Child’s party on Mother’s Day

[Keeley14]

I finally called the soft play to book a birthday party and agreed to Sunday the 15th, so relieved they still had an opening close to the actually birthday.

And now I realise it’s Mother’s Day! Bit of a panic now … I should try to reschedule right?

I just scheduled it yesterday, no invites have gone out yet.

YABU - no you’re fine, leave it
YANBU - you should try to reschedule

I was merely using two polar examples of celebrating Mother’s / Father’s Day not listing every type of way to do it

This. A party was once done on this day and almost everyone pulled out. Change the date. Even if people say they’re coming, a lot will pull out closer to the day.

Reschedule, 2pm is an annoying time on Mother’s Day as anyone going for lunch would have to rush, so probably just won’t bother

Toast and tea in bed is just sad. Surely that’s just an average every day thing.

Nah. Tea and toast in bed is a mild annoyance I tolerate and do an excellent job of pretending to enjoy once a year because DC have picked up from somewhere that it's a thing that is expected of Mother's Day 😂

I honestly just wouldn’t go to a birthday party on Mother’s Day!

This exact scenario happened to me last year. We rescheduled to the weekend after. I asked parents to test the water before deciding and about 50% of DD's friends would have been unable to make it on the mothers day date due to prior plans.

Yawn! Must be so boring not being able to celebrate anything and insisting every single day must only be a “normal” run of the mill day.

I would rearrange it if you can, we usually take MIL out for lunch on Mother’s Day so we would have to decline your invitation - I wouldn’t give up lovely Mothers Day lunch with the family to sit in the soft play for two hours.

My daughter had a couple of parties on father's day. Didn't have a low turnout. Most parents seemed happy to have an activity and just planned family visits before/after.

I dont need a disgustingly manufactured day, with gross links to religion to celebrate being mother.

I dont need to pressure my DH or Dboys into celebrating me. I dont need flowers or food to congratulate me. Being a successful mother is more than enough for me.

You obv need that validation and for V.Day as well and for that i have my suspicions as well, and you have my pity.

Fwiw @Keeley14, there are some of us who wouldn’t be bothered by it. I’d be fine with it.

But I wouldn’t risk it and I would probably move it’s the reality is there are probably more people who would be bothered than who wouldn’t.

No because I work and my children have sports / activities to go to on the weekends. We don’t lie in bed on an average day.
But my children love helping to make the tea and toast, we even push the boat out and they also bring orange juice too.

It’s sad you would have to “pressure” your DH and your children to celebrate you.

My child’s birthday clashed with Father’s Day often. People came, they were under no obligation to. The op does not ‘need’ to reschedule but she can if she wishes!

I wonder what it is that makes you feel so superior to people who celebrate life differently to you. How miserable can you be. Weird how people are slagging off Mother’s Day but not the actual subject of a mum spending hundreds on her child’s party. I’m surprised you don’t think birthdays are disgustingly manufactured too.

My DD is 18 now but her birthday always falls around mother's day. We don't do anything as a family and a couple of her parties ended up being on mothering Sunday over the years.

Was never an issue and we didn't have any higher drop out rate than any party on a different day.

Some of the responses here are most def OTT, including your frothy post. And yes I am aware people go for lunch. They could still attend a party at 1600. Well in my world anyway.

The party is at 2pm, so obviously can coincide with other people’s lunch plans

I DID THIS!!! This exact same thing, this year for my soon to be 4YO. I threw myself at the mercy of the watsapp chat. Put a poll up to canvass for opinions. Only two children out of 25 not able to make it. General consensus is Dad will bring the kiddo so mum can get a couple of hours of peace.

But mine is early morning so it doesn’t interfere with Mother’s Day lunch plans so I would definitely put a message on the chat first!

I would decline, Mother's Day for us is a family day. No expensive gifts (not that that's an issue!) But we always have a little afternoon tea, a family movie, board game, Lego, I have a bubble bath. We just enjoy it. We do stuff every other weekend, I have a busy job, kids would both choose for us all to be together rather than attend a party.

I know right.......🙄 But some people don't NEEEEEED a particular day to show their loved ones how much they mean to them, as they show them every single day of the year. And obviously, people who buy gifts for their partner, mother, and father on Valentines Day, Mothers Day, and Fathers Day, don't even speak to them - let alone visit them - for the other 360-ish days of the year! 😂

Honestly this place sometimes! 😆

I guess so. Unless they made brunch plans.

I think everyone celebrates differently. I don’t think anyone can say that ‘most people’ do x, y or z. We only know what those close to us do.

I love the cards my older kids write. But I would not go out for lunch as I hate being out on ‘hallmark’ days in restaurants in identikit rows, like valentines or Mother’s Day. It’s personal preference.

I'd probably suck it up and go for DD's sake but I wouldn't be happy about it.

Yes, lots of people will think like this.