To be surprised at someone being pregnant at 44

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I would have thought post 35 was rare

I really don't see your point...defies all logic...things like that always exist...so just because of those stories you think it's better not to have an involved grandparents. That's like saying don't have any children as you might not make a good parent.

Yes, that must be the case on your planet. Here, on planet earth, it can still happen after 35. Therefore when you decide to visit planet earth, if you are over 35 and don’t want children, you should take precautions. We look forward to seeing you.

Then it’s not actually “first hand experience “

Teens don’t need to be difficult for it to still be a full on phase of parenting. My teens aren’t difficult/have no behavioural issues… but the years of 14-18 have been our busiest yet in terms of support with emotional issues (break ups/friendship dramas), support with revision, GCSE’s, college applications, university applications, the increase in costs (which is huge) learning to drive, buying a car, 1am party pick ups, hosting mass sleepovers & parties, the constant sport/dance/work etc. It’s not a phase for the faint hearted!

Pedantic moi! Supports my words if that's all you can find to respond. It's a close relative who is living with me at the moment so i do see it first hand

Is it better to have no children if you don't have involved grandparents, or any grandparents at all?

A quickly google shows this really isn’t a MN blip. Women in their 40s are having
more babies than women in their 20s currently.

https://www.adambalen.com/women-over-40-having-more-babies-than-under-20s/

It’s not true that fertility dives off a cliff for all women at 35. In my family women have had babies naturally at 42, 43, 44 and 48. I think it became rarer for women to have babies in their 40s when contraception was made more easily available. For women who had been having baby after baby until they physically couldn’t have any more, contraception was life changing.

With control over their lives, more women have a career before having babies and as the cost of buying a house and paying for childcare goes up, more women are having babies later as they can’t afford to have them any earlier.

Babies born to women in their 40s has risen consistently in the last few decades in England and Wales. There are now more babies born to women in their 40s than to teenage mums.

Right. Yeh I’m sure . That settles it then. You are an expert and can clearly decide what is best for everyone in the world to do regarding family planning based on your vast experience and first hand knowledge

That did make me laugh 😆

It is definitely true. Some women might have a longer fertility cycle than others but it will be the very end of the cycle.
Sadly, many women wait until they’re 35 to start trying to get pregnant without any luck, longterm contraception the pill has to have an impact after fertility too.
If children is something that you truly want then it is better to start trying earlier.

Rare past 35?? The average age for first time mums is now 32. I had mine at 41 and 43, a relative at 45 and a friend had hers at 46. And many of my friends had at least one at 40 or above. Nothing rare about it!

I had my DD at 42. No one at the school gates had any idea how old I was. Most people assume you’re in your 30s if you have a 5 year old. It was assumed that’s how old I was. Same happened to other members in my family who had babies in their 40s. All naturally conceived, much wanted babies. All happy and healthy.

Don’t you see that’s what you are doing 😂. Oh my I’ve touched a nerve here. You are resorting to ridiculous comments .

You are the one who clearly has a chip on your shoulder about something and I don’t know why 😆 No child gives a toss about other kids visiting their grandparents. Dream on love !

I had my 4th at 42

My husband never had any because they were killed in the blitz. They weren't old. Things happen.

Exactly. You talk to other mums who definitely think you're around 10 years younger than you really are.

So you now know what all children think…the great oracle you. Yip I’ve hit a nerve. Go and chill

Same way you know exactly how all parents of teenagers in their 60s feel!! This illustrates your logic perfectly actually. Yeh I’ve clearly hit a nerve with you I don’t know why. Have a nice day!

I had my first at 34 and second a couple of weeks before my 41st birthday, couldn’t imagine having a child when I was in my 20s just seems too young.

I never said that and you know it……twisting things is not a good look…. anyway I’m bowing out now and will leave you to fume. What a laugh you have given me. Please don’t reply I’ve laughed too much already

I tried at 42 and got pregnant the first month. Everyone is different. You raise a good point about contraception. Many women use the longer term contraceptive injections and I do wonder if they have an impact on fertility for some women. Before contraception was available women would easily have babies way into their 40s. I do wonder what it is that has hit fertility so hard now.

Im so sorry to hear this.

Gosh you are easily amused .