To be annoyed at partner booking a trip…

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I have wanted to go away for ages but due partners work we have to wait till June for our main holiday.
Today he texts me saying he has booked 2 nights in Gran Canaria next weekend.
We don’t get there till 5pm Saturday and come home 5pm monday.
What is the point
The flights were only £40 return but still ridiculous
Aibu to be annoyed ?

I'd just look at it as a night out in a foreign place! Don't think of it as a holiday, don't even think of it as a couple of days away, just think of it as a great opportunity to have a good night out enjoying some food and drink!
That way it looks like your partner has been really extravagant and done something amazing!
I love a really short break away (albeit in this country usually!).
Turn it around as not being a silly idea but something that was booked on the spur of the moment and is just a little bit of fun. This is why I always have an emergency case packed with clean clothes/toiletries etc.

*So your only full day there is Sunday?
I would be annoyed too.

Well you would get Saturday evening, all day Sunday, Sunday evening and Monday morning. Plenty of time to have a nice weekend.

Some people think thevglass is half empty others think its half full.

Personally I would grab this chance and have fun rather than being a miserable duck about it.

I know people are saying about the travelling but I'd make that part of the trip, enjoy browsing at the duty free, maybe book the airport lounge. It makes a change for the weekend!

flying for at least 4 hours to go somewhere for about 30 hours? Air travel isn’t exactly relaxing and once you’ve had the fuss of getting there, departures and then getting to accommodation from the airport and doing the same in reverse, it’s such a time sink and usually I’m pretty pooped from it all. It’ll probably be about 16h of travel for 1 day of sun. What is the point.
I dont think its that tiring to be honest.
I always find that once Im in a different location within a few hours home seems so far away , mentally , and it feels like a break just by doing something different.
A change is as good as a rest!

So the second day will come and go and if it’s a rubbish day …we have travelled all that way for mothing

Why would it be a rubbish day? Are you always this negative?

Great way to look at it

My other half often books random short city breaks and I absolutely love him for it. That's in addition to him booking our main summer holiday. Is there some reason you're so annoyed? Is there a clash?

I'm amazed so many have said YABU. It's not a romantic 48 hour getaway to Paris. It's 8 hours on a plane and potentially 4 in an airport - for less than 48 hours in a destination where you'll want to stay longer. No sooner have you started to relax ,you'll be coming home again.

This might be some people's cup of tea but it's not the kind of thing you book as a surprise since it is also something many people won't enjoy. Sure, the OP will go and no doubt enjoy it but she's allowed to be irritated that her partner did this without asking.

I hope you get your holiday in June too OP.

OP you sound like my DH 🙄
“whats the point” It is EXHAUSTING to live with. So now I don’t plan anything.
He knew you wanted to go away and hes made the best with what he has available to him.
I get it might be a bit faffy but if you try a different mindset it might be amazing?
If you really don’t want to go then don’t. But don’t be surprised if its the last thing he plans 🤣

But it’s not just a night out in a foreign place. It’s 6-7h of travelling time each way for a “night out”

I had two nights in Gran Canaria last week as it's all I could get off work. It was great - the first flight was early and the flight home late so they were long days and I enjoyed pottering around in the sun.

Why would it be awful?

Sounds like the issue is you don't trust him to not do something to spoil it. How is your relationship generally?

Agree, and relatively expensive for very little.

Any random day might be rubbish eg it rains. Rain on one day of a week long holiday is one of those things, rain on the only day is different.

Ok… so many people splitting up.

The level of ungratefulness is absolutely staggering. How many times do you see women posting on here: my husband/partner didn’t buy me a birthday gift, didn’t help me, didn’t take me out… whatever, you name it.

And now we’ve reached a point where someone makes a genuine effort: takes time to search for flights and accommodation, books it, pays for it and that’s still not good enough because he didn’t consult her?!! 😳 Have a word with yourself….

Some people will never be pleased or happy. They actively look for problems in everything, even when someone is clearly trying.

I do get all the wanting to be consulted etc and it is important that women have agency in decisions about how they spend their time, but I do find life is generally better when you approach it assuming things will be good.

It could be a terrible weekend, but it could be flipping brilliant too.

Yeah the hassle/reward ratio is way off for me. If you're at the point where you're making looking round the duty free 'part of the adventure' in an effort to make it seem worthwhile...or if you're saying 'get up at 3am, go exploring, teleport to the airport at 4.55pm and you've got another full day!'...then you're really clutching at straws.

A four hour flight, is some drinks and conversation with the man you (presumably) love, and/or time with a good book or film. Or a nap. It doesn't have to be miserable.

And travelling through airports is no hardship at all these says. I fly often and it's almost always very efficient.

Where are you going there? If the capital there’s quite a lot to do (I did bell tower, Christopher Columbus house) plus lots of bars and restaurants.

Get your partner to relax or have a nap so he’s ok to do something first night, at least a meal out.

Yeah its at least 1 day short. That said, I went to a spa in Bucharest for less time.

Yeah, won't take long for the climate to start changing either. And the food prices to start rising from flooded Spanish farms.

Oh, actually it's started already.

He’s not much of a partner if he thinks he’s the boss of both of you!

A decent partner discusses options and you both share the decision making.

A decent partner never surprises you? 🙄

LTB

Not all surprises are good.

If DH surprised me with a meal out - great. If he surprised me with a 3 day camping trip - not great, I hate camping.

My dh would never think to book a trip. Ever.

anyway, if my dh said he had booked an extreme day trip but got flights landing the evening before, and flying the afternoon of the day after so it was one full day, that would be great. And you would BU. BUT your husband sounds like he would be a miserable arse, so absolutely you are not unreasonable.

so plan what YOU are going to do when you get there and if he doesnt want to do anything, leave him and do something on your own. Plan it now.