Husband licks his dinner plate after eating

[letmeeatcakes]

Not every meal and only when we have our family dinner but sometimes when he has finished eating he will pick his plate up and lick it clean!! I find this totally gross and have told him but this time i told him he was worse than a dog. My daughter thinks my comments were callous!! AIBU and just let him do this if it makes him happy? Only does it at home!

I love licking my plate clean 😄

Mine too, but I wouldn't be impressed if my husband did it.

If I did mind, I would not say anything. I should not try and control someone else's harmless behaviour. Being embarrassed inside never killed anyone.

If it makes me uptight I don’t want my husband and children licking their plates I’m good with that, just as I’m sure you will be good when I
state the converse and think any family sitting licking their plates have no manners,

Someone just posted they think it’s a compliment if their kid licks the plate, I can’t even imagine sending that message to my child.

no wonder so many dint know how to behave in public when their parents lick the plates and think it’s a compliment.

If you use the food element of the meal to mop up sauce or gravy as you go along there is no need to lick it!

If you say that he has done this at a work dinner, or wedding, then I would get it. But you say it is at home. Not something I would love, but not the end of the world. Just look to the other side. Or give him some nice bread to mop up the sauce. It is not really a drama. And your daughter is right. It is his home, he is entitled to be himself and relaxed at home. Or do you think you have no habits that annoys him and your DD? Because you do.... we all do.

Get transparent plates and do a Facebook Live 😆

Lol if plate locking floats your boat, crack on

What's plate locking?

Saves on the washing up

I’d argue there is never a need to lick your plate.

This! If the gravy has lots of wine and meat juices, I’m not going to waste it. I would never do it in ‘polite company’.

I don't think there is a right or wrong, as long as people have sense.

Don't do it in public.
Don't do it if it offends your partner,
Don't do it in front of kids as if it's acceptable social behaviour....kids are impressionable.

Do you feel the same about oral sex

I swipe my finger over the plate to get the last of the sauce. My husband says he knows he’s smashed dinner if I do it.
As long as he’s not doing it in public, and he’s not making noises while he’s doing it, leave the man alone.

I've licked my plate in front of my kids since they were born. They have never linked their plates at school or anywhere else in public. Kids are impressionable but they're not entirely stupid and usually pick up a sense of what's a home behaviour and what's a public behaviour.

I do this if we have beef stroganoff, Louisiana linguine or other creamy dishes

What a ridiculous comment,

Catillate is an archaic verb defined as "to lick dishes," which appeared in Henry Cockeram’s 1623 English Dictionarie. Derived from the Latin catillāre (to lick a plate/dish), it refers to cleaning a plate with one’s tongue, often implying the food was exceptionally good. It is considered an obscure, largely unused word.

As I said, don't do it in front of the kids as if it's acceptable behaviour, ie, socially acceptable.

Does that not give you some insight into the state of you when you’re doing it?

Well it is socially acceptable, just in my house

It does not because there's nothing objectively wrong with licking a plate, dislike of it is a purely subjective thing, but because its a subjective thing its best kept to the privacy of your own home.

The fact your kids know not to do it in public after watching you, should tell you something. And it’s not someone anyone does in public, if it was only subjective many people would be licking their plates in public like a dog.