She’s wrecking marriages and not sure what I can do

[ThatCosyMintWriter]

what would you do?
A very distant friend of mine has split from her husband after 30yrs marriage.
She is now sleeping with any man she can get her hands on. Including married ones.
I am not aware of the males names as I would be inclined to inform their wives.
Her behaviour is simply disgusting and the fact she is doing this to fellow females angers me immensely!
should I just mind my own business?
I am not close enough friend to try and reason with her. What else can I do???

Those poor men who have been tempted by this woman into cheating! 🙄🙄

The men have a choice but so does your distant friend. She is putting herself at massive risk. as she is not a close friends it’s easy isn’t it you just don’t associate with her

Risk of what?

OP, I'm a man, we do have functioning, if agreeably small brains. These married men she is shagging don't have to shag her.

Their disloyalty and infidelity to their wives trumps her bad behaviour by a country mile - they are cheats and deserve what they get - if it wasn't her it would be someone else.

Yes a woman could bend down naked in front of a man and a good one would walk away. It doesn’t matter if temptation is there, it is always his choice.

@Peoplecoveredinfish of making herself more unhappy when she has calmed down after such a long relationship she is possibly quite vulnerable. meeting strangers always has a slight risk, STI, stats for them are on the increase for older people.

She’s single, they’re not. That doesn’t mean what she’s doing is particularly recommended but the real moral failure lies with cheating men - not a woman who finds herself wanting attending and with a lower respect for marriage than she perhaps once held.

Yes it's the men who are cheating but I do not think it's morally right going after people you know are married. And I absolutely can't stand people who make excuses for that behaviour either.. Half this thread is full of people saying she has don't nothing wrong. I don't get that.
If someone was trying it on with their husbands I'm sure they'd have something to say about the behaviour... But after posting in this thread surely they wouldn't of it were to happen because that would be hypocritical.

I do not think it's morally right going after people you know are married.

Well of course it's not morally right but that's completely irrelevant because if the married people safeguard their own promises, nothing will happen. It's completely up to them. They decide whether or not cheating happens.

If someone was trying it on with their husbands I'm sure they'd have something to say about the behaviour...

I'd say good luck with that. I don't believe she'd succeed and if she did, that's on him. I don't value fidelity that exists only because every woman he tries it on with says no. And if he succumbs, the only words I've got are for him.

Do you not hold yourself 100% responsible for your own faithfulness? Do you think the men you meet are partly responsible for it? If so, how can you be sure you'll never cheat? How can you say that if you don't think it's entirely in your hands?

The fact that it is "of course.. not morally right" for someone to sleep with people they know are married is relevant to this thread. The OP only knows the newly-single person willingly sleeping with multiple married people. The OP is questioning the values and actions of her "friend" and what she should do about it. She doesn't know these married people. Ultimately the OP is not really a true friend of the newly-single person she has started this thread about, so should just withdraw further from an already "distant friendship" and get on with her own life. But questioning how to respond to a situation in which your friend is - willingly, knowingly and repeatedly - participating in behavoiour that harms others is a valid question.

If you don’t respect her because of her choices (and I wouldn’t) then sack her off as a friend. Not much else you can do.

Actually the OP says she doesn't know her well enough to have the conversation. So the whole thread is irrelevant. Someone she hardly knows is shagging people she doesn't know at all. These men shouldn't be doing it, they have made commitments they should be honouring, but they're all consenting adults and it's not illegal. OP can choose to end this acquaintance with the woman, as that's really all it sounds like it is, but that's all. The rest of it is absolutely nothing to do with her.

Not sure I remotely believe this to be honest. And even if it is true, men can say no.

”a very distant friend” I’d say nothing, block her off social media and her number and forget her.

If it was a close friend I’d tell her I don’t agree and say that she needs to stop her behaviour for her own sake, the wives and also if she doesn’t stop from the moment I found out I’d be ending the friendship.

How do you know that what you think is not just rumour? You don’t know who the men are so they might not be married.
If it’s true you can comment but I don’t think it will stop her.

I’d a) be ending the friendship because you don’t respect her but b) not be blaming her for the males cheating. That’s on them.

OP you need to realise you can’t control everything in life you don’t like.

Telling the wives (if you had their details) of a very distant friends affair partners is unhinged.