Child’s party on Mother’s Day

[Keeley14]

I finally called the soft play to book a birthday party and agreed to Sunday the 15th, so relieved they still had an opening close to the actually birthday.

And now I realise it’s Mother’s Day! Bit of a panic now … I should try to reschedule right?

I just scheduled it yesterday, no invites have gone out yet.

YABU - no you’re fine, leave it
YANBU - you should try to reschedule

I did a party on Mother’s Day once for DD and everyone still came !

No harm in asking, as long as any delay doesn’t jeopardise OP’s chances of being able to rearrange without incurring costs. But it’s not the only way to know - I wouldn’t need to ask anyone at our school to know a birthday party on Mother’s Day with 2 weeks notice would be very poorly attended.

That isn't what I said at all.

Lots of people who are very happy will have plans. Lots of people won't be bothered. But the only people who get so upset about not getting a special day and come here to talk about it are 99% of the time ones who are treated like shit most of the time.

I'm not saying enjoying a celebration is an indication of being unhappy. I'm saying giving it undue importance every year is an indication of that.

And explaining why personally I'm not bothered.

It wouldn't bother me and if we were free we'd accept just like any other Sunday. The issue is more with it being mothers day and short notice so a lot of people may have made plans with family already.

I'm more surprised at 2 weeks notice rather than it being mothers day tbh

@WallyHilloughby “lol at most people”. Doesn’t take much to make you laugh does it.

Sorry you have no plans on that date, but most people do. With their own kids, their own mothers, their mother in laws, their nans etc.

I personally don’t like going out for dinner on Mother’s Day, it’s over priced for the day, but I do like to go for a nice drive, have a walk somewhere and then see my mother later. I wouldn’t want to be in a kids party !

That's fine unless you have 2 or 3 kids and your choices are to stay at home and solo wrangle the other two or take the party kid to soft play!

There's a reason that the MD slot was available at short notice.

Would people still feel the same if the party is on Father's Day? I'm having that conundrum at the moment.

Oh goodness me no. Its the dag mothers are supposed to get some rest.. people will also be visiting family. I would be declining the invite.
People will have plans already most likely.

When my children were young we’d have been taking both of our mothers out to lunch. Now they’re adults they invite me out to lunch. It’s not that the whole day is sacrosanct, it’s that the party is bang in the middle of out for lunch time.

I think the issue is less that it’s on Mothers Day, exactly, but because it’s on a day many might already have plans for and at only 2 weeks notice. If booked and invited with 4 weeks notice, probably fine, but by this stage I think it’s actually a bit late notice.

If you want to save lots of money by not as many people accepting the invite, then yes, this is a good day to book :)

Who are you to judge what “undue importance” is though?

Spending a lovely multi generational afternoon with my family is of due
importance to me. There is no angst involved; we just have to book it in advance to get the reservation that we want and for diary management.

You are personally not bothered but other people are and you implied that everyone who is bothered is being treated badly or is focused on 1 particular day.

”But the only people who get so upset about not getting a special day and come here to talk about it are 99% of the time ones who are treated like shit most of the time.”

If I had a great day - why would I post?!

Only people who have NOT had a great day would post - so you cant extrapolate that to be representative of all people who make plans for the day.

Yes. I think so.

Only people who have NOT had a great day would post - so you cant extrapolate that to be representative of all people who make plans for the day.
If you read any single thread on here on the 15th where the OP is upset about having a crap day I guarantee they will end up revealing that the OP is treated like crap year round and that the 15th itself is only a focal point for generally shit behaviour.

That is what I mean by undue importance. The focus on one day a year being treated well meaning so much that it makes up for not getting what anyone deserves year round. It juat disguises all the underlying problems.

I'm not saying at all then generally enjoying a celebration if that's what floats your boat is unreasonable. It's also fine not to be bothered by it.

Another money-making 'event' which has been blown out of all proportion in the last few years! How many people are aware that Mother's Day was originally the day when servant girls were allowed to visit their mothers and used to take a Simnel Cake as a gift? Now it has become as ridiculous as Hallowe'en, Valentine's Day, Father's Day and all the rest. It's just another Sunday - great day for a party.

Was it at lunchtime?

Do most fathers do most of the work when it comes to parenting?

I’d reschedule, people will have plans

Yea, some people go out for a meal etc, but a lot of people I know just spend time together with their children and partners, visit their parents and in laws, maybe go for a drive to somewhere nice and have a walk, have a nice dinner at home or get a takeaway. There is nothing money making about that. It does mean they wouldn’t be available for a kids party though so it would be sensible for OP to change the date.

I honestly wouldn’t be bothered and would attend.

But we’re a tea and toast in bed with a home made card, family for Mother’s and Father’s Day.
After that it’s a regular Sunday. But know many others are a Sunday best in a restaurant having afternoon tea after big bunches of flowers and gifts type of family so would probably avoid that date for a booking.

It’s nothing about resentment and all about practicalities. I see my own mum and we celebrate jointly. We aren’t local so MD is a whole day event (sometimes we make a weekend of it). It’s booked in the family diaries about 3 month ahead at least as my brother and his partner would also be included.

A child's party doesn’t fit in.

There is a middle ground!

We get together for a whole family Sunday lunch (at home, no restaurants) and a walk, no big gifts. But because we are not local it takes the whole day and some planning.

I once booked a child's party on father's day by mistake. Several guests couldn't come due to father's day plans and I had to cancel the whole thing