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The most pernicious secret about Reform

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SeriousFaffing · 06/02/2026 12:05

The results from a YouGov poll in December show quite a large difference between men and women of those who would vote Reform at the beginning of 2026.

This has got me thinking about the split and women’s awareness of Reform.

Agree or not, I’m sure that everyone is aware of the links made between Reform and racism… However, I think that a just as big elephant in the room is what appears as pernicious and deep rooted misogyny… I think that the YouGov poll appears to show that women are subliminally - or very - aware of this fact.

When I think of Reform, I see images of white men chanting “we want our country back”. I think of Farage cosying up to the anti abortionists in the USA (many news articles on this) and I think of Reform’s policies to boost the birth rate.

I wonder about wanting ‘our country back’ being as much about harking back to a time when women were not out at work (taking up jobs) and expecting dinner to be on the table when he comes home. No answering back at home or in the work place. And, you know, ‘Protecting our women’ as though a commodity or object… But only when it suits.

What do you think? Am I unreasonable as a woman to worry about Reform getting into Government?

You are unreasonable - no, as a woman, I am not worried about Reform getting into Government.

You are not being unreasonable - I am worried too.

The most pernicious secret about Reform
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HangingOutAtTheRialto · 07/02/2026 12:51

As has been said many times before, if he gave a shit about trafficking, grooming, rape and sexual assault victims, he wouldn't be big chums with Trump and Nick Candy (in Epstein files) and would be calling for the prosecution of those involved, whatever their political allegiance. He's a grifter. VAWG and safeguarding is just a weapon for him, he uses it to point score. Uses it when it suits his agenda, ignores it when it doesn't. That's not new in politics but it's rarely this transparent.

sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 13:09

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 06/02/2026 14:56

As PPs have pointed out, Reform’s actual position on abortion is pretty mainstream and acceptable to most.

I feel like I need to point out that we are not the US and Reform is not the same as political groups in the US.

The other things you mention ARE lost to women if we are not allowed to be a legal entity separate from all men. Most mainstream parties except Conservatives against us being a legal entity away from men.

I’m not sure our heads that need wobbling.

Actually believing this is incredible. Have you looked at their voting g records? On issues like employment upskirting online reform?
Never mind all the photos and allegiance with tate, trump, Russia etc. And individual, recent tweets...

sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 13:12

EuclidianGeometryFan · 07/02/2026 08:12

I used to support them when their primary concern was the environment. That is also my primary concern.
Their primary concerns now seem to be Palestine and gender politics.

I do not believe transwomen are women, and I do believe women should keep their single sex provisions.

As a socialist, I am politically homeless.

I am with you. I am more centrist, but the environment is the most important thing to me. For everyone's future
Of course, reform call it "net stupid zero"😡 prats

CanalLetty · 07/02/2026 14:32

GaIadriel · 07/02/2026 00:56

Tbf 95% of workplace deaths are male. That's kinda the biggest sacrifice of them all. 99% of women would not be able to hack the job I do in construction.

Sexist dick wad.

SeriousFaffing · 07/02/2026 15:20

sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 13:09

Actually believing this is incredible. Have you looked at their voting g records? On issues like employment upskirting online reform?
Never mind all the photos and allegiance with tate, trump, Russia etc. And individual, recent tweets...

@sleepwouldbenice Agree. Wilfully and selectively sticking their heads in the sand.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 15:25

GaIadriel · 07/02/2026 01:44

Not quite the same as 1200 women being openly assaulted in public, many in front of their powerless husbands. That kind of thing only happens in the middle east usually - arab spring etc.

I've no idea how Reform would stop it. As stated, I'm not a big fan. But events like the one outlined are what are driving people to vote for people like Farage. You could perhaps argue that less asylum seekers would mean less sexual assaults being perpetrated by asylum seekers.

On that basis, let's just get rid of men altogether.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 15:27

moderate · 07/02/2026 08:32

Are you trying to make my point for me?

No, you just misunderstood her point.

