To be annoyed at partner booking a trip…

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I have wanted to go away for ages but due partners work we have to wait till June for our main holiday.
Today he texts me saying he has booked 2 nights in Gran Canaria next weekend.
We don’t get there till 5pm Saturday and come home 5pm monday.
What is the point
The flights were only £40 return but still ridiculous
Aibu to be annoyed ?

The weather there looks like it's going to be nice, 18-19°c and sunny ☀️

He’s not much of a partner if he thinks he’s the boss of both of you!
A decent partner discusses options and you both share the decision making.

So a decent partner shouldn't do surprise treats!
I better tell dh I'm a rubbish wife and I think Im the boss of him because I dont always consult him where we are going for our weekend breaks until nearer the time! Oh the disrespect!!!

I get it, OP.

By the time you add in airport parking, maybe car hire, the hotel, food, those cheap £40 flights don’t save much for such a short trip.

Such a waste.

He’s not “wasting” her money, is he?

It’s not a surprise treat when OP has to pay for it too.

How do you know? OP hasn't said whether the payments are coming from a joint account.

She’s not paying for it, he’s already paid for it.

So he’s going to pay for everything, the hotel, the food, the car hire, the airport parking? Are you sure?

What are you annoyed about here? He's heard that you're gutted you've got to wait until June for your "main" holiday (there's a lot to unpack there!) so he's surprised you with a weekend to somewhere sunny which fits in with his work and addresses your desire for a holiday.

Are you annoyed that it's last minute? but also annoyed that you've got to wait 3 months for the MAIN holiday (I mean, main?! so you get other holidays during the year?!)
Are you annoyed that it's very short? but also know full well he can't get the leave from work to do a fortnight until June?
Are you annoyed that you'll be travelling a while to get somewhere for only a short stint? But I get the impression that you've maybe banged on about wanting a proper holiday so instead of him booking a cottage in the Cotswolds he's taking you abroad as a gesture to show he knows you want to go away away.

Microdose the sun and the travel and silliness. Embrace the spontaneity. Celebrate that your partner has listened and acted. Embrace the joy of it.

You aren't just being unreasonable, you're being a little princess. Your pissing on a cute thoughtful attempt at giving you a bit of what you want. Grow up.

I thought you were going to say he had booked the trip for himself and not you! I think it’s a sweet thing for him to do if he knows you are really wanting to get away and it’s a bit sad that you just want to moan about it

Are you sure he’s paid for everything? OP says he’s paid for £40 flights.

No, I’m not sure any more than you are. I’m assuming because if I did something similar I’d pay for it all. Most elements would be paid in advance.

What a nasty post.

As you are aware of the potential issues maybe pre-empt them.

Get dinner for the Saturday night booked in so he's expecting it. There's no reason for him to be too tired on arrival to do anything - you won't have had an early start and he can have a nap on the flight.

Check out the weather forecast and have a plan for Sunday.

On Monday you have time to soak up a few rays, maybe go for a swim followed by a nice lunch or brunch before heading to the airport

Download a couple of books or TV series for the flights, and have a lovely time

I assume the opposite, I doubt he’s planning to pay for it all. But only OP can say.

Even if they are paid in advance, they may be paid from a joint account.

ETA by the way, if you are not sure, posting "She’s not paying for it, he’s already paid for it." doesn't indicate a lack of certainty

I wouldn't want to go to canary islands for 2 night either. Would rather have some type of staycation. A lot of travel for the duration. It is better than the one day lapland trips that one travel agency offer.

However, this seems like one of those situations where I would go along and tell my partner that it is nice of them to organise a trip but in the future maybe something closer if it is only 2 nights.

I dont think its the flying itself that’s tiring - I tend to be tired the first day as we often have really early flights, so I sleep quite badly as I’m afraid I’ll miss my 3.30 am alarm!

And I’ve seen a lot of people on MN saying that they find airports themselves tiring and stressful - so much so that they no longer wish to travel abroad.

Ooh I go in a heartbeat. A glass of champagne and a mooch around the shops at the airport, the warm air getting off the airplane, dinner out, sunbathing, lunch with a glass of rose, down to the beach for a swim in the sea, getting ready for dinner, cocktails, bit of shopping and sunbathing on the Monday, nice lunch, and then back home. Sounds wonderful.

He's either a control freak who decides what you do without consulting you, or he's shit at surprises and has chosen something that doesn't meet your wishes.

We went to Majorca overnight once. Drinks, late dinner, board games, market, barbecue lunch, swim and chill then home. Also done overnighters to Bergen and to Stockholm. It's all in the attitude. It's a longer flight for you though - just decide your holiday starts the second you leave your home and doesn't finish till you're back. Download a good film for the plane or take a book you've always been meaning to read.

It would probably feel less weird to you if he’d said Friday to Sunday rather than Saturday to Monday. You could also easily spend 5-hours driving to a weekend break - London to Edinburgh wouldn’t be unreasonable for a mini break. The travel is half the fun. A book, an audio book or a couple of podcasts, and some music, and you’re good to go.

I went Amsterdam with my son for a gig on Thursday 12 Feb got there at 10am flew back 7pm 13th we had a feb few hours and even went Amsterdam to do shopping was a pain pushing a suitcase but love it but was awake from 3.30 am Thursday till 12.30 am Friday morning as was at a gig lol so was tired haha 😂 I'm.to old for this crap now haha

Some partners can't win can they!

I'd find it a slog. It's quite a long flight to Gran Canaria, you have to be at the airport for 2 hours before the flight... It's a lot of travel for very little return.

But SUPER sweet and thoughtful of your partner to book it.

Also, waiting until June for your main holiday is kinda typical. I can't afford a non-main holiday this year, let alone a main one. You sound brattish.