live at home) are coming to ours and we're going to a local attraction. The two of them, and DH and I. Their partners are seeing their mothers.... (They are not married to their partners, and DH and I aren't seeing our mothers as they died some years ago.) We have no grandparents alive either.

Booking a child's party on Mothers Day is a bad move. Most people won't come. I guarantee it.

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It wouldn't bother me personally but I know it would others so in your shoes I would reschedule if possible

Wouldnt bother me at all. Mothers Day is another cliche like valentines day.

We nearly did this with DS’s party - we were going to book 21st June and then realised it’s Father’s Day. It will be on the 20th now as I thought most of the parents would be seeing their own dads, as I will be.

However I’d probably go to a kids party on Mother’s Day, I always see my mum the day before (no public transport to where she lives on Sundays) and usually we’re not up to much, there will be cake involved, what’s not to like!

Obviously the dad can bring the kid and leave the mums to 2 hrs of me time on mothers' day - that's what we'd do

Mothers Day is another cliche like valentines day.

For a lot of people it isn't a 'cliche.' How sad that you look at it like this.......

Many people I know love Mothers Day and Valentines Day. I actually feel quite sorry for people who think they're a cliche and materialistic and pointless and all that.... And I really do wonder why some people think like this. (I have my suspicions.)

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As a parent of a June baby (near Father’s Day), don’t do it @Keeley14 . Even with loads of notice, even early or late in the day, people do not want to celebrate a birthday on those days. For yours and your child’s sake, reschedule.

It’s fine. Nobody I know goes OTT with this stuff. Mother’s Day is a whole day. A couple of hours in the afternoon letting your kids have fun is great.

What if have you have a family lunch planned with you, your own Mum and MIL on that day?

It doesn't matter if 'nobody you know goes OTT.' Some people do, and even those who don't go OTT, will still celebrate it, and still see their mother, or grandmother, or mother in law. The OP needs to reschedule.

I think you’re fine. My SIL had her DS 5th birthday at a hall last year on Mother’s Day and I didn’t even bat an eye at it

For me it's completely unimportant because I feel appreciated and well treated every day. I don't need one date in the calendar to get a lie-in or to go out for lunch or understand how much my children care about me.

In a couple of weeks when the day comes round the threads on here of women upset about not getting a special day will all be from those who get treated like shit all the time and pin their hopes on one day a year making it better. That's the really sad bit.

Exactly. My brother was born on a particular day that is a celebratory day in the year, and if we had had a party for him on that day, most people would not have showed. As you say, for the sake of her child, the OP needs to reschedule.

We used to have a party for him the week before by the way!

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I wouldn’t mind if I hadn’t already made plans to host my mum or mother in law for example but I’d worry others would have Sunday lunch plans

Oh here we go, the 'I don't need a special day to know my children appreciate me' post has popped up. 🙄

Just because MANY people recognise and celebrate Mothers Day, and go and see their mother, and go for a meal, or afternoon tea, or take them out somewhere, that doesn't mean that they don't love, and care for them, and see them for the rest of the year! I always celebrate Mothers day with my 2 DC, and still see them every week, and speak to them most days!

No-one is pinning all their hopes on their child showing up on Mothers day to make them happy.

Good for you if you don't give a stuff about Mothers Day. Many people DO, and for that reason the OP needs to reshcedule the child's party date. Most people won't turn up!

(It sounds like you're projecting a bit to be honest, or maybe kidding yourself that you're OK with no fuss on Mothers day..................)

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I did a birthday party on Mother's Day a few years ago - think DS was turning 4. It was a village hall rather than soft play, but we had a good turnout. Was largely fathers who turned up with the children, giving Mum an afternoon off!

If you can slide the party back an hour so it doesn't clash with potential family lunches that would be an idea, but otherwise I'd go for it.

I think this is a really difficult time if people want to do Mother’s Day lunch. I would definitely reschedule.

ETA - it’s only 2 weeks away, too, so it’s likely people already have plans.

Good for you if you don't give a stuff about Mothers Day. Many people DO, and for that reason the OP needs to reshcedule the child's party date. Most people won't turn up!
Possibly. Would be a bit daft for OP to just reschedule without at least checking how many people would make it. It might be "most", it might not. No way of knowing without asking.

We had the same and decided to change it as we were worried it would mean a lot.of my dd's friends wouldn't attend. If you can I'd change to another day

Lunch out is OTT? Who knew! This will blow your mind but we sometimes go out for lunch with friends and family for no reason at all! Just because we can!

I went to a Christening on Easter Sunday once.

Everybody invited who had children turned up and stayed for the after-party in the local pub.

I'd be delighted for my partner to take my child to a party on Mother's Day but I don't have a mum nearby I need to visit. Many parents will be busy though so I'd try and change the booking.

This is so patronising to those in loving and appreciative relationships who choose to spend the day with family rather than in soft play.

Very arrogant take on it all.

Just because people book a family meal out doesnt mean they are badly treated in their relationships FFS - how arrogant can you be?

I rsvpd no to a birthday party for my dc on Father’s Day last year. We wanted to do something as a family.