To be sick of misogynistic aggressive male chuggers?

[Bearsdolovetrees]

I work near a major London rail station and get harassed by male chuggers constantly. They don’t take no for an answer, block my path, and walk alongside me even when I’ve asked them not to.

Two examples:

Today I said “no thank you” to a Stop the Knife fundraiser. He followed me, kept asking if I was sure, and when I changed direction to move away he said “wow, what an attitude you have.”

A few months ago a Shelter fundraiser blocked my path and kept trying to fist bump me. After I said no several times, he called me unkind and ‘not a nice woman.’ I complained to the charity and they said they’d investigated and had a word with him, but ultimately, “found no evidence” which is obvious as it’s their word against mine. Am I supposed to film my walk to the station every day?!

This is daily now: young male chuggers using forced compliments about my hair/earrings/dress to try to get me to engage. I’m pretty sure they’re not genuinely into my 50-year-old style — it’s just another tactic. And, yet, they’re always offended when I don’t fawn a thank you and I get some nasty comment.

I’ve tried being pleasant, being rude. Complaining seems to go nowhere. It’s misogynistic and intimidating, and honestly not okay behaviour from men representing charities. What can I do?! What do others do?

You don't. Lovely people the Mongolians 😀

I'm in London and there are quite a lot of chuggers in my neighbourhood at weekends. They never behave like this to me; I say, 'I'm in hurry' with a smile and keep walking and they never respond or pursue me. Maybe it's because it's a residential area rather than near a big station or anything. That's shocking.
I'd name and shame the charities on SM if I were you. Particularly make sure you say that someone blocked your path; I'm certain they're not meant to do that.
And try squaring up to them; after you've said a polite 'no thank you', if they persist, stop and turn to face them, look them in the eye and say, 'I said leave me alone.' Turn and walk away without giving them a chance to reply.
Or ask them, 'Do you do this to men as well?'

Ha! My dad does a version of this with people he doesn’t want to speak to, only he’s not actually speaking any actual language, just made up gibberish words. Works a treat and ensures no one answers back!

Of course they’re not blocking men’s paths or insulting them when they don’t want to be friendly to them.

It’s weird because I actually have quite a ‘don’t fuck with me’ demeanour, but the chuggers seem to take this a chance to insult me. As I say I’ve been insulted when I’m polite, rude or when I ignore them. I’ve lived in London all my life and know how to handle myself but they’re impenetrable!

I actually will try this. Shouldn’t have to to not be insulted, but I will

I took a photo of the one a few months ago and he started swearing at me.

I was suprised to be snarled at by chuggers in the entrance of St Thomas Hospital (Waterloo) last week when I ignored them. I was on my way out after an appointment where I had been given some bad news.

A loud "Fuck Off!" always does the trick

Sweet.
Why don't I ever think of speaking Czech to them. 🤔

I think you’re being unreasonable. I’ve had many may negative encounters with chuggers over the years and I’ve always found females to be every bit as aggressive, unpleasant, and offensive as males. I’ve found women to be just as bad with making stupidity compliments. I give quite a lot to various charities but would never donate to a charity that used these tactics. I recently cancelled a long standing direct debit to a charity after they kept phoning me to pester me to increase the amount I was giving them, and increased my direct debit to Breast Cancer Now instead.

Oh yeah I get that one too a lot.

I might miaow at the next one. Have some fun with the arseholes

I don’t seem to get bothered as much as I used to, the advantages of being a middle age woman, my invisibility cloak shields me. One recently did say lady, you with the beautiful scarf, to get my attention. I let him off because it is beautiful and everyone comments on it when I wear it. I didn’t stop and donate though.

One of them asks me in the past if I didn’t care because I didn’t stop. I shouted back, no I don’t, I am as hard as nails me. He just glared at me.

I mean it works but then I also get a little misogynistic comment to send me on my way.

I hate chuggers full stop.

This is a stellar idea. Female citizen uprising

I tried that one at the fist bumper after being polite at first to no avail. I got a barrage of abuse. He even shouted to another chugger ‘don’t talk to this one, she’s not a nice person’ so the whole street heard. Which was pleasant.

That’s awful. No way should they be targeting people in hospitals - very few people are there because they want to be. I really do believe a lot of these chuggers are just paid bullies with clipboards.

I go past these guys most days on the way home from work. You need resting bitch face - London version. Walk past them, eyes ahead and don't drop your pace. If they try and stop you just say no firmly and loudly.

Also as people have said those knife crime guys are not a charity - it's a scam.

I've just walked along the south bank to the Tate Modern, and was accosted by three separate female chuggers. They were every bit as insincerely flattering, but I walked straight past them, saying 'no thanks'.

These people have no personal link to the charities; they just work on commission. And I wonder just how desperate you need to be to debase yourself this way.

They make walking through our high street virtually impossible some days. You literally can’t get past them. They are a bloody menace! I subscribe to the charities that I want to support, I don’t need chuggers to persuade me.

I politely refused a children's charity chugger and she called out to me "well, I hope your children suffer a horrible death too!" People actually stopped and looked at her in shock. Yes I complained, no I didnt get an apology.

I often put my sunglasses on when I see them, it’s easier to steam past when they can’t make eye contact. I forgot today when I went to the station and one of them caught my eye and smiled at me “You look like a nice lady…”. For once in my life I was quick to respond: “I’m not, I’m a cunt” 😂. It certainly shut him up, so I’ll be using this again!

I complained about this, and to be fair to the charity, they took it very seriously and someone rang me to apologise. I think you might have been unlucky with the complaint you made.

Doing this type of 'work' lends itself to being an obnoxious arsehole male or female.

I hate them. They always say something like ‘hey beautiful lady!’ like I’m going got be so flattered I’ll stop. They put me in a bad mood.