Child’s party on Mother’s Day

[Keeley14]

I finally called the soft play to book a birthday party and agreed to Sunday the 15th, so relieved they still had an opening close to the actually birthday.

And now I realise it’s Mother’s Day! Bit of a panic now … I should try to reschedule right?

I just scheduled it yesterday, no invites have gone out yet.

YABU - no you’re fine, leave it
YANBU - you should try to reschedule

I don’t think the issue is resentment. It’s that people might have other plans.

I meant resentment about this invitation coming in now meaning they resented not being able to make plans for the entire day because a couple of hours are dedicated to a party.

Do people already have plans for it? It's more than two weeks away. I haven't thought about it yet. The planning that far in advance is another thing about MD I didn't realise was a thing.

It would be a no from me. I think you’ll find lots of people won’t be available due to visiting parents/inlaws.

Edited to add that maybe it’s a great idea. All the dads can take the kids and let the mums have some time to themselves! 😄

It wouldn’t have bothered me but I think lots of people will may have other plans so I would change it if possible.

My DD has been invited to a soft play party that day. We sadly had to decline as we already have plans with my DM but I would say 75% of the class have accepted.

I would reschedule, some of the kids might be away seeing grandparents that day. And 2pm is prime time for going out for a family lunch. You might not get many attending.

Lots of people will have made plans, especially if going out to eat as places need to be booked early. You also have families with more than one child, how mad would that be where mam walks out with 4 year old saying, see ya later we're off to a soft play party, you stay home.

I would definitely change the date.

I’d try and reschedule. If you can’t I’d put a note on the invite saying it Mother’s Day but I hope you can come etc. I’d worry people would accept not realising. Or they will drop out when they make family plans.

Most families will already have plans.

No more mad than any other Sunday where one child is invited to a party and the other isn't. I.e. not at all. Why would it be? Is Mother's Day now meant to be a day where no child is allowed to be apart from their mother for the whole day or something?

I take my own mother out on Mother's Day. Many people do. No way would I be going to a party at 2pm.

Mothers have mothers, you know. It's not all about the kids.

People will have lunch booked. You might just about get away with 9.30am or 3.30pm.

Some people see their own mums on Mother’s Day and so may have already made plans.

The date wouldn’t bother me but it’s likely that you’ll get some no shows/less people.

If you’re concerned about people not attending then I’d change the date.

Reschedule. We once did this for one of ours, genuinely not realising the date was Mother’s or Father’s Day (can’t recall which now) and got a few declines the same day stating why. So, we quickly tried to message everyone we had contact details for (some we didn’t, kid handed out invites at school and we didn’t have contacts for all parents), advising it was our error and to hold tight, we would find a new date and reissue invites later. No one would have come if we had of left it as it was originally.

Sure, and some of those might have plans with them. Doesn't explain why one child being taken to a party and another left at home is "mad" because it's Mother's Day.

Oh, sure. But that would be weird too though, imo.

A lot of mums and dads are going to visit or take out their own mums (as in the grandmas of the kids who are currently school age). It's not a "fuss".

I guess there's people who don't mind not being with their children on mother's day, a regular Sunday is different, if there's other children they'll have planned things for their mam and making the day special and then off pops mam with one sibling to a party.

In the hospitality trade, Mother's Day is a huge thing. One of the, if not the, busiest days of the year. I used to work in a pub with a restaurant, and we ran it like a military operation. Mother's Day gets booked up weeks in advance. And most tables were multi-generational, so little kids, mums and grans.

No wonder that slot was available, OP!

Why? I really don't get that at all. If there are actual plans to go out for lunch or something sure but what about it being MD makes it odd for one child to go to a party and another not? Which on any other day would be completely normal?

Is it somehow intrinsically ofd for any child to be apart from their mother for a couple of hours because it's a specific date?

Alright. You don't think it's odd, others do.

I would re schedule if possible. Some kids may not attend if they already got other plans.

lol at ‘most people’