I squirted my hungover husband in the face with water

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Im 8 weeks pregnant with DC #3 and really struggling with pregnancy sickness, tiredness and headaches - i agreed my DH could go out last night with work colleagues for his leaving do while i picked up DCs, took them swimming, fed and bathed them and put them to bed (and cleaned up then straight to bed myself).
He got back drunk at 1am and didnt get up in the night when 1 DC fell out of bed and then when the other DC needed covers pulled up then later wet themselves. All this i can deal with.
This morning kids wanted to get up at 6am and DH completely refused to get up. Said he wasnt getting up and to leave him alone. I said no way he had to get up with us as im on the verge of vomiting and he needs to be with us to help. He kept refusing. Kids tried to get him up he refused. Told us to fuck off etc. So I took my Evian water bottle and squirted his face and upper back while he was in bed. This made him sit up (he was furious) but he then lay back down so i squirted him again and said id keep doing it until he got up. He did then get up.
I'm not planning to apologise. Was this unreasonable?!

Stop with the clown emojis, you’re both fucking embarrassing yourselves and derailing the thread. Grow up.

Yeah, I agree. Bit late in the game, yes, but better than bringing another child into a shitshow.

Omg, this sounds like you were often left to do it all alone with your children.

They could have saved themselves from a shit load of embarrassment should they have googled it prior to writing such utter nonsense 😃😃

He needs to LTB!

If a man did this to me I would break up with him, no questions. Good luck.

Outrageous! I secretly admire your brass nuts.

Yeah that's not ok. My other half does (or doesn't do) plenty of stuff for me to be angry/furious/upset/frustrated, BUT I would never resort to physical, spiteful punishment/retaliation. You have now just set the new expectations for the relationship.

It’s a public forum, I can do as I please! 🤡

Why couldn’t he have got up and helped? All
he has is a hangover and tiredness.

Both of you didn’t behave well here. The swearing is appalling from him to you. The water pouring is abusive and uncalled for. How would you like it if he did this to you?

Is there more to this story re past behaviour?

You ‘let’ your husband go out for his leaving do? Why do you think you have a say in whether he goes out for the evening? You sound incredibly controlling and totally unreasonable. No wonder he got drunk!

Why would I, a female, have a problem with another female supposedly 'proving me wrong'? Again, if you expect me to believe a cop is going to stand up in court with a straight face and claim assault squirting someone with water or with a milkshake, then you must think I came down in the last shower. The court would erupt in laughter. The pathetic little cop would be laughed out of court. I know the police in the UK are pretty well batshit crazy what with arriving at an airport with 4 armed police to charge a man over a tweet, but actually going to court with 'assault by water squirt' is not something a mentally stable normal cop is going to do, if they value their reputation and their career projection. 😂 Go tell your tall stories elsewhere. That's the last reply I have to you.

I pity you if you or your partner are unable to go out and have a good night without getting hammered to the extent you can’t get up the next morning to your own children.

Its not “controlling” when couples agree with each other which nights one might go out leaving the other flying solo. Its normal. In this case we have a sick woman with two small children who still agreed to cover all the nightshift and evening so that DH could enjoy his night out but found herself caught with the day shift as well whilst feeling sick and a DH who tells his own children to fuck off.

The water - its childish and probably futile but my eyes are rolling at screams of abuse and control (and that would apply if she had been the one to go out get so drunk she couldn’t get up in the morning instead of caring for small children).

Absolutely not ok, at all.

I'm out tonight with friends, there will be drinking, DH will be at home with the kids, I wont be home until after 12. If he dared throw water at me in the morning, at 6 fucking am, he'd be out of the door and the marriage would be over quicker than he could blink.

He will get up with the kids tomorrow, after sorting their tea and taking them to football and doing bedtime tonight with them. He'll 'allow' me to lay in until I get myself up (probably around 8ish) keep the kids downstairs mostly so I'm not disturbed and I'll do the same for him next time he goes out. We're 43, not 18 nor trying to act single.

Yeah, a high profile politician with clout.

You really think constable plod is going to charge someone with throwing a milkshake over their cheating boyfriend for example? Lets get real here.

Is he exhausted and struggling with pregnancy sickness?

If this was a one off for him, i.e. he generally co-parents and does his fair share of mornings and night time stuff, and isn't regularly out to the point of hangovers, I think you are massively unreasonable.

Everyone should be allowed a social life (I hope he gives you chance to go out, albeit obviously not drinking at the moment!) and everyone is allowed the occasional off day even if it is self-inflicted.

I know you are having a rough time, but you should have cut him some slack after his leaving do. And I'm sorry, "weaponizing the kids" does sound like an accurate description, them charging in to see him sounds like a situation you engineered for the chance to either inflict further pain on him, or to access the "your father doesn't want to see you" type lines. The language is dreadful, I'll give you that, but if the guy is usually a good father and husband who is having a one-off off day, I can understand his frustration. The water is surface level quite comedic, but I hope that he stores it up and does the same to you if you one day have a hangover, and I trust you wont cry "abuse!" if he reciprocates.

So, if this is a one-off or rare occurrence, and he's otherwise playing his part, well, this fishwife stuff is why many men call it a day.

If he's regularly pissed up and leaves everything to you, well that's very different.

Is it the last reply because people have attached articles for you to read, where it shows people being charged with exactly what you said they wouldn’t be charged with ? 😂😂 off you pop.

It's fine to get this drunk on your leaving do, a rare occasion.

Are you only supposed to have a thimble of sherry once you're a parent, just in case the person who agreed you can go out decides to be an arsehole the next morning?

I mean, if you have children who you are EQUALLY responsible for, then yes the other parent does need to agree to you going out on a bender! Otherwise what’s to stop you both going out at the same time and a dreadful accident happening?

I must have missed your link where someone was prosecuted for spraying water in the face of a hungover spouse who had told their children to fuck off.

Could you provide it please?

Ah, another dumb poster 😂

Context is key.

It's was a special occasion, not just a random pub night with mates that he goes drinking with every week.

I think you either have to agree that he can get drunk and be hungover the next day, or tell him that you can't cope on your own with the children right now and ask him not to drink on the work do, or just go for one drink and be home relatively early.

What you cannot do is expect someone who got in drunk at 1am to spring out of bed in the morning to help you.

Oh for god’s sake, is this how you want to spend your day? IN THE UK, spraying water in someone's face is considered assault, as it constitutes unwanted, intentional, and offensive physical contact. Even if no injuries occur, such actions are charged as common assault. There are loads of examples online, even if they are not the exact circumstances of this post. You are being ridiculous.