Friend leaving me whilst on holiday

[roastdinner346]

So me and my friend went away for a weekend break (Friday to Monday), for an early celebration for my 40th birthday next week.
Its the first time I've ever been anywhere with anyone else apart from my family.
A few things really got to me.
Firstly was she rolled her eyes and gave me looks when I said I was hungry. She's on weightloss jabs, and has no appetite at all, and can only manage a few mouthfuls, which is completely fine, but that doesn't mean I don't get hungry 🙈
The next thing was that I wanted to take a pebble off the beach for my niece, who collects them from various places.
She didn't agree with this, and we were paying for something in a shop and she went on about me taking the tiny pebble, saying that it should be left there, and said it so loudly all the other people in the shop could hear. It just made me feel really small.
Then last evening in the entertainment lounge, she started talking to a family next to us. Which again, isn't a problem, but I'm left on the end, left out of the conversation, and because I'm slightly deaf, I had no idea what they were saying to even join in.
She asked me to get drinks, which I did, and then I turns out she had told them that I'm introverted and that I hate people. So god knows what these people must have thought about me.
I will happily speak to people, if I'm included.
Then today we were supposed to be going for a walk to the other side of the sea front.
I needed the toilet, so she decided to go without me. I didn't realise until I texted her and she said that she's already gone.
So I was left to do nothing, for hours, by myself.
At that point I got really upset. She knew I wanted to go. I'd had enough and just wanted to go home. I didnt want to share a room, or pretend I was ok any more, it was exhausting, so I got a family member to kindly pick me up and take me home.
For the whole weekend it felt like it was just an excuse for her to take endless selfies, not once did she ask to get one of both of us. I just wondered why I was even there.
Am I overreacting for being upset about all of this?

Your friend doesn’t like you. Sorry Op, I’d let this friendship go.

For everyone twittering on about pebbles:

Up to £1000 fine for taking pebbles from beaches as council tries to protect the environment | ITV News Border https://share.google/89jxeN6QQ2CxuUBbV

@roastdinner346 it sounds like from your side that she is not remotely a good friend for you.

You clearly irritate the hell out of her for her to be behaving that way towards you and why would you want to be around who finds you that irritating. It sounds like an awful experience to be involved in. Why would she even go if she was not capable of being pleasant in your company.

When you get home I’d block and ignore her. She’s not a friend - not one worth having anyway as she is a singularly nasty person. No friends are better than this one.

Don’t take it to heart - you did nothing wrong. If you want to travel again but have noone to go with there are loads of solo travel companies and a few FB pages for women too. Please erase this awful women from your mind. She isn’t worth it.

Mixed feelings on this, I’d be annoyed about food too, when I get hungry I get impatient! Taking stones off beaches is wrong, and I chat to everyone so i would be talking to people in the bar, though I would not be critical of my travelling companion. As for not waiting, how long had she actually been waiting already? Devil is in the details. Some people aren’t compatible travelling companions end of, and those not wanting to eat really should say so before agreeing to holidays, because eating is a big part for many of us.

I’m really surprised at some of these comments.

Honestly she does sound a bit impatient , but you also sound quite needy!!

I agree. Couldn’t you have caught her up, or just set off after her and you would have eventually seen her there.

She was rude to roll her eyes if you want to eat.
Taking a pebble is wrong but she didn’t need to make a big deal about it.
Talking to people is fine but she could have included you, it was very rude to say you don’t like people.
leaving without you is horrid, but how long was she waiting? It sound like she was fed up with you too by then and decided to have some time apart, but she should have told you. You could have also gone out alone, is there a reason wouldn’t make your own plans?
it was your birthday celebration and she should have been making a fuss of you and ensuring you were having a good time, it sounds like that didn’t happen and she was quite rude but is it possible you were difficult too?
if a friend treated me poorly on a weekend away I would reconsider the friendship.

Happy 40th for this week!

YANBU she doesn’t like you much does she.
I agree that she’s a different personality type to you as well. It’s hard to contain true feelings when you are forced together. It’s not really anyone’s fault - I can’t holiday with my mum even though I love her dearly.
I think you could still be mates but just agree to limit it to coffee and book club or whatever.

Lovely Lyme Regis......how do all those shops selling fossils and shells get away with it? Who would find a fossil on the beach and not keep it?

My mind is boggling.

Ditch her. She's no friend.

I absolutely knew this post would be derailed by a load of sanctimonious twats banging on about the fucking pebble- Jesus Christ this site is infuriating sometimes 🙄😵‍💫

OP- YANBU , your friend isn’t a friend at all. You’ve done nothing wrong. Try to move on from this.
Happy Birthday x

You sounds like a barrel of laughs. Perhaps op can hook you up with her dickhead mate. Unless you are the person...

The irony of those on wlis saying they get irritated by friends who want to eat and drink on holiday….

Based on the assumption that you shared a room I’d hazard a guess that she took you along so she didn’t have to pay a single supplement. She obviously wanted to visit the place and you were her ‘crutch’ to sharing expenses, having someone to fall back on, someone to boss around, someone to talk to when no one else was available, someone to bully and control! That is no way to treat a friend.

She is no friend OP! Dump the bitch! You are worth so much more than to be treated like a doormat!

Above and beyond any question ever posted on this forum, I think I’m supremely qualified to answer:

My lifelong friend (& cousin) left me in Mexico and I had to hitchhike 80+ miles back to San Diego with complete & total strangers.
Well, actually, she ditched me.
Although I wasn’t in that car, in that parking lot, I can just hear the words she used: “just go.” Just go because Dream isn’t important enough to wait 120 seconds for.
And so they did, stranding me all alone in Mexico. I think we were 25, 26.

I left San Diego the following morning and didn’t speak to her for months - and for the rest of her life she never apologised.

She died at 50 from cancer with only her mother and me by her bedside - the only people left in her life that she hadn’t managed to chase off by her irresponsible and cruel behaviour.

@roastdinner346 I didn’t deserve that appalling treatment and neither do you. You’re your own best friend - act accordingly. ❤️

To those saying one pebble makes no difference as there are millions - the whole point is that if every person that visited took one you'd end up with none left. I wouldn't have fussed about it if I was your friend but technically she is right. Otherwise she was horrible. I have experienced similar situations with excellent friends who were terrible travel buddies so I wouldn't necessarily write her off, I'd maybe distance myself a bit until I calmed down. What did you say about why you'd left early? I'd just message her and say sometjing like - I felt a bit sad that you left me after a couple of other minor incidents so thought maybe best to get out of each other's hair. Hope you had a lovely walk. Safe journey home, will be in touch soon.

To those saying one pebble makes no difference as there are millions - the whole point is that if every person that visited took one you'd end up with none left. I wouldn't have fussed about it if I was your friend but technically she is right. Otherwise she was horrible. I have experienced similar situations with excellent friends who were terrible travel buddies so I wouldn't necessarily write her off, I'd maybe distance myself a bit until I calmed down. What did you say about why you'd left early? I'd just message her and say sometjing like - I felt a bit sad that you left me after a couple of other minor incidents so thought maybe best to get out of each other's hair. Hope you had a lovely walk. Safe journey home, will be in touch soon.

Why did you not just head off after you’d gone to the loo to catch her up and go on the walk you wanted to go on? I don’t get that bit. Could it be she finds you a bit of a wet lettuce? Would you have been happy doing that on your own?

the rest YaNBu in my opinion - she sounds a bit mean

This should be accompanied by trumpets.

Listen to Ruby, OP! ❤️

There is already 4 pages of people saying this

Then why are people still going on about it?

I have great friends that I don’t gel with on holidays, you’ve both got different expectations and wants for the holiday and I think everyone gets a bit selfish because they have what they want in their head. I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s the end of a friendship, that sounds a bit dramatic, but I would say to talk about it and don’t go away with her again

@roastdinner346are you married? Have children?

Aren’t people allowed to talk about it after the fourth person has linked an article saying there is a £1k fine? is that some kind of conversation Killer we don’t know about?