To message her..

[TheDenimPoet]

I've almost decided I'm going to do this, but I need some support to know I'm doing the right thing.

Two years ago, a friend of mine (quite obviously not anymore) was arrested for child sex offences. Talking to a 13 year old boy online and arranging to meet. Sending sexual images etc. Anyway, he got found out, suspended sentence, sex offenders register for 15 years, broke up with his wife, lost contact with his kids.

He has made a false Facebook profile with a different first name and last name spelt backwards, and is now in a new relationship. He's been really cocky posting things online, as if he has no care in the world.

The new woman has a 12 year old son, and it genuinely knocked the wind out of my sails looking at him, and thinking that's almost the age of the boy he abused.

There's every chance she doesn't know. There was an article in the press, but it came and went, and unless she thought to Google him, she would probably never find out, as she's not local (I'm sure this was intentional).

So.

Should I send her the link to the article?

I really want to protect her and her son. I'm also really scared of backlash as there's been a lot of hate from his family that we haven't stuck by him. But there's no way I'm remaining friends and supporting this man.

Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by telling her?

@TheDenimPoetCan you find his court case online so you can message her with evidence?

Please tell her but with evidence. If she loves him she might not want to believe you. Perhaps you could send him a link to the article or police files (if public) so she can do some more digging herself?

This!
If you contact her first it risks driving him underground.

I speak as someone who's mother was groomed by a paedophile so he could access young boys - you MUST tell her & quickly.

He's on sex offenders register so please also tell the police

I think I would also protrct myself and somehow get the message to her. Potentially the police might be a good place to start.
She might not believe you as a person, he could tell her all sorts of lies and be cooercing her, and you don't know what sort of person she is. She could also be an abuser for all you know. Unlikely but not impossible.
Therefore the police seems like a sensible place to start.

Please contact the police immediately- registered sex offenders are subject to a number of conditions including registered aliases and notification of intimate relationships. This male will have a Police Risk Assessor and Probation Officer responsible for his management. If he is using an unregistered name on facebook this needs to be captured evidentially. Telling you friend may result in the account being detected and evidence being lost.

However, child safeguarding is what should take priority here - the police will address this along with a social worker so please do not delay making contact with professionals who will make the appropriate disclosures tp mum under MAPPA guidance.

I urge you to contact the police immediately - creating anonymous email addresses or sending links only undermines the job of very experienced professionals who will manage this situation with the skills and experience required.

You sound like a wonderful friend x

Yes

You’d be really unreasonable not to tell both her and the police. Good job for stepping up.

THIS

Absolutely this!

Message her. He is almost certainly with her to groom her son. The match of age with his previous victim is too close to be coincidence.

yes do it!

I agree and also social services.

This. Even if it's not part of bail conditions a community constable may pay her a visit and tell her. They won't have to bring your name into it which will be another advantage.
If you message her he may make up a cover story like your a jealous ex or something. Unfortunately these men are very sly like that.

Do it. Protect that boy

This.

Oh, you absolutely HAVE to protect the boy by sending that link. Do it anonymously if you have to, but protect that boy. I don't think it's a coincidence that's he's struck up a relationship with a woman who has a 12-year-old son. The child comes first, so tell her.

My DH is in law enforcement and I asked him his opinion. He thinks you should take this directly to the Guard and also send her a link.

Ask the police for advice.. Or you will be labelled the crazy ex making up stories... Not sure if changing his name has to be approved by the courts if he is on the SOR...
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This too!

Absolutely yes. I would definitely want to know if it were me

I agree with reporting to police. He may be breaking his licence conditions and will be hdrd back to jail

100% contact her (could do this anonymously if you’re concerned for your own safety )
and the police (not anonymously) immediately
you are protecting her and her son

In my day job I work with people who commit these kinds of offences. I would report to the Police as soon as you can.

It is highly likely he is subject to a Sex Offenders Prevention Order and it is illegal for him to have unsupervised contact with children.
To take the pressure off you I would contact the police about this, and then follow up to make sure they have checked the mother is aware.
He could go back to jail for this.