She’s wrecking marriages and not sure what I can do

[ThatCosyMintWriter]

what would you do?
A very distant friend of mine has split from her husband after 30yrs marriage.
She is now sleeping with any man she can get her hands on. Including married ones.
I am not aware of the males names as I would be inclined to inform their wives.
Her behaviour is simply disgusting and the fact she is doing this to fellow females angers me immensely!
should I just mind my own business?
I am not close enough friend to try and reason with her. What else can I do???

First of all id be ending the friendship!

Just because she’s offering, doesn’t mean the males have to take it. They are ruining their own marriages. Dont get me wrong, I would be upset with her too but let’s not forget the men have a choice too.

Stay out of it. Non of your business.

Nothing. You can do nothing except withdraw from the friendship.

You aren’t the guardian of her morals, whether you like them or not.

She's a very distant friend...So, nothing

Why are you using the words "males" and "females" when you mean "men" and "women"? Too many American podcasts about how awful "females" are?

Stop thinking about this person you barely know and read a nice book or something.

All you can do is walk away.
Block her on everything and forget she exists.

My view is that after 30 years of marriage she may well be having quite a hit to her mental health in terms of all the adjustments there are to be made: financial, emotional and social. She may need some support from friends. If you don't feel close enough to her to offer support, then at least stop being so judgemental about her behaviour.

There's nothing you can do.

Why do you feel you need to do" anything?

The men have no agency then? No loyalties to their wives? She’s just a siren and it’s all her doing?

Jeez misogny rule number 1 - women are responsible for what men do. 🙄

You are being very unreasonable. Reflect on your own internalised misogyny and support the sisterhood. Not cheating low life men who will shag anything offered to them.

Those men shouldn't be cheating on their wives. Not your friends fault.

I've yet to meet a man who managed to fall dick first into a woman either unknowingly or unwillingly, so I'd have to say you are being unreasonable by assuming the men in this case are somehow bewitched and at the mercy of your friend.

Is she holding them down and forcing them?

Or are you saying that men are so pathetic they can’t even resist a woman flirting with them?

And the friends who know these men are married shouldn’t entertain them…

It sounds like your friend is in a lot of pain.
She is not wrecking any marriages. If she is sleeping with a married man, it is the married man who is risking his marriage.

Really? Takes 2 to tango…. Yup he is a knob for chasing other women but the other women go with them…

You cant do anything but I could not have anything to do with someone with so little self respect

How on earth do you know the specifics of what a “very distant” friend is up to?

Just tell her you don't want to know of her sordid antics and if she persists in telling you ,distance yourself and let the friendship fizzle out.

Those poor men. Innocently going about their day then forced to cheat on their wives.

Yes it’s wrong but I will say as a single woman that 90% of men who come onto me are married/in relationships. It’s very strange, why don’t single men do it? I say no but most lie about it so you have to play detective and figure out if they are in a couple. She might be in a bad place and just happy with the attention (not excusing it)

The men are making a choice to shag her.

There's nothing you can do. Some distant friend? There are plenty of people out there sleeping around with others who are married etc etc. You can't fix everyone. Concentrate on your life.

Of course it's not right. But it's also nothing to do with you. Just phase her out of your life and forget about it.