To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

[stripeyrain]

I usually get home around 5 and Dh finishes around 9.
He isn’t allowed to park in his work car park as there is limited space and they are reserved for management.
It’s a sort of business park off a busy intersection so there’s no side roads or parking nearby.

Sometimes (not often) I really feel like coming home especially on a Friday and having a glass of wine while I make dinner but I always have to pick him up later so I can’t have a drink after work with colleagues on the odd occasion they do or with friend.
I was never a big drinker but I do resent having to drive later every night and just never being able to if I fancy ever.
He’s had this job for 6 years now and I miss sitting in the garden with a glass of wine after work, enjoying the last bit of sun of the day (in the summer) I just feel a bit restricted as his chauffeur when that should be my down time and this time of year I’d feel very unreasonable making him walk home in the dark and pouring rain just so I could have a couple of drinks after work but that doesn’t stop me from resenting that I never can.

That's obviously the arrangement they came to but if she isn't happy she needs to change things

Just text him every so often “Dave. I’m pissed again.You’ll have to make your own way home”

He’ll soon twig.

@mumofoneAloneandwell

what if she wants a shag herself though? Why should she deprive herself to make a point? When there are other means of doing so? (I.e just tell him no more lifts)

That’s bloody ridiculous , lazy bugger. Let him walk the ten minutes. Not even that you can’t have a drink , I’d be mighty pissed off having to go out at 9 every night. Do you have to take kids with you ?

I couldn’t get it up for tbh, I’d need a glass of wine to forgive his constant lift needing ways

which I couldn’t have … because of his constant lift needing ways 🤷‍♀️

Encourage him to take up running. In the summer months if it’s half hour walk it’ll be a 20 min jog, it’ll be good for him!

Ew. I worked evenings in a restaurant when I was teenager and got taxis home whenever I couldn’t get a lift from my mum or a colleague. Why can’t he do that on a Friday? Surely he’s not the only one leaving at 9? If a 15 year old can do it a grown can manage…

He can't walk let alone run.

@mumofoneAloneandwell

well, I get that. The big chafing sweaty thighs would also put me off too I think

25 pages on this post. I cannot see why. Most say the same. Why has this post not been ended?

It will end when posters stop posting, I guess it's been going for a while because the man is such a waste of space that people want to support the OP

🙄 or a cuppa 🙄

Or drink at the weekend

Why should she? She hasn't taken the pledge for the weekdays FFS?

I knew some people were going to make out OP has a drink problem

30m walk. He can do that

get some chub rub / it does work or anti chaffing shorts

sounds like he cba to make own way home and expects you to

https://amzn.eu/d/09SwA2rK

It is t about the drink it is why the OP has to put herself out for 30 mins say every day rather than have a moments rest because a grown man cannot walk home 30 minutes

something we all expect our teenagers to do every day from school.

and yes it is 9pm but he is described as rugby type build so he is hardly in grave danger and can easily do it.

Again as everyone else had said it isn’t about the drink, I think OP was just trying to find an excuse not to pick him up

@stripeyrain you don’t need an excuse just tell him it’s changed now. I can’t imagine working all day, making him dinner then having to go back out to pick him up- that’s just wrong. You have no time to relax yourself

sorry if I missed about kids, would you be expected them to bundle them in the car to pick him up?

start plannng things for yourself after work

i assume you have uber/taxi where you are? If so I’d say on a Friday you want to relax with a glass of wine or cuppa or just get in your PJs or have a long soak in the bath, so every Friday he has to just organise an uber/taxi home. I think that’s fair enough when you go out and get him every week day. I’d hate that too.

Lazy sod. He needs to get some exercise and walk home.

Because people keep posting. Like you.

Do you think there is some MN judge sat on high, decreeing when threads have had all possible points made and then ending them?

Still a treat.

@Mere1

not a patch on the real thing though. Also not every cocktail works in non alcoholic version - espresso martini for example

...this is the most disingenuous, purse-lipped pseudo-question of the year so far. It's going to take some beating. However, I have great faith in the sanctimonious fingerwaggers of Mumsnet, and there's a good ten months to go before nominations close.

Fingers crossed I win 🤞

Although there will no doubt be thread about a trans person existing which will attract the sort of Mumsnetters who will easily snatch the crown right off my head 😢