To be annoyed at partner booking a trip…

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I have wanted to go away for ages but due partners work we have to wait till June for our main holiday.
Today he texts me saying he has booked 2 nights in Gran Canaria next weekend.
We don’t get there till 5pm Saturday and come home 5pm monday.
What is the point
The flights were only £40 return but still ridiculous
Aibu to be annoyed ?

I'd be very happy if my DH did this. A quick weekend away. Some sun. What's not to like.
A 4 hour flight is hardly an ordeal. People do places like Dubai and New York for a weekend.
Personally, I'd rather make it a long weekend but still.

All OP has said is her dp has booked the flights. That doesn't even confirm he's paid for them let alone anything else! Talk about jumping to conclusions based on your own circumstances. Not everyone gets everything paid for by partners you know.

You're so right. OP can't get a main holiday to June to their other half's work, then they get landed with a short break that doesn't work the way they like to do things. No, OP can't win.

Sounds like fun and you will only need hand luggage so no lengthy airport "stay". Enjoy the sunshine!

To TeamDP posters - what would have been so bad about DP texting OP to say “I’ve seen these flights to GC, only £40 and looks like we can get a hotel for £100 a night and boss says I can take next Monday off. I know you wanted to go away - do you fancy it or would you prefer something closer?”

Or he is a nice bloke organising a treat for his partner and his partner is being a killjoy.

She has agreed to go and said thank you.

However, for her, this trip is not a treat. Surely you can picture a surprise for you that would not be welcome. A steak restaurant when
you aren’t fond of red meat, a Eurostar trip when you don’t like tunnels or whatever.

Bur she likes holidays and has said she likes holidays. She is currently meh because of the travel element vs time away. Instead of embracing a weekend away and recognising he tried to do something nice she is putting a downer on it and determined to not enjoy it. As another person said treat the moment you leave as the start of a trip. She should look at it as Saturday am to Monday pm doing something different to every other weekend and bonus sunshine is a treat thought out by a loving partner.

If she would prefer him to be sat in front of football (or her) and her in Tescos (or him) then perhaps don't keep moaning to him that they aren't going away until June. It seems to me he can't win whatever he does.

But you don’t know how they arrange their finances. DH and I have a joint account and have done for years.

Not time to buy new clothes? Really would piss me off. Dont be silly

It sounds like she's been complaining for "ages" that they can't go away because of his job and he's tried to do something to fix that.

Op you could always enjoy the weekend with DP and stay on for a few days by yourself. In fact, why haven't you just organised a trip for yourself previously if it's been so badly wanted?

No personal money? Sounds horrific.

🤦‍♀️ the point is that the plane wouldn't be going if idiots like the OP's DP didn't book trips like this.

I’d love it if my husband did that. Change of scenery for a couple of days, some sun.

I think an overnight in Amsterdam is a bit different though as the flight is so short. Similar Barcelona, Alicante. The main issue with OP’s weekend is the length of the flight - google tells me Newcastle to Gran Canaria is 4 hours 40 mins.

I suspect that many of the posters who are being unkind to OP (and some of the posts are more mean than measured) are because people are so sick of the cold and rain that even a day in the sun sounds wonderful. They may be more considered if the question was asked in August.

God the bar really is set low for blokes isn't it! He's "booked", not necessarily paid for, £40 flights to a destination that's really minimum 5 night stay, not a weekend. No other detail...has he booked a wonderful hotel, thoughtfully near the airport so no futher travelling, has he looked at what they can do in such a short time?? Not from OP's posts. It would take me 2 mins to book the first cheapest flight I could from my local airport. Where's the effort exactly? But somehow OP is ungrateful and there's no pleasing some.

Or maybe just a normal married couple?

YANBU

There’s some absolutely ridiculous comments on here.

If it was mainland Spain or the Balearics - no problem! But to Gran Canaria, where flight time can be up to 4hours 45mins is fucking stupid and not worth it.

I too don't see the point of such a short break. It's a lot of effort for a little reward.

However, the fact the flights were only £40 each means that to my mind, it was worth him taking a punt to see if you wanted to go. At such a bargain price, probably there was no time for him to check with you first.

If I were you I would just say no thank you, and let him go on his own. Very little money has been wasted and it's no trouble to you if he goes.

For £40 I'd just go and make the most of it. Would take as long and cost more to go to London from Newcastle.

Its a nice thought but in reality if you don't land til 5pm, it could easily be 7pm before you get to your hotel, and if you fly at 5pm on Monday you'll need to be at the airport by 3pm.

But I would still go!!!

What do you mean? We each buy what we want to as long as the money is there.

There’s no such thing. I couldn’t live with no money to call my own to be spent entirely at my own discretion. How do you buy your OH a present?

Being annoyed at your partner being proactive booking a nice trip away, some of us would kill for that 😂

Hmm I regularly fly to Bangkok. Arrive late afternoon and still able to enjoy a meal / drinks out that night

People go to new York for 2 nights so not much difference

Also done sat trips to Mallorca and Costa del sol. It's no biggie