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[TheDenimPoet]

I've almost decided I'm going to do this, but I need some support to know I'm doing the right thing.

Two years ago, a friend of mine (quite obviously not anymore) was arrested for child sex offences. Talking to a 13 year old boy online and arranging to meet. Sending sexual images etc. Anyway, he got found out, suspended sentence, sex offenders register for 15 years, broke up with his wife, lost contact with his kids.

He has made a false Facebook profile with a different first name and last name spelt backwards, and is now in a new relationship. He's been really cocky posting things online, as if he has no care in the world.

The new woman has a 12 year old son, and it genuinely knocked the wind out of my sails looking at him, and thinking that's almost the age of the boy he abused.

There's every chance she doesn't know. There was an article in the press, but it came and went, and unless she thought to Google him, she would probably never find out, as she's not local (I'm sure this was intentional).

So.

Should I send her the link to the article?

I really want to protect her and her son. I'm also really scared of backlash as there's been a lot of hate from his family that we haven't stuck by him. But there's no way I'm remaining friends and supporting this man.

Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by telling her?

Just remove him from the home, that's not such a big ask surely?

Who are you talking to with this? The OP can’t remove anyone….

This is so sad and terrifying, he might have targeted her because of her son. I hope she chucks him out. But he is a sick arsehole that will go on trying to groom children if he is not put in prison

The police will likely visit him at home and notify the partner so that will all get handled.

I had to do a similar thing. Someone who was on the SOR went on to open a baby and toddler shop. I notified the police, they visited the shop and told the co-owner who was also the offenders partner. She had no idea before.

No advice to offer, I just want to say well done for taking swift action and doing the right thing here OP. I hope wholeheartedly that the lady sees sense and ends this relationship immediately.

Well done OP. Did they comment on him being in a relationship with someone who has a child? Seems way more of a problem than the social media issue.

I mean, I actually don't know. I guess some people might think that he's served his time, hopefully been rehabilitated, and deserves to be able to move on with his life. But I am not even sure why I wrote that because I am not one of those people...

No, he hasn't served his time. He's still within his suspended sentence, and is still on the sex offenders register.

You must be a better person than me, but I don't think anyone who tries to have sex with a boy just out of primary school deserves to move on with their life, particularly when they're breaking the terms of their sentence.

You must be a better person than me, but I don't think anyone who tries to have sex with a boy just out of primary school deserves to move on with their life, particularly when they're breaking the terms of their sentence.

I mean I literally said that I don't feel like it's unfair...

Sorry I meant the people who think that must be better than me. It's been a long day!

I’d grass him in to the police to be honest !

Oh that’s a good idea. OP, read this comment, it’s really sensible, I’m sure no one has suggested it yet.

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Given that she hasn't responded is cause for concern. Anyone put in that position would get all the info they can. There must be ways the safeguarding team can track her surely!

No, I absolutely had no idea other than possibly that be was gay.

He has brazenly flouted the conditions of his suspended sentence. The conditions are there for every good reason. There aren’t the resources in the police or probation service to keep tabs on people. I think you’ve done the right thing OP.

I wouldn't tell her directly as you don't know how safe that will be for her, but I would contact the police/probation and inform them and SS

Just wanted to check back in and let you know that you’re doing the right thing. Going in to give a statement must have been nerve wracking but the police have confirmed he’s breached his conditions so hopefully they will make him serve out the term inside.

Good for you.

Report him to the police and contact her anonymously - providing evidence.

Many years ago I worked in a law firm and a client was charged with SA of very young girls. He would deliberately date single mothers with young girls.

He abused so many young girls it was uncovered because the girls spoke to each other and reported him to a teacher.

You absolutely need to contact the Police and the mother. I would also contact this kid’s school as well and speak to the Principal. He shouldn’t be near any child.