Am I unreasonable for being offended

[Lola9212]

I am pregnant with my third baby and already have two kind and curious boys. We recently found out I am having a third boy and we are truly excited and delighted. I hadn’t told anyone the gender and asked for final guesses through sharing a black and white photo and scan to my close family. My mother sent me this message:

‘Been out with the girls for dinner, pretty hard to guess from this unisex outfit in black and white. Would love it to be a girl as having daughters I’ve found (most of the time 😂) pretty special but you have beautiful babies and as long as healthy we will be grateful and no matter what will be well loved. 🥰 But would love to know….’

This message hit me a bit for a few reasons. I have a brother (so found it mildly offensive to him), I have two beautiful boys already who are the light of life and my third baby boy on the way. I feel like she should have kept her preferences to herself and I feel defensive of all the boys in my life. Especially because she would have known there was at least 50 percent chance I’m having another boy and it almost feels like she took the moment away by making it clear that in her view a boy is less special. Am I overreacting? She knows we’re having a boy now (we did the reveal in a group chat) and I haven’t acknowledged her message. Any suggestions on how to take this forward?

Why shouldn't she like the idea of a grand daughter this time? Another boy is lovely but a girl would be a twist on a good thing. It's not denigrating to all the boys in her life to say girls are special too. If she'd said I'd really love another boy, I would have been more upset that she favours boys over girls.

I guess that as long as she is doing all the work you can think that you are paying her for 'the job done' rather than per hour. I have had both. When I was paying for the job being done I was less bothered when the cleaner used to stand chatting to me for ages, compared to my cleaner who worked by the hour.

You “take this forward” by doing nothing but responding with a heart to your mom’s message.

Unless you really are spoiling for a fight.

It’s your third!! Just grow it and push it out. Suggestions to take this forward?? Get over yourself , stop treating It like it’s your first rodeo, leave your mum alone, it was a nice message, and It’s genuinely not that exciting , there are only 2 choices. It’s going to be one or the other .

Don’t play weird attention seeking games about your babies sex if you are going to be upset when people respond. And for what it’s worth l think your mums message was sweet.

As most pps have said… you asked for guesses. Your mother was engaging in a conversation you initiated.

But you asked for guesses and your mum gave you a well balanced and tactful answer. YABU.