Regret causing a scene in Aldi

[Liiz92]

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

So fucking what if kids hear grown ups swear. They’ll soon hear it every day, on tv, online, from their friends.
Swearing does not make you a bad person. Acting like a dick makes you a bad person. That man was acting like a dick. We all have to queue, and because we’re not toddlers, we don’t have to kick off about it.
If this happened to me and my 7 year old son was there, and I swore at the man, it would teach my son that a) his mother doesn’t take shit from men, and b) should he ever decide to act like a dick the same as the man, then someone might put him in his place.
Women are not here to be polite and make everything comfortable for people around us. We’ve done it for too long and it’s got us nowhere

What would the red flag be, saying fuck? Genuinely what else? Walking away and not squaring up with child in tow?

They won’t deal with him. I’ve had the same from men in supermarkets. Staff won’t intervene because it can put them at risk.

YABU to regret pulling the prick up on his attitude.

Don't worry about the swearing. The man was totally in the wrong. Aldi staff will usually let you swap an item in this way and you had your shopping waiting at the automatic till. You'd have been better going through the check-out, perhaps, because the swap would have been easier - but that's horrible hindsight!
Good for you for standing up for yourself. I can't understand the man's point at all. Idiot.

all your 7 year old will get from this is it’s acceptable to be shouting and balling and telling people to fuck off great role model
the problem is this attitude becomes ingrained and they see nothing wrong with telling teachers to fuck off at school
then they turn in the same as the man in Aldi

your not preparing them for adulthood as soon as they am start working let’s see how far they get when they tell there boss to fuck off

I had an awful experience in Aldi one time, everyone was watching and I was with two toddlers at the time. I never stood up for myself because I had post natal depression and I was so humiliated and mortified plus I didn’t want a scene in front of my kids so I did nothing.
there’s a few situations where I could have done more but I chose not to for the sake of de-escalation in front of my kids.
I look back now and wish I had stood up for myself and defended myself in those scenarios.
people get away with so much, especially with women , children and young people because we ‘don’t want to cause a scene’, it won’t hurt your child to hear you swear in context on the odd occasion, better than seeing us get walked all over.

the bloke should have found another till or challenged the staff who let you go and replace the item

@rwalker I do swear. Not loads and I try to curb it but I am a swearer.
I literally had his parents evening tonight where the first words out of the teachers mouth were “I love him, he is one of the most polite children I have ever met”. So no, I wouldn’t be teaching him to shout and bawl. I would say it’s the man in OPs situation who has been taught that though. What I am teaching my son is to be polite and respect people. Also I hope I teach him not to take any shit from anyone.
If he says shit now and again, I literally do not… give a shit! He’s polite, caring, gentle and happy. Actions speak louder than words.
There is a boy in his class whose parents are like you, swearing is awful etc. He is such a mean boy, a horrible little thing who will be a bully soon. It’s coming. He doesn’t swear though, so according to you, thats ok?