Embarrassed myself at friends wedding.

[SimpleSingle]

I went to a friends wedding a month ago. Had too much to drink, and fell asleep in the toilets. I was found by one of the bridesmaids who helped me to my room. The next day, everyone was joking about it.

I am mortified. I have 3 children and im 40 years old. I feel so much shame for getting myself in this state. It keeps popping into my head and I feel that awful feeling in the pit of my stomach! What an embarrassment I am.

I don’t really know what I’m hoping to get out of this post, but I am alone with my thoughts and feeling awful about this whole thing. I socialise with this extended group every 6 months or so, and I’ll be seeing them again soon, and I just don’t want to go. My friends parents all know etc. Will I ever not feel so awful about this???

My best friend's 20 year old daughter fell asleep at the table between courses, at her Mum's wedding last year. Yours was really not that bad.

There’s a wedding thread somewhere posted recently asking the worst things people witnessed at a wedding. I’d suggest you read that and I promise all will be put in perspective.
Be kind to yourself. You didn’t hurt anyone or ruin anyone’s day. X

er… can you link this thread? I fancy a laugh and I’m a bit fed up.

You are not the only one to do that! My friend fell asleep on the toilet and fell off it at her daughter's eighteenth birthday party. It really was funny.

Stop worrying, you are human! We've all, I am sure, witnessed far worse drunken behaviour than falling asleep on the toilet.

In time you will laugh at yourself.

Sounds like a great wedding!

I think you really need to get a grip and get over it. You’re being way too precious about it.

If you can’t let your hair down at a wedding party on a child free night then when can you?

my thoughts too.

I don't think its that big a deal... I wouldn't think less of a friend for that, would make me laugh affectionately and with no judgement but you didn't put yourselves or anyone else in danger. It's fine.

I've only read the first two of your posts @SimpleSingle so far and my thoughts are what sort of people are your "friends" if they are still laughing about it weeks later? Especially as I'm sure your unnecessary embarrassment would have been obvious. They shouldn't have made fun in the beginning, if they still are they need to grow up and apologise.

I was expecting something really embarrassing. You drank too much that's all. Stop ruminating it really isn't a big deal. Life is too short when I get myself into over thinking I just imagine how I would feel if I had something to actually worry about eg a loved one getting seriously ill. Please don't waste any more time beating yourself up over nothing!!

Loads of mother's! Where you with your kids and solely looking after them? If not then chill, everyone gets wasted from time to time they wont hold it against you 😊

Honestly don’t worry about it DH’s aunt did the same thing at our wedding and my brother got so drunk he knocked out a tooth out. I don’t think any less of them, I felt bad for SIL because she was mortified but there was no reason to be - drunken hijinks at a wedding are the norm.

I have an aunt who falls asleep any time she drinks a couple of glasses. It's a well known feature of family parties and we all think she's adorable! She doesn't ruin anyone's night or behave inappropriately, she just enjoys herself until she's had enough then suddenly she's asleep! (Sometimes sitting bolt upright!)
No-one judges her! I'm sure no-one is judging you either OP, see your friends and brazen it out. It's just the beer fear!

I thought this too. OP if they mock you and make you feel bad so that you are not even looking forward to seeing them i would suggest getting rid. Life is too short for shit friends.

Sounds like you had a good night!

You need to put this behind you….you're not a bad mother or a failure… your kids weren’t even there.

Be kinder to yourself!!

Is that it? You need to live a little bit more!

You are allowed to let your hair down now and then.
You did nothing illegal or terrible, noone was hurt, you just was being, well quite normal really.
If this is the worst thing you have done then let's face it, you are pretty boring😉

You shouldn’t feel embarrassed. I think you needed to switch off and have a fun night.
Give yourself a break. I wouldn’t have judged you.

Chill, baby ❤️ we've all seen much, much worse! Your story is actually quite cute and endearing❤️

I was out last night and couldn't keep my tits under control in a low-cut dress. Anytime I spoke to someone, they'd pull my dress back up over my bra for me !

Laugh it off 🤣

Life is too long for shit friends, just more time to give them..

Aww, you need to get out more, not less!!!

do you always enjoy drama, or just on this occasion?

It wasn't your kids Nativity play, who cares. 2 people saw you and helped you out. Big deal.

It honestly sound like you are trying to make yourself more interesting, fussing and "oh dear me, look at me". You didn't do anything in public, you won't in the dance floor in front of the whole wedding, you didn't face-plant in the wedding cake.

You had no kid to look after, again 2 people saw you.

Get a grip.

Girl relax. You don’t do it often. Your kids were safe. You let your hair down at a time that was ok to do so. You didn’t cause drama, ruin a moment for the bride, upset anyone etc. You just let your hair down a bit much. You’re a great mom clearly as you’ve reflected and it’s obv not something you do every weekend. Just forgive yourself and move on x

if you do something silly and your friends tease you about it, they ARE friends.

Some people need to take themselves a lot less seriously. They probably tease even more if it's out of character.

If you were drunk all the time and passing out at every corner, they wouldn't teae you, wouldn't be amused and would soon dump you frankly.

This sounds a bit like rejection sensitivity dysphoria x

The next time you see your friends, if the subject comes up find your inner diva stand up and take a deep bow or curtsey, that should put it to bed.