To feel annoyed I can never have a drink because I always have to collect Dh from work?

[stripeyrain]

I usually get home around 5 and Dh finishes around 9.
He isn’t allowed to park in his work car park as there is limited space and they are reserved for management.
It’s a sort of business park off a busy intersection so there’s no side roads or parking nearby.

Sometimes (not often) I really feel like coming home especially on a Friday and having a glass of wine while I make dinner but I always have to pick him up later so I can’t have a drink after work with colleagues on the odd occasion they do or with friend.
I was never a big drinker but I do resent having to drive later every night and just never being able to if I fancy ever.
He’s had this job for 6 years now and I miss sitting in the garden with a glass of wine after work, enjoying the last bit of sun of the day (in the summer) I just feel a bit restricted as his chauffeur when that should be my down time and this time of year I’d feel very unreasonable making him walk home in the dark and pouring rain just so I could have a couple of drinks after work but that doesn’t stop me from resenting that I never can.

Can't he get a ride from a colleague? If not a ride home, then to a convenient bus stop?

At 15mph on a bike (easy), that's 6 minutes

@stripeyrain tell him that you can't collect him one day next week because you're going out/having a friend round.
He will need to make another plan.
If he can't cope with that, you have bigger problems!

Yes I also find this so odd. Surely businesses choose business parks because of the ample space and parking they get. This is a strange set up the op describes.

How do all the other staff manage? He can’t be the only non manager there?
aren’t there any buses or trains?

He can walk it once in a while. It's really not that far!

So you never do anything on a weekday til after 9pm when you picked him up?
No fitness classes/theatre/cinema/out with friends?
Time to start x
Seriously.

I'm sorry, but this is ridiculous. He could walk home in half an hour but wouldn't as he gets sweaty?!
As for "he wouldn't be at all pleased if I was sat at home having a drink"
WTF, I mean it's nice you pick him up but he shouldn't expect it and even worse sulk or "not be pleased" - you're not his bloody chauffeur!
I say this as someone who doesn't drive and my DH gives me lifts to work but not back as he likes to unwind on a night which is fair enough and normal.
I'm an adult though and can make my own way home! Usually via Uber but I could walk too.
Tell him you're busy one Friday. Enjoy your wine or whatever.

Ugh, no fuckin way would I be doing this. But no fuckin way would I have signed up for it in the first place, much harder to get out of now. One of the first things I told my partner was I am not a taxi service. I dont even drink btw, but I don’t want it to be assumed I’ll be his Uber just because I have a car. Start saying no op, set some boundaries.

Don't encourage anyone to drink and drive!
The DP needs to get home by himself once in a while taxi/bus/walk/cycle.

This!

30 minutes 😅. My three year old can walk that. If he's that lazy he can park the 10 away and then he's only got to walk 20. I hope he's reeeeeeally really nice to you.

Does that mean you can't ever go out and do anything either?

He can't walk because he, "gets a rash"? 😂 My DH has an injury that has him walking with a cane. He walks well over 30 mins a day, is constantly active in all seasons, aches and pains or not!

A fucking rash. Lord have mercy on the poor wee manchild. His sweaty thighs probably chafe because he doesn't walk enough as he's relying on his wife to drive him everywhere, the great lazy sod!

Tell him from now once the weather starts getting better every Friday (or every other Friday if you’re feeling generous) he has to figure out his own way back.

He's treating you like staff, not an equal partner

Be unavailable every night, Op.
DH should take up the option of parking on the other side of the park and walking and driving himself to work and back twice a week.

Where do men get the audacity?! He gets taken to and from work daily and the chores are done by the time he gets in. What a great life.

My teenager walks home from school that distance and if it’s raining he takes a coat. He knows he has to help the household by being somewhat independent, not driven everywhere when I have work and his younger sibling to take care of. I’m actually a single parent but may a relationship like this never find me!

1. What do the other non-management colleagues do? Could he follow suit?
2. He knew the parking setup from Day 1–what was the plan that you had agreed together? Did you agree to drive him every day, or did it evolve from a lift here and a lift there? Did you sign up to drive for 20 years?
3. A grown man unable to walk for 30 minutes because of chub rub sounds pathetic.
4. Why is there this emphasis on alcohol for relaxation?

1. car share with colleague and walk together
2. parks car and has a twenty minute walk
3. occasional Uber
4. buy an escooter
5. go on a bike that would be 10 mins

What does he do if you have a doctor's appointment or are sick or any other number of factors gets in your way? It also means you can't have any social life, never mind the wine!

I would be so put off someone who couldn't walk 30 minutes without complaining. If his thighs chafe he can get shorts to prevent that. It sounds like he's lazy and making excuses.

Sorry, he can walk for 30 mins? He should have done this 6 years ago. Start tomorrow.

A company where there are places reserved for senior management in a car park is something from the last century. I bet it is one where those who could wfh for one or two days a week are not allowed to.

Don't like the emphasis on alcohol, however the lack of walking or public transport as an option or car sharing is not good. Though I can understand a reluctance for car sharing given how many people have a car licence but are unfit to hold one.

I've voted YABU. If it's just for the sake of wanting a wind-down drink, I'd have a non-alcoholic beer or non-alcoholic gin and tonic on his working days. I wouldn't put alcohol over my partner's convenience or potential safety.

Different if the pick-up was stopping you going out with friends or to a club or activity.. Then I'd ask him to make other arrangements for that night.

What do his single colleagues do? There cannot be no reliable way to get there and no parking. That’s absurd and needs to be challenged with management.

As for you, this isn’t about drinking it’s about having a life. You might want to go out with friends in the week, have a regular hobby or evening class. If you had small children you couldn’t / wouldn’t get them out of bed and bundle them into the car every evening to collect him.

The situation is absolutely absurd and he needs to solve that.

How old is he?!! He 10?!! It sounds like you’re making excuses for a child walking home!! Tell him to walk home 30 mins is nothing and sounds like he needs the exercise if his thighs are so big. Perhaps they wouldn’t be as big if he actually walked. Sod that!!!