Regret causing a scene in Aldi

[Liiz92]

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

Agreed. And there was no need for OP to swear at him.

"don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.”

So did he swear at you first, point at you etc or just loudly complain you had jump the queue? Your op is not clear whether you objected to his complaining, the " shouting" part or was he verbally abusive for you to respond in kind?

I definitely wouldn't have done this infront of my child. What if your DD now thinks its a good idea?

Don't regret that at all, OP, you stood up to a raging arsehole. Do you think he would have been arguing like that with 6'4 bodybuilder?

Not her fault the item was wrongly priced. If she hadn't changed it, the assistant would have had to. Everyone has had to do a quick dash to change something at one point - bruised veg or leaking milk. It happens. People who get angry about it need to work on their priorities.

If it helps OP, I had an altercation with a man in a supermarket today too. I pulled into the car park and parked next to a big car just as said owner of the big car was walking toward it. I guess my parking in a legitimate space next to his car, inconvenienced him slightly and meant he had to walk approximately 5 steps further to the right instead of across the previously empty space. He threw his hands in the air and muttered something about me being an inconsiderate bitch. He then made a big song and theatrical dance trying to squeeze his very considerable weight into his driver’s side (even though I was parked quite squarely between the white lines) and then reversed out in the huff.

Me thinks that had I been with my 6.4 hulk of a man, he’d have not dared. Same with you really! Some blokes will try it on just because they can.

Thank you, everyone.
I really regret what happened, especially because my DD was with me, even though my back was to her so she didn’t see much except me speaking to the man.
It was an item that was reduced on the sticker but scanned at full price. Because staff were busy, I just wanted to swap it for something else quickly to save them from having to check it or get a manager to adjust the price.
I didn’t put my finger in his face.
I really wish I had behaved differently though and feel gutted about it. I’m not sure why he said he'd see me next Sunday at 4. My only thought is that maybe he was planning to do his shopping just before the store closes next week.

I disagree, swearing at anybody, especially in front of your child, is not acceptable and is making you look worse than a rude man. A calm response would have been fine. (Also, people expect quick service in Aldi and are likely to get annoyed.) I’d be seriously regretting it.

His last comment sounds like a parting joke

But OP retaliated and swore at him which is wrong

Fowl tickled me, maybe op was buying a mumsnet chicken to feed 5000 🐓

Whilst he acted very badly, it’s is incredibly annoying you left the till. In these circumstances you should have bought the remaining shopping and paid, then gone to fetch the other item.

"It was an item that was reduced on the sticker but scanned at full price"

If it was a 30% off sticker or similar due to being close to use by dates , whenever used the self scanner machines a staff member has had to enter the deduction manually.

Which bit of my post said she was at fault for the price of the item? Or that I agreed with the man for being angry?

The staff member on the self serve tills is there for precisely this sort of issue. Did you actually ask them to amend the price?

Yanbu to reply to him when he said you had jumped the queue. You probably didn’t do it in the best way though.
YABU to say ‘I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child’ one because you’ve just shoved your finger in his face and swore yourself in front of your DD but secondly because the interaction was done and you were both leaving the shop and you brought it back up again instead of just leaving. He acted like a dick but so did you

well you certainly set a good example to your daughter, swearing, pointing, and behaving every bit as badly as the man.

Aldi relies on moving people through the tills quickly so I understand why the staff member did that. He shouldn't have had a go at you but you definitely shouldn't have sworn at him in front of DD.

If you have a problem at the till these days, you have to go off and rectify it yourself because the supermarkets no longer employ enough staff for someone to get something for you - it happens all the time. Even if I’ve pointed something out to an employee, like something is leaking or bruised and I hadn’t noticed it previously, they have told me to go and get another one.

I thought this was going to be a reverse.

You made yourself look beyond foolish saying you didn't appreciate him talking to you like that in front of your child, yet you were happy to swear in front of her 🤦‍♀️

Nah, good for you

This. Your behaviour was appalling. Channelling your inner chav doesn't give you the moral ground. Next time let the staff deal with it.

What / why do you regret it?

He was rude. You were more rude.

I think you were both awful.