To message her..

[TheDenimPoet]

I've almost decided I'm going to do this, but I need some support to know I'm doing the right thing.

Two years ago, a friend of mine (quite obviously not anymore) was arrested for child sex offences. Talking to a 13 year old boy online and arranging to meet. Sending sexual images etc. Anyway, he got found out, suspended sentence, sex offenders register for 15 years, broke up with his wife, lost contact with his kids.

He has made a false Facebook profile with a different first name and last name spelt backwards, and is now in a new relationship. He's been really cocky posting things online, as if he has no care in the world.

The new woman has a 12 year old son, and it genuinely knocked the wind out of my sails looking at him, and thinking that's almost the age of the boy he abused.

There's every chance she doesn't know. There was an article in the press, but it came and went, and unless she thought to Google him, she would probably never find out, as she's not local (I'm sure this was intentional).

So.

Should I send her the link to the article?

I really want to protect her and her son. I'm also really scared of backlash as there's been a lot of hate from his family that we haven't stuck by him. But there's no way I'm remaining friends and supporting this man.

Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by telling her?

Its so shocking and so fortunate you can alert her xx

tell her and the police without delay.

You’ve done the right thing OP, well done x

Well done you for messaging her. I'd want to know. He sounds like a horrible pervert.

Yes @FMc208, Sarah's Law would be more appropriate here as the risk is to a minor...
although I think the police will still see the offences under Claire's Law and will inform the partner under 'right to know', think they can align both if there is overlap.

Well done @TheDenimPoet

How on earth would it be unfair?!! Is it Sarah’s Law rather than Claire’s Law?

ETA: hadn’t seen posts just above mine saying same!

Well done op, you have absolutely done the right thing.
I just wanted to add that a person I grew up with and was a friend turned out to be a peadophile and it's really hard to come to terms with, I hope your ok after sending the message.

Further edit to say very well done @TheDenimPoet

Immediately yes.

Absolutely without a shadow of a doubt you did the right thing.

Maybe suggested previously thread but suggest you take photos of the new social media profile this person has set up - if his girlfriend now has the info and tells him he could delete the “evidence”

and you are clearly a decent human taking this stance and protecting especially the young boy in his new life.

Yes this. I would make sure it’s anonymous. Not to scare you, but if you are seen to be destroying his new life, a real toxic piece of filth like him won’t look inward, only at those who attack them.

Police straight away, he will be monitored and if they don't know he is living with a child that will be a breach of his requirements (uk)

She needs to know, but I would do it anonymously to protect yourself. I would probably write if you know the address, say you are a well wisher and that given her sons age you feel that you need to check she is aware of her partners history. If the newspaper report has his picture in, send that. If it doesn't have a picture in, send it but point out his real name (he may not be using it), include his facebook details and leave it at that. In this way you will avoid any nastiness.

Call the police and report what he is doing (a relationship with someone who has a minor in the house) and then send her the link. Contact the police because he will absolutely be breeching conditions and also if the mother doesn't care.

She has contacted the police already.

Tell her.

Message her. Report it to the police and children’s social care. You’ve got to make sure you pass this on as it could save that child

100% yes if she doesn't read the message inform SS

Had to comment because accidentally clicked YABU. Please do tell her.

Well done 👏

Honestly, thankyou. Just wanted to say thanks and you've done the right thing.

@TheDenimPoet you've done such a good thing. I came here to say it was your civic purpose to report. And clearly you thought so too.

You've probably saved that 12 year old a lifetime of anguish. 😍

Don't waste another second on here, do it now!!!! A boys whole future depends on it!!!!