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Strange situation on the train with parent

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Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:40

It's not a massive deal, just slightly odd from the (presumed) parent. I was sitting opposite a boy who looked around 12 and a middle aged man.
The boy was eating sweets with his mouth wide open, I know some children don't always eat with their mouths closed, especially toddlers, but the noise it was making was so loud and it was like he was opening his mouth for the dentist every time.
It wasn't nice manners really, I know it's not my child or my business. I probably looked at him a second longer than I should've done, I didn't have any earphones to put in and train was packed out.

The father must've seen this because he asked the kid for a sweet, then proceeded to eat it in the exact same mouth wide open manner, staring at me. I understand i shouldn't have looked at the kid but the Dad knew what he was doing, and I found it a bit intimidating. Does this sound odd or was i in the wrong?

OP posts:
Pinkissmart · 18/02/2026 22:36

KateCroy · 17/02/2026 08:46

Maybe work on not letting your feelings show on your face so obviously?

Why?
Surely the natural consequence of chomping like a cow is to be observed doing it?

stichguru · 18/02/2026 22:38

I have cerebral palsy. I eat with my mouth closed more easily now, but at 12, it was meant chewing very slowly, while giving 100% of my concentration to chewing. It made meals take ages and be exhausting. Maybe the father knew the child was trying his best, and wanted to stop you being rude and staring at him. OR maybe they were both just dicks - who knows!

HowBizxarre · 19/02/2026 03:37

Plumnora · 18/02/2026 22:22

I agree the dad's reaction was totally unnecessary.
I commented a while back saying exactly that. I also mentioned my own DC's eating habits.
This comment was in response to @HowBizxarre stating that she's Autistic and knows to eat with her mouth closed so therefore Autism isn't a reason for the kid to be eating with their mouth open.
And that's just not true. Autistic people vary just as significantly in their habits and behaviours as Neurotypical people.

Is that what I said? Or did I say

Oh give over. I'm autistic and my kids are too,even my dyspraxic SPD autistic child knows to eat with his mouth closed
What happened on the train was not SEN. It was rude people being rude

Why make things up to get a dramatic response? I notice how you didn't reply to the previous post you tagged me in, but tagged me in this one with somthing you made up?

Mumtobabyhavoc · 19/02/2026 04:51

HowBizxarre · 19/02/2026 03:37

Is that what I said? Or did I say

Oh give over. I'm autistic and my kids are too,even my dyspraxic SPD autistic child knows to eat with his mouth closed
What happened on the train was not SEN. It was rude people being rude

Why make things up to get a dramatic response? I notice how you didn't reply to the previous post you tagged me in, but tagged me in this one with somthing you made up?

Honestly, so what? Your experiences and abilities, and those of your children, have absolutely nothing to do with how someone else's should be. Give over, indeed.

Miaminmoo · 19/02/2026 08:12

Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:43

I understand the father probably felt his son was being judged.

Yes, and it will keep happening if he keeps making his son feel like his behaviour is acceptable and encourages him to do things that are not polite and deliberately rude. His son will end up in all sorts of unnecessary situations if this is the attitude he’s teaching him. Poor kid.

Plumnora · 19/02/2026 09:16

HowBizxarre · 19/02/2026 03:37

Is that what I said? Or did I say

Oh give over. I'm autistic and my kids are too,even my dyspraxic SPD autistic child knows to eat with his mouth closed
What happened on the train was not SEN. It was rude people being rude

Why make things up to get a dramatic response? I notice how you didn't reply to the previous post you tagged me in, but tagged me in this one with somthing you made up?

I didn't reply to you because it looked (to me) as though you were deliberately trying to provoke a reaction.
Point proved, I think.
Have a great day.

Snakebite61 · 19/02/2026 11:01

Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:40

It's not a massive deal, just slightly odd from the (presumed) parent. I was sitting opposite a boy who looked around 12 and a middle aged man.
The boy was eating sweets with his mouth wide open, I know some children don't always eat with their mouths closed, especially toddlers, but the noise it was making was so loud and it was like he was opening his mouth for the dentist every time.
It wasn't nice manners really, I know it's not my child or my business. I probably looked at him a second longer than I should've done, I didn't have any earphones to put in and train was packed out.

The father must've seen this because he asked the kid for a sweet, then proceeded to eat it in the exact same mouth wide open manner, staring at me. I understand i shouldn't have looked at the kid but the Dad knew what he was doing, and I found it a bit intimidating. Does this sound odd or was i in the wrong?

I'm afraid you just sat next to a scumbag family. Forget about it.

pestowithwalnuts · 20/02/2026 04:44

Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:42

He's just a kid I know, but the man was deliberately trying to intimidate me/make a point and that disturbed me a bit.

Just shows the low level of his intelligence

SBGM247 · 21/02/2026 18:42

Chips098 · 17/02/2026 08:42

He's just a kid I know, but the man was deliberately trying to intimidate me/make a point and that disturbed me a bit.

As I'm a Man, if he's done that with me I'd have told him to close his f**king mouth. And I'd have looked him in the eyes while doing it. And he'd have shut up. What an unpleasant person.

Ginnysmurf · 21/02/2026 22:13

Maybe this child has some type of intellectual disability and the father ia sick of his son being stared at in public so he chose to react in an in appropriate in dealing with the situation . You just never know what people are really dealing with but it's easy for people to pass judgement with a quick glance.

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