To be surprised at someone being pregnant at 44

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I would have thought post 35 was rare

There’s no such thing as a “young” any age. You are the age you are. None of the things you mentioned make any difference to fertility including regular cycle.

Okay good. Now I know what it’s like to be living under a rock all this time….

Not sure why you are picking my posts out. I'm preeeettty sure being healthy and having a regular period cycle are good factors for getting pregnant the last time I checked...

I got pregnant with my first at 38 and my second at 40, lots of friends were similar ages. Not that unusual… if you’d said 50 maybe I’d be surprised… to say your shocked is a bit ott!

No I know no other mum’s at all I live in a vacuum

or alternatively I know lots of mums and most of us had children in our mid to late 30’s

either way the thread was expressing shock my reply was it’s not shocking to me - so not seeing the issue with my post

It's a combination of women having a career and some fun, or to see something of the world before settling down.

And the cost of providing decent housing, or being able to do so on one salary.

I had an international job during my 30s so could hardly be home for school run.

Your post made me laugh, but I do agree with you.

Only on MN are women having kids with no issues mid 40s and upwards.

What of all of about ten posts?
Being “healthy”, sure that would obviously help as opposed to being unhealthy.
Having a regular cycle, from experience, no. Not necessarily indicative that you will find it easy to get pregnant.

@Boots89 being healthy helps but age is a factor with conception, no matter how healthy you are, and the odds of successful conception start to drop after 35

🙃 ok 'Gina'.

I know. I don't need random people on the internet to tell me about pregnancy/getting pregnant.

My great great grandmother had a baby at 50, it was her 10th though.

Ok “boots” 😐

I have 2 DIL'S in their early 40's one gave birth in December aged 44. However the other is having difficulties conceiving it appears to be very much in the lap of the gods

On average- so some women will struggle to conceive at 25 and others have no issues at 40 - that’s how statistics work. Generally over 35 women see a decline but not all women - quite a few don’t

not sure why there are so many cross people on this thread picking out individual posters looking for an argument

except that it nearly 1am and all that

Random people as in mums who may actually have been through ttc, child bearing, childbirth etc?

My dad was born when his mum was 44 over 80y ago.
however i wouldnt be waiting around at 36 to ttc. Even with regular periods.

its normal to take a year to conceive.
And obviously increased risk of Downs.
Something like 1/3 pregnancies end in mc.

While there is a lot of coverage of women who struggle to have babies in their late 30s and 40s, there is much less coverage of the women who have hyper-fertility and who can get pregnant, to use a friend's phrase "by just sitting on a warm cushion".

My family is one such, it must be something genetic. However, it is no joke needing bomb-proof contraception into one's 50s.

My friend had her last baby at 49. She'd had her first at 24 (with the same partner).

Really most of the first time mums i know in my area (finchley) are below 35. However, no one is below 31. We are mostly around the same age bracket-31 to 34.

When i was giving birth in uclh, most of the women in the post labour ward were in their 40s but I had a c section (after failed induction) and stayed a week due to my son's jaundice. My friend who gave birth at the same hospitam said women who were younger were discharged early so it seemed like everyone was older..

I’m 56 and still having periods and have a friend in her 70’s who’s mum had her at 50 @Meadowfinch has a point !

I'm going to sleep now Gina not actually sure what I did to offend but wish you well 🤷‍♀️

I know a fair few mums in their mid 40s having babies
The oldest mum I know was 49, had a very much wanted baby via private IVF

I'm 40 my 4 month old is slamming his legs in his cot while he sleeps. Where i live that's not that rare. I did have ivf though. Which was a long wait to start and long process.

You haven’t offended me in the least. I don’t know what I’ve said that would imply you did.