Regret causing a scene in Aldi

[Liiz92]

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

Well done for standing up for yourself, a really good example for your DD too so she knows not to take crap from controlling arseholes like that. If he is like this in the supermarket, i dread to think what he is like with a partner or kids at home

What did he mean 'see you here next Sunday at 4pm?' Was that a threat?! Bastard! You did nothing wrong @Liiz92 He would never have spoken to a man like that.

And so you swore at him, so fucking what? Cunts like him only respond to cunty language. Well done!

Ignore the pearl-clutching Hyacinths who are saying you degraded yourself by swearing! You did not!

Yeah this. ^ At least you're not married to him @Liiz92 ! Be grateful for that! I hope he's not married. No woman deserves to be married to a thing like that!

The "see you at 4pm next Sunday" sounds very much like a threat, in my opinion.

You did have the go-ahead from staff, and it wasn't your fault - you did believe your shopping to be finished. Yesterday I was buying some earrings, and when paying, the assistant said "you can get a second set for only a few pounds extra" so I left the queue to do so, with someone behind me, but I was only a few seconds, I ran, and the lady behind me didn't mind at all. He shouted at you first, and he was clearly either in a mood or just an angry person.

I had a similar experience and also felt awful afterwards. In my case we were in a busy coffee shop and I'd squeezed into a tiny gap because an old man was sitting with his seat far out from the table and I didn't want to disturb him...when the man went to leave he tried to push his seat further out and right into me. He then started swearing to himself but not at all quietly. I was with family including my children and I was so angry I stormed after him and confronted him. I then also confronted his wife who was still sitting at the table and clearly used to him being so awful.

Afterwards i cried and was shaking - it was the adrenaline and I think as a good person I felt bad for causing a scene. But he was awful and shouldn't be allowed to behave towards people like that! Try not to think about it anymore!

Just to add, I believe in Aldi everything scans full price and you have to get the staff to approve the discount anyway

The OP precipitated the problem by leaving her stuff and wandering away for 'two minutes', I loathe people who do that. They were both wrong but to play the 'not in front of my child' card, having already used foul language, which I would bet the children have heard from her before, is the height of hypocrisy.

He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.”

Well I'll give him this, if you're going to be a big hard man trying to intimidate a woman with her young daughter, that's probably the most civilised way to do it. Doesn't quite have the same ring to it as "any time any place" or "you and me, outside, right now", but he's a knob, so "teatime at Aldi a week later" is probably the best he can do.

Ha! We've all done it!

In Tesco one week, they had closed the tills for self scan and directed everyone to the baskets checkout. Waited in a huge queue then finally it was my turn. A young man behind me said "Do you mind if I go next, I've only got a few things." I said "Yeah, sure, I mean I've only waited here for 15 minutes but clearly you deserve to get served before me!" He went to move in front of me, not realising I was being grumpy and I didn't let him past!

This has happened to me, but I finished scanning my shopping, paid then went back to change the item while the assistant kept an eye on my shopping for me.
Despite what the assistant said to do I would never expect anyone to be waiting on me for "only 2 minutes" at a check out.

Fortunately, you say, there wasn't any other children in ear shot, its fine if you want to bring your own up using bad language but that doesn't mean everyone wants to.

Glad you did! I wouldn’t regret it. At the height of perimenopause I once followed a man who called me a f&cking bitch as he passed my car (purely because I refused to reverse into a main road, as he was parallel to the lay-by for passing), boxed him in and said something very similar. Luckily he was small and weedy so it didn’t backfire. I felt pure red rage and have never regretted it as he was really shocked.

Bloody well done you! And don't feel bad about any of it, I bet the bullying piece of crap isn't used to women giving as good as they get, he probably peed his pants.

As for the swearing, honestly so what? Hearing mum say a Bad Word isn't actually going to hurt her, and what she will remember is her mum standing up to a bully and taking no shit.

I’d have asked the assistant to fetch it, or if I had simply picked up the wrong one I’d put it to the side and just pay before going to get the right one. I think it’s a liberty to expect others to wait while you finish your shopping.

I am not saying that he was right to get aggressive, nor was OP reasonable to swear. And saying he picked the wrong person sounds mildly threatening too imo

OP getting in his face and waving her finger at him after leaving it and then deciding to reignite the situation was the aggressive move

If she said he'd done the exact same she did then he'd be absolutely slaughtered on here

This wasn't a "sisterhood" move. It was an arsehole move

You may have gone a bit over the top but so what?

You are my hero

I've never seen two people arguing in public and thought anything other than twats. It's not the way I choose to carry myself and wouldn't be something I would model for my children.

Embarrassing 😳

the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

Why would the same thing from the same shelf be priced differently though?

Or have I misunderstood?

Yes agreed. I tend to freeze in the face of male aggression, and hate it.

Yes but that warrants a tut. Or possibly saying to someone "you know you held up the queue" not full blown aggression and high volume shouting. Ive been annoyed in Aldi. I haven't started screaming at staff or other shopprs.

Jesus, if a man (or woman) cannot wait 2-3 minutes in a query without kicking off, they probably shouldn’t leave their front door!
You did the right thing. I’d rather my child hear me swear at someone fronting up to me than worry about them hearing me say a word, that I imagine other kids say every day in school.

Good for you @Liiz92 - arseholes like that are far too confident about shouting and bullying women in public. More of us should be giving them what for straight back.

As for the usual pearl clutchers and ‘fowl’ language idiots - it’s women like you that give men like that the confidence to be twats in public. No doubt many of you are married to such piggish specimens. Keep your toddler husbands at home or under control rather than policing the women who stand up to them.

Letting him walk all over her wouldn’t have either.

She can explain later to her DD that swear words are not a good choice. She’d struggle to explain why she kow-towed to the bully.

Sounds like you were quite agressive finger pointing. And it is a bit annoying being in queue when the person in front disappears.

Each to there own but if there’s a Que I wouldn’t of held it up by going g back for something

Supermarkets are annoying but he wouldn’t have started on you if you were a brick shithouse of a man would he. That’s the clincher. A man tutted at me in
a very crowded supermarket today because I stepped back to let someone pass and he had to wait a grand total of 2 seconds extra. More of us need to tell them off, they aren’t toddlers.