Unsurprisingly.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:12

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 12:37

Farage doesn't give a shit about the victims of grooming gangs. He uses them to further his racist agenda. So those supporting him because of grooming gangs are either thick, or racist themselves.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/oct/29/female-survivors-of-grooming-gangs-demand-apology-from-nigel-farage

Are you still trying to make my point for me?

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:13

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 15:27

No, you just misunderstood her point.

Unsurprisingly.

No, you just misunderstood mine.

Entirely predictably.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:17

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:13

No, you just misunderstood mine.

Entirely predictably.

Writing "Are you trying to make my point for me" makes absolutely no sense in the context of what the pp had actually said though. It only makes any sense if you had failed to comprehend her post. Which you obviously did.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:18

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:12

Are you still trying to make my point for me?

Well, if she is trying to make your point for you, it seems that she is failing miserably.😂

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:20

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:17

Writing "Are you trying to make my point for me" makes absolutely no sense in the context of what the pp had actually said though. It only makes any sense if you had failed to comprehend her post. Which you obviously did.

Obviously this is going to be how it looks to someone who fails to comprehend my point.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:21

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:18

Well, if she is trying to make your point for you, it seems that she is failing miserably.😂

In your entirely predictable view.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:23

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:20

Obviously this is going to be how it looks to someone who fails to comprehend my point.

You don't have a point. You just have prejudice and assumptions.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:30

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:23

You don't have a point. You just have prejudice and assumptions.

How old are you? I used to see the world in black and white as you do, but then I grew up.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:31

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:30

How old are you? I used to see the world in black and white as you do, but then I grew up.

Old enough to recognise when someone is lashing out because they don't know what else to say. Wink

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:33

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:12

Are you still trying to make my point for me?

Are you making the point that Farage is a misogynist who doesn't give a shit about the victims of VAWG unless it forwards his racist agenda?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:35

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:33

Are you making the point that Farage is a misogynist who doesn't give a shit about the victims of VAWG unless it forwards his racist agenda?

Ah, perhaps that's it.

If that's the case, @moderate, then I stand corrected.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:39

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:31

Old enough to recognise when someone is lashing out because they don't know what else to say. Wink

The irony!

I’m done here. Arguing with you is starting to feel a bit like bullying a child.

More than anything, I pity you. Reform will come to power and you won’t have a clue why. You’ll think it’s because everyone is either racist or stupid enough to be taken in by racists.

Fare well.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:40

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:33

Are you making the point that Farage is a misogynist who doesn't give a shit about the victims of VAWG unless it forwards his racist agenda?

No.

Anyone can simply read up the quote history to understand my point.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:42

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:40

No.

Anyone can simply read up the quote history to understand my point.

Then I am not making your point for you.🤷‍♀️

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:47

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:39

The irony!

I’m done here. Arguing with you is starting to feel a bit like bullying a child.

More than anything, I pity you. Reform will come to power and you won’t have a clue why. You’ll think it’s because everyone is either racist or stupid enough to be taken in by racists.

Fare well.

Yes, you do come across as being a bit of a bully. Luckily enough, I have enough life experience to understand that it comes from a place of insecurity.

As for what happens if and when Reform is elected, you won't need to pity me, as I already have a Plan B lined up. I have no intention of staying and watching the shitshow unfold, but I will feel very sorry for those who are left behind. Not the racists, but definitely the ones stupid enough to be taken in by racists. It will be awful for them when it gradually dawns on them what they've done.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 17:17

So "done here" @moderate means that you're going to stop posting because yor've realised that your argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny, but you're still going to hang around posting passive aggressive emoji?

sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 17:32

EasternStandard · 06/02/2026 16:35

I think Starmer and Labour are closer and more implicated on that one.

Both can be true
Doesn't excuse Farage

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:03

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/02/2026 21:39

The owner of Reform UK is a racist, antisemitic traitor.

Is that far-right enough for you? If not, the statements and criminal convictions of his party members should do it.

You seem to be straying into libel territory as well.

The BBCs lawyers obviously realised that it was a problem to call them ‘far right’ and they clearly had nothing to back it, otherwise they would have refused to apologise and invited a libel suit if he didn’t like it.

Can you provide evidence of your accusations please.

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