AIBU to feel insulted.

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Mum died April 25, previous will stated that any estate was to be split between me and my sister. We should have been in line for a share of a 285,00.00 estate. My sister and her husband have taken responsibility for everything for my mum for the last 17 years, shopping, appointments caring for dad as he was dying, taking her on holiday, having her at Christmas, sitting with her at hospital for emergencies, helping her sort out bills, things going wrong with the house responding to her care alarm all thr while living 20 miles away. In the end she kept falling they took her to live with them and cared for her 24hours a day, eventually this became too much and she spent the last couple of months in a care home.
We just went every now and then and until recently we'd not seen her in four years.
My sister is executor of the will and chose to go through a solicitor. It turns out the six month probate finished on 12th February and I've recently had a letter to say that I'm due to receive some money but not detailing how much. I never received a copy of the will so have contacted the solicitor and have discovered that my sister has been left the majority of the estate and I'm left wih £10,000. She gets around £260,000
Apparently she changed her will about 12 months before she died, she has capacity according to a capacity assessment and its all legal and above board. Apparently there is very little I can do.
I feel like the solicitor should have written to me to explain about the 6 months probate but apparently the will was public information and was downloadable months ago. Apparently he onus is on me to find will and pay to download it then take action. I should surely receive more of a share?

I wouldn't even have left you the 10k. You sound entitled and bratty.

You’ve got to be taking the piss, surely?

The fact that you are quibbling rather than expressing any kind of sorrow or regret over losing your mum really says it all. You should be grateful to have been included at all.

You didn't bother with your mother when she was alive. You hadn't even seen her for years, and you left your sister and her husband to carry all of the responsibility.

I'm honestly not really sure why you think you should get anything?

Be grateful that you were remembered in her will at all. It sounds like it was more than you deserved.

I find the answers interesting as I’ve seen so many threads on here when parents have said they would never consider unequal amounts for their children.
However, time and experience can change all of that.
Whoever the mum was here, it’s clear that years of very supportive care, which fell upon one sibling, has altered her perspective.
It is not just about money it’s in recognition of all of that care provided.
The OP was lucky to get £10,000 to be honest, she could have easily been awarded zero.
A lesson to be learned here. Never sit back and assume that there is a payday coming.

The audacity of you.

I thought the same! ..... or is this the same poster bit with more details about the contents of the wills

I didn’t see my mum for the last few yearsvof her life and was left nothing, which is as it should be.

Yep, and your mum thought ‘fuck it, I’ll give it to the daughter who cared’.

Me sat at home reading this

Jesus Christ op my mum lives 500 miles from me and I travel to see her with the kids 3 times a year
You're lucky you're getting anything
You sister has done a great job you've done fuck all

You could ask your sister to share some of her inheritance with you, but it would be up to her if she wants to do that. As you refused to help her with anything, she'll probably tell you to do one. If you've got any more elderly relatives perhaps you should them out a bit?

Realistically, taking out costs and care home fees, your sister is still getting less than minimum wage for the 17 years of care she provided while you did bog all, so maybe that will make it sting a bit less on reflection.

Surely no one's this deluded?

Wills and inheritances do do weird things to people. There's a reason they feature in so many murder mysteries.

But yeah, this is messed up. I can't get over her accusing her sister of "crowing" when she explained everything she had to do and asked for help.

You lived 50 miles from her and admit you hadn’t seen her in 4 years? Now you can’t understand why your sister has been left the majority of her estate?

Your sister did all of the sweat work. You didn’t. Your mum decided to leave most to her, because of what she did. Be grateful for what you’ve got.

Give the £10k to your sister as a thank you. Cancel the insult - set yourself free(r).

Why should she? OP did nothing until their mum had died. 🙄

I'd say your Mum made a good decision.

I hope my Nan does exactly this and cuts out the lazy vultures patiently waiting for her to pass away.

I think you've done well to get £10k.

You hadn't seen your mum for 4 years and you left the care of your parents to your sister whilst not living that much further away. Quite staggering!

50 miles? My in-laws live 200 miles away, we have 2 young DCs and we manage to visit them every couple of months. If they were elderly and needed care we would go more often.

I'm not saying she should get anything.

Very very true

You can't be serious? Your sister and her husband sound amazing and deserve every penny of their inheritance.