Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

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AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

Team dad. I cannot stand loud chewing.
Children need to be parented, and if that offends them, then so be it.

I would imagine its less embarrassing for her own parent to point out an unfortunate habit in the privacy of your car than for someone to point it out in front of her friendship group in the school canteen. She has time to change it. Slapping and claping your lips whilst chewing is horrible.

This is so funny to me. I have 3 boys and misophonia - I cannot physically bear the sound of chewing and they know this mostly from the fact I can try and get through it and then hit a mental wall and usually screw "good god man your mouth noises are making me want to jump out of the window"

They are used to it by now and don't get offended- although my littlest son just says "close your earholes then mummy" haha

I would clean rip my ears off when they chew if I could. Or at the very least bleach my brain...

Dont you just love threads to wind everyone up that the OP does a total runner on.?
For what its worth, the issue isnt hubby telling her off, its the child being "offended". Another one that won't cope with school, exams, a job and just life in general, because of a molly coddling parent

this has got to be a joke right? YABVU to be upset at the fact that your husband taught good manners to your child.

It amazes me what people ask on MN! 😂
Your DD is 11 years old , so old enough to know how to eat properly. Your DH did nothing wrong, he asked his child to stop chewing so loud, I would have done the same. What is the issue?

Is there perhaps more to this - do you often feel like husband is quite harsh or critical to the kids (or even you)? As a one off I’m sure it’s fine and she’ll get over it. But if this is just one example and you often feel like your husband can be regularly direct to the point of causing upset/shame, then you can of course bring it up with him and ask him to tone it down.

My child still eats loudly sometimes too. I have been teaching him not to since he was very little but I think it’s how everyone at his school eats so he’s forgetting/ not thinking it’s a big deal.

My dh also is quite intolerant to this and unlike me theres no ‘can you try to eat quieter ’, which I think is the problem here too.
They are too abrupt, forgetting their parental role is to teach, not berate.

In my case, what gets me is, my dh is actually sometimes a noisy eater too - he’s not aware all the time and he’s the grown up. Of course, nobody scalds him!

How is this relevant?

This cannot be real?? Your husband was completely in the right telling her!

It was a bit harsh but she needs to learn loud chewing noises aren't really acceptable. And if her parents don't tell her who will.

your daughter may have been offended but if she was chewing noisily then this is basic feedback that I would give my kids to help them fit in with society and avoid their friends taking the mick out it of them for it… was she offended because there was some truth in it? Not a big deal… your husband is allowed his sensitivities…

My daughter has misophonia which is basically sensory discomfort of other peoples eating sounds- she wears ear plugs when we eat dinner because of it and we play music in the background. It is worse when she is tired and she often says I am the worst one which does make me a little self conscious!!

Does your husband struggle with chewing noises a lot?

Teach them young! I'm team husband.

This seems like such a non event.

My DH is constantly telling our DC (7 and 10) to shut their mouths when they are chewing. No offence here. They need to learn it’s rude!

At 11 she knows to chew with her mouth closed. Don't see the issue.

Yabu
You're making a fuss about nothing

Another ridiculous post with a non returning OP. There's a surprise.

I have misophonia so I am pleased your husband is trying to teach your child some eating manners. Why haven’t you ?

not sure why you would want your child to grow up thinking that chomping and chewing loudly is acceptable . It’s disgusting . absolutely vile.

Chewing noises fill me with rage. It's just basic manners to chew quietly.

Do you never tell your daughter off, or correct her manners?
Perhaps you leave it to him?

Are you especially fond of her chewing loudly in YOUR ear OP? It’s basic manners. YABVVU.

Another one with misophonia here.

Honestly I wish more people would teach themselves and their children to chew quietly, and especially with their mouths closed. It amazes me how many don't do this.

I’d be telling her too. Chew with your mouth closed, can’t you teach her basic food manners?

I have this too. I have to leave the room if someone has crisps or crunchy foods. Headphones have been my commute lifesaver