Regret causing a scene in Aldi

[Liiz92]

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

Oh you do, just more middle classed , entitled arseholes!

I object to swearing because it's unnecessary and in a work context very unprofessional.

Someone who can hold their own calmly and quietly does much better in life than those who run around f-ing and blinding.

MNers like to show how cool they are about swearing but in real life, I don't think they'd be so cool with it at all.

You’ve lived a sheltered life if you truly believe all people are socialised to be nice and kind. And also if you think men don’t use size and strength to intimidate others (especially women).

Fuck him. He wouldn't speak like that to a man. You apologised. You really see just how much men loathe women when you challenge them. Good for you taking him on.

It wasn’t a work situation. It was a supermarket situation. And it isn’t ‘cool’ to swear, we’re not 14. But sometimes in the right context it can be used to show that we are pissed off and not willing to take needless abuse from a random man.

We don't have an Iceland where I live but I was in one twice the other week. I was taken by how nice everyone was in there - both staff and customers! Definitely a cut above Waitrose where the staff are up themselves and the customers - well they're just bland - neither rude nor polite.

You can do that without swearing at the random man though. If you swear you just bring yourself to his level,

No don’t regret what you said . Perhaps you shouldn’t have sworn but hey ho - he deserved it .

@philandgrant2 You’ve lived a sheltered life if you truly believe all people are socialised to be nice and kind.

You mean a normal life.

And also if you think men don’t use size and strength to intimidate others (especially women).

I suggest you turn off your TV. The things you see on TV don't reflect real life.

I almost never watch TV.

So you taught your DD that it’s ok to inconvenience people in supermarkets, swear at them and generally be aggressive. Well done you!

Well none of us are infallible. It isn’t the crime of the century and by saying she’s bringing herself down to his level at least we are acknowledging that he was the one in the wrong to begin with.

You telling him he’s picked the wrong person to be rude to = a threat, to his tiny little ego. His reply that he’d meet you at 4pm next Sunday was a challenge to you.

If you pitch up next Sunday at 4pm I GUARANTEE that if he turned up it would be with reinforcements 😂

The whole thing was unnecessary. He was having it out with the sales person, he said something to you, you quickly said sorry (which was right as you were holding up the line) - and that should have been the end of it. I’d have just let the sad sod rant to himself, because he wasn’t worth the time or effort you spent on him.

No I definitely mean sheltered.
Maybe watching the TV (the news would be a good place to start) wouldn’t be such a bad thing, might make you a bit more aware of what’s actually going on in the world.

YABVU to go off mid scan and hold up the queue. I don’t blame him for being annoyed by that

The only real reason not to swear is because if they’re unhinged enough to rudely confront a stranger and follow them around trying to fight, they may well land you a punch in response. There was the man who was killed in Sainsbury’s, the killer was sentenced a few months ago. Don’t think he even did anything or retaliated.

Other than that, talk of ‘you reduced yourself to his level’ is really silly. Oh no, the bystanders in the queue might… what? Take the man’s side? Because op said fuck? She wasn’t at work, and she didn’t ask to be dragged into the confrontation. She just wanted to get her shopping!

He'd still have had to wait if the member of staff had gone to fetch the item instead of you. Would he have still kicked off? Probably. Not your fault that item was priced incorrectly. You apologised, he still had to carry on with his rant.

I don't blame you in the slightest for snapping at him. Some people think that they can do and say what they please without consequence. Perhaps he'll think twice about running his mouth off next time, the cantankerous old git!

I'm sure if you had let him get away with it, you'd be kicking yourself now.

Don't give it another thought. You reached you limit and you snapped at him. He embarrassed you by shouting at you in front of people and your child in a shop. You put him back in his box. Well done.

As likely to happen as a 31st of February

He maybe was being rude, but your disgusting swearing at him (and in front of your child) was wrong. Curb your language in all situations, please.

Arrived at a check out at Aldi and saw items had been left on the shelf at the far end of the conveyor belt but there was no one in sight. I put my items on the conveyor belt which were scanned and put away by me. Man arrives and starts cursing, calling me a bumboclart (a Caribbean curse). I told him I was fully aware of what he called me, couldn’t care less and suggested he go fuck himself as nobody else would. The checkout assistant smirked, while continuing to scan my shopping. I grinned, paid and left. He definitely wasn’t expecting my response 🤣

🤣🤣🤣🤣 so funny go girl no flies on you 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Putting an entitled wanker in his place - you should be bloody pleased with yourself. Well done!

When I was loading my trolley shopping onto the conveyor belt two customers with baskets joined the queue and I let them go infront of me.

Just before the cashier started putting my items through another customer arrived with a basket.

After I'd paid and was packing my shopping the customer behind me said I was a 🤬 for making her wait and walked off. I normally don't rise to the bait but was so shocked I shouted back very loudly how many customers did she think should be served before me! Not my proudest moment.

Boohoo someone has to wait 2 minutes more for a checkout, it’s no reason to abuse someone.

He was an arsehole, well done for telling him. I’d turn up next week with a scary looking man and see how smart he is then.

But she needed the item and it was priced wrong. What's the alternative? Not being rude, just wondering what you think she should have done that wouldn't have resulted in this grumpy old git moaning about it.

A member of staff could have gone, she could have loaded her things back into the basket, asked for the transaction to be cancelled then gone and got the item. All of which takes time.

She thought running back to get it would be OK, surely we've all done it. Unless there was a massive queue and no other tills on, two minutes is hardly the end of the world in the grand scheme of things.

